[Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind

trishs slosser at metrocast.net
Wed May 27 16:14:38 UTC 2009 

In Eastern medicine it's called a meridian.  There are energy 
channels which correspond to each body organ, which Eastern 
cultures have mapped for about as long as there's been medicine.

> ----- Original Message -----
>From: "Jeffrey Schwartz" <sidney.schwartz at sbcglobal.net
>To: "'NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>Date sent: Tue, 26 May 2009 21:09:33 -0400
>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind

>What in the world is an "energy Pathway"

>-----Original Message-----
>From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org 
[mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>Behalf Of trishs
>Sent: Tuesday, May 26, 2009 11:51 AM
>To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind

>As far as "across the board answers", and people getting "mad",
>we each have the power and self responsibility to say I'm
>uncomfortable with that," or "Stop it! That's inappropriate!"  Or
>"Could you do that again?"  I feel as though I can speak for most
>people when I say that we have all been in situations where a
>person's touch "creeped us out", or made us want more.  There are
>many types of touch, and it is ALL ABOUT INTENSION, which is
>carried through invisible energy pathways.
>There are also times when we misunderstand, or misinterpret
>someone's touch.  It can be difficult to navigate these energy
>pathways, so your power is in your own intension for your own
>comfort level.

>> ----- Original Message -----
>>From: "Steve P.  Deeley" <stevep.deeley at insightbb.com
>>To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>Date sent: Tue, 26 May 2009 08:47:07 -0400
>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind

>>It has nothing to do with blindness in my case.  I just hate
>being touched.

>>Steve
>>----- Original Message -----
>>From: "dewey bradley" <dewey.bradley at gmail.com
>>To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>Sent: Monday, May 25, 2009 8:40 PM
>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind


>>> Allot of sighted people think that they can't talk to us without
>putting
>>> there hands on us.
>>> The thing is allot of people like my self really hate to be
>touched, When
>>> we
>>> ask them to please take there hands off, they get mad.
>>> I guess there is no across the board answer for things like
>this.
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Steve P.  Deeley" <stevep.deeley at insightbb.com
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>> Sent: Monday, May 25, 2009 10:42 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind


>>>> This is a very complicated topic.  There are those, like me, who
>don't
>>>> like being touched during conversations with individuals I
>really don't
>>>> know very well.  I'm wondering if blind individuals understand
>spacial
>>>> concepts during conversations.  You don't want to be too close
>during a
>>>> conversation or too far away.  I suspect most of us who
>understand this
>>>> art have had some coaching from sighted individuals whom they
>trust.
>>>> \
>>>> Steve
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: "trishs" <slosser at metrocast.net
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 24, 2009 10:46 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind


>>>>>I was raised giving and receiving warm hand shakes, or in some
>>>>> situations, embraces and or kisses, all of which seem to me to
>be
>>>>> quite germ spreading!  I like the bowing idea a lot!

>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>>From: Joel Zimba <jzimba at cavtel.net
>>>>>>To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List <blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>Date sent: Sat, 23 May 2009 17:08:35 -0400
>>>>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings; Behaviors in adults blind

>>>>>>Hi,

>>>>>>I love these kinds of topics.  I believe the issue of blind or
>>>>> sighted
>>>>>>is mostly meaningless when it comes to whether you should touch
>>>>> someone
>>>>>>or not.  It comes down more to how comfortable you are with what
>>>>> you are
>>>>>>doing and your motivation for it.

>>>>>>The examples of folks talking with their hands is a great one.
>>>>> It's not
>>>>>>so much that they talk with their hands, but that touching is a
>>>>> means of
>>>>>>communication.  In fact, if you are comfortable enough with
>>>>> yurself to
>>>>>>touch someone else while speaking to them, you'll pull them into
>>>>> your
>>>>>>paradigm.  This is common wisdom in the sales world.

>>>>>>For the blind among us, (myself included) this is most easily
>>>>> donw with
>>>>>>the back of the hand and making solid contact.

>>>>>>When it comes to shaking hands, I decided to take the initiative
>>>>> early
>>>>>>and often.  When someone doesn't take my hand, I leave it out
>>>>> there and
>>>>>>then eventually start snapping my fingers.  This calls attention
>>>>> to the
>>>>>>fact that the other people are not playing the social game.  I
>>>>> was
>>>>>>taught that it is not obligatory for women to shake hands.  Long
>>>>> ago I
>>>>>>decided that if women want equal rights, they can do the glad
>>>>> handing as
>>>>>>well, so I expect them to shake and I do the snapping as well.  I
>>>>>>sometimes let the elderly off the hook, though oddly, the older
>>>>> someone
>>>>>>is, the more likely they are to initiate or take my hand.  Proper
>>>>>>conduct seems to not always be taught to the younger generation.
>>>>> Maybe
>>>>>>we all need to go back to finishing school.

>>>>>>Now, if someone could explain the bowing protocol to me so that
>>>>> my Asian
>>>>>>friends would be surprised and pleased by my manners, I would be
>>>>> very
>>>>>>greatful.

>>>>>>Joel

>>>>>>On 5/23/2009 12:40 PM, Jeffrey Schwartz wrote:
>>>>>>> Hi Gerardo,
>>>>>>> I am also blind as a result of RP and a clinical psychologist.
>>>>> My vision
>>>>>>> deteriorated at a different pace.  I drove a car until I was 27
>>>>> and did not
>>>>>>> require adaptive technology to read and write until I was about
>>>>> 40.  Now, at
>>>>>>> 61, I have little more than light perception.  When younger, I
>>>>> was often
>>>>>>> embarrassed when my wife kindly noted that someone was reaching
>>>>> out to shake
>>>>>>> my hand and I was not noticing.  Eventually, I learned to avoid
>>>>> this problem
>>>>>>> by taking the initiative.  On occasion I reach out to discover
>>>>> that the
>>>>>>> person has quickly turned their back or departed, no big deal.
>>>>> I have had
>>>>>>> no experience with the touching.  There are cultural differences
>>>>> in such
>>>>>>> nonverbal behaviors.  For example, cultures vary in terms of
>>>>> what is
>>>>>>> regarded as personal space.  Groups vary in terms of how close
>>>>> they stand to
>>>>>>> each other when speaking, and also with regard to touching which
>>>>> is common
>>>>>>> in some cultures and taboo in others.  Perhaps your blindness
>>>>> has led you to
>>>>>>> exceed what is common in your culture or your parents may have
>>>>> felt bad for
>>>>>>> you when they saw you reach out to touch someone and the person
>>>>> had
>>>>>>> departed.  There are also a group of behaviors known as
>>>>> blindisms.  We all
>>>>>>> conduct little rituals of personal hygiene when alone which we
>>>>> would not do
>>>>>>> in front of others.  There is a tendency, particularly if one
>>>>> loses their
>>>>>>> vision gradually to assume that others see as we do.  I am often
>>>>> surprised
>>>>>>> by what others can see.  We assume that if we can't see
>>>>> something others can
>>>>>>> not either.  This can lead us to embarrass ourselves by
>>>>> performing these
>>>>>>> grooming rituals in public.  Recently, I have noticed that when
>>>>> I am walking
>>>>>>> and thinking about a conversation which I had or will have with
>>>>> someone, I
>>>>>>> am moving my lips as if I were speaking.  I am working on
>>>>> suppressing this
>>>>>>> behavior as I am certain that the sighted would see it as
>>>>> strange.  Behavior
>>>>>>> is so ritualized, and blindness can lead us to engage in some
>>>>> peculiar ones.
>>>>>>> As professionals, in particular, we don't want to be seen as odd
>>>>> or
>>>>>>> idiosyncratic.
>>>>>>> Jeff

>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>> [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>>>>>>> Behalf Of Cindy Handel
>>>>>>> Sent: Saturday, May 23, 2009 9:55 AM
>>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Talk Mailing List
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Greetings;Behaviors in adults blind

>>>>>>> Gerardo,

>>>>>>> Most of the time, when I would like to shake the hand of a
>>>>> sighted person, I

>>>>>>> just extend my hand and they grasp it and we shake hands.

>>>>>>> As far as touching the arm of people, I've never done this.
>>>>> When do you do
>>>>>>> this?  If you're talking with someone, it shouldn't be
>>>>> necessary, since
>>>>>>> they're participating in the conversation.  I think we've all
>>>>> experienced a
>>>>>>> time when we're talking to someone and learn that they walked
>>>>> away.  Now, if

>>>>>>> you're referring to touching a person's arm to make sure they're
>>>>> still there

>>>>>>> as a way to insure that you still have their attention, that's
>>>>> something
>>>>>>> different.  I have met sighted people who talk with their hands
>>>>> and touch my

>>>>>>> arm or shoulder, for emphasis.  So, that might not be so
>>>>> unusual.

>>>>>>> Cindy
>>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>>> From: "Gerardo Corripio"<gera1027 at prodigy.net.mx
>>>>>>> To: "Blind-Talk"<blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>> Sent: Friday, May 22, 2009 11:35 PM
>>>>>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] Greetings;Behaviors in adults blind


>>>>>>> Hi listers:
>>>>>>> I'm Gerardo from Mexico; 31 years old and a Psychologist working
>>>>> on my own
>>>>>>> in my private practice.
>>>>>>> Hopefully I'll be able to learn lots of great things from you
>>>>> guys,
>>>>>>> especially of the NFB way of viewing and living with blindness.
>>>>>>> Now for my debut question: I've been blind all my life due to
>>>>> RP; since I
>>>>>>> was a teenager I remember developing a habbit of touching the
>>>>> arm of the
>>>>>>> people constanly to be sure he/she was still there.  I continued
>>>>> to do this
>>>>>>> into adulthood until my family made the observation that this
>>>>> behavior isn't
>>>>>>> seen well by the sighted only a few days ago.  I'm still shocked
>>>>> by this
>>>>>>> observation to the point that now how to know if the person is
>>>>> still there?
>>>>>>> Yes, the voice gives feedback but when people talk it feels as
>>>>> if they're
>>>>>>> there but aren't there.  How have you coped with this situation
>>>>> in that you
>>>>>>> have to get rid of the habbit before-mentioned? Surely it has
>>>>> happened to
>>>>>>> some of you?
>>>>>>> also when shaking hands with sighted people how to find the hand
>>>>> to shake if
>>>>>>> the sighted person doesn't take the initiative?
>>>>>>> As you can see I've still have lots of tips and tricks to learn
>>>>> about
>>>>>>> blindness, thus my interest in joining the list.
>>>>>>> Gerardo


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