[blindkid] Dealing with selfish behavior

Pui via blindkid blindkid at nfbnet.org
Mon Jun 2 02:23:21 UTC 2014


I have a sighted 9 year old and I could throttle him sometimes! Traci, hang on in there! 

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> On Jun 1, 2014, at 7:09 PM, Arielle Silverman via blindkid <blindkid at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Hi Traci and all,
> 
> While I think that getting blind kids involved in volunteerism is
> great for many reasons, I'm not sure it really addresses her issues
> with behaving selfishly. I suspect that she is acting this way at
> least in part because it is hard for her to take another's
> perspective, as it is for many kids including myself when I was her
> age. I wonder if requiring her to go along on your or her brother's
> errands, for example, might teach her how obnoxious it is when someone
> else is calling all the shots or making her do things she doesn't
> enjoy doing. It could also be a good way to teach compromise, if she
> has to go along on an outing or activity someone else enjoys and she
> doesn't, but then in return if she is cooperative she can choose the
> next outing or activity for the family.
> I also think that sometimes blind kids can put on a bossy front to
> regain control in environments where much of the action is
> inaccessible to them. If all the kids on the playground are playing
> sports that aren't adapted or are excluding a blind child from their
> games, the blind child's best defense may be to come up with
> activities she can do and then demand the other kids join her in those
> activities. It's worth making sure that the popular social activities,
> sports, etc. her peers are participating in are fully accessible so
> she is not limited to just one or two options.
> 
> Best,
> Arielle
> 
>> On 6/1/14, oandemom . via blindkid <blindkid at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>> Oooh, I know just the church thrift store where she can do that!  :)
>> 
>> Thanks for the tip!
>> 
>> Traci
>> 
>> 
>> On Sun, Jun 1, 2014 at 5:46 PM, Marianne Denning <marianne at denningweb.com>
>> wrote:
>> 
>>> I had a blind student and her Mom took her to fold and hang clothes at
>>> a church where people can go to get clothing when they need this help.
>>> It accomplished two things.  The student learned to fold and hang
>>> clothes very well and she learned to give back.  I tell all of my
>>> students that we need to move beyond independence to interdependence.
>>> It is important that blind people give back as well as receive.
>>> 
>>>> On 6/1/14, oandemom . via blindkid <blindkid at nfbnet.org> wrote:
>>>> Hello!  I have a daughter, 9 and VI, who tends to be bossy and selfish.
>>> I
>>>> feel I have to watch her interact with other children b/c she has a
>>> strong
>>>> personality and she wants to control what is being played.  I do my best
>>> on
>>>> this front.   Lately she has been very selfish, unless it is something
>>> that
>>>> benefits her, she isn't interested (you would think she is a teenager!)
>>>> -
>>>> its very frustrating.  We talk about how she isn't allowed to disrupt
>>>> our
>>>> family with her behavior (I do have some guidance from a special
>>>> behavior
>>>> preschool that she attended but I'm going off what I remember back then,
>>>> but she attended mostly due to her social skills) - that she has to be a
>>>> helpful part of this family and do as she is told, etc.  Today, I have
>>> been
>>>> reduced to making her write something 100 times because I just don't
>>>> know
>>>> what to do with her anymore.
>>>> 
>>>> I am trying to find some volunteer opportunities to have her give of her
>>>> time to help others and to think of others, but I know she will think it
>>> is
>>>> fun, b/c she is "working"  - she loves to work.  She may like it for 5
>>> min
>>>> and then be done, so it may actually work out okay, but I need to try
>>>> it.
>>>> I thought of soup kitchens, but she won't get that visual effect that is
>>>> what I'm really looking for to make her have an appreciation of what she
>>>> does have.
>>>> 
>>>> I don't really think taking things away from her will work, b/c she
>>> doesn't
>>>> even know half the stuff in her room, she is so out of sight, out of
>>> mind.
>>>> 
>>>> Does anyone know of any volunteer activities that they have done or seen
>>>> that a 9 year could be included in and really get something out of it.
>>> We
>>>> talk all the time about how there are many kids who don't have what she
>>>> has, etc etc, but it just doesn't click with her, as I'm sure it doesn't
>>>> for many kids her age.
>>>> 
>>>> I would appreciate ANY suggestions!!!
>>>> 
>>>> Thanks,
>>>> Traci
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>>> --
>>> Marianne Denning, TVI, MA
>>> Teacher of students who are blind or visually impaired
>>> (513) 607-6053
>> 
>> 
>> 
>> --
>> Traci Wilkerson
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