[Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support

[Ray Foret Jr]

How come I sense a Monitor article growing out of this discussion?  I think one could be put together farily decently based on this thread.

After all, Garry's recent stories of this morning and that one from Dianne just now could b e used to serve as the basis for something.


Sincerely, 
The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!

Now A Very Proud and very happy Mac user!!!

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On Dec 13, 2010, at 1:31 PM, Graves, Diane wrote:

> Hi Gary,
> 
> Well, I was debating, but, having seen your story, I feel compelled to post the lesson I learned just a couple of hours or so ago, as well.
> 
> I learned that I might not want to get too "full of myself," and start by giving folks the benefit of the doubt. I was on my way down to the cafeteria deep in thought, even singing to myself, (very quietly, of course LOL) and I stopped by the ATM machine. I have the sequence memorized so that I can withdraw from checking. Well, I did my business and walked away from the machine.
> 
> I hear this lady saying "ma'am? Ma'am?" Although I didn't know for sure, I  thought that she was probably talking to me, and, based on past interchanges, I  figured that she was going to tell me that I was about to run into the closed door that I knew was there.  I continued to walk, justifying my action by the fact that I didn't know for sure that she was talking to me. 
> 
> Then, all of the sudden I hear this "hey, blind lady? Blind lady?" This  of course irritated me even more, but I finally turned around and acknowledged her. 
> 
> As it happened, I was so lost in thought, that I had left my card in the machine. Had I continued to ignore or be rude to her, I would likely have found myself in some serious trouble. This experience has definitely given me back a dose of humility, and reminded me that while we do not have to give up our dignity, we do need to maintain an even balance.
> 
> 
> Diane Graves
> Civil Rights Specialist
> Indiana Civil Rights Commission
> Alternative Dispute Resolutions Unit
> 317-232-2647
> 
> "It is service that measures success."
> George Washington Carver
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Gary Wunder
> Sent: Monday, December 13, 2010 1:39 PM
> To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support
> 
> I like this post about people who are affirming to everyone.  Since my last
> post told a story about a driver who offended me, I should be fair and tell
> a story about a driver who should have been offended at my conduct.  Several
> years ago a friend of mine, learning that I was paying a fairly high rate to
> go to and from work, decided that she would offer me a ride home.  I thanked
> her, thinking this would be a one time deal, and it turned out that we rode
> together for several years.  She wouldn't take a dime.  Once in a great
> while she would take a lunch or some kind of gift, but she really did not
> want us to have anything like a paid relationship based on transportation.
> In her mind I was right on her way, she was glad to help.
> 
> About a week into our transportation arrangement, I noticed that she would
> quickly jump in her car, slide over, and open my door.  That bothered me
> since I was perfectly capable of opening the door myself.  Because she was
> so friendly in offering me a ride, I wanted to deal with this in a tactful
> way but wasn't quite sure how to do it.  The longer I thought, the longer
> this went on, and it's a little like not knowing someone's name: if you ask
> right off the bat who it is, you know, but after you've talked with them for
> five or 10 minutes, it's awfully difficult to admit this person is a
> stranger to you.
> 
> It turns out that on this particular truck, there was no way for her to
> unlock the door short of actually using the door handle.  She was only doing
> for me what she would do for any passenger in her vehicle.  I put a lot of
> mental energy into worrying about an issue which wasn't an issue at all.  I
> took a slight where none was intended or given.
> 
> 
> 
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