[Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support

Mon Dec 13 20:21:44 UTC 2010

I bet if one of you were to try to put it together, you would have the ear
of the Editor, but frankly, I'm not yet certain about how much I should
author and how much I should edit what others author. I do believe that
these kinds of philosophical discussions belong in the Monitor if we can
make them look like articles.

Warmly,

Gary

P.S. Which story?

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From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Ray Foret Jr
Sent: Monday, December 13, 2010 1:44 PM
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support

How come I sense a Monitor article growing out of this discussion?  I think
one could be put together farily decently based on this thread.

After all, Garry's recent stories of this morning and that one from Dianne
just now could b e used to serve as the basis for something.

Sincerely,
The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!

Now A Very Proud and very happy Mac user!!!

Skype Name:
barefootedray

On Dec 13, 2010, at 1:31 PM, Graves, Diane wrote:

> Hi Gary,
> 
> Well, I was debating, but, having seen your story, I feel compelled to
post the lesson I learned just a couple of hours or so ago, as well.
> 
> I learned that I might not want to get too "full of myself," and start by
giving folks the benefit of the doubt. I was on my way down to the cafeteria
deep in thought, even singing to myself, (very quietly, of course LOL) and I
stopped by the ATM machine. I have the sequence memorized so that I can
withdraw from checking. Well, I did my business and walked away from the
machine.
> 
> I hear this lady saying "ma'am? Ma'am?" Although I didn't know for sure, I
thought that she was probably talking to me, and, based on past
interchanges, I  figured that she was going to tell me that I was about to
run into the closed door that I knew was there.  I continued to walk,
justifying my action by the fact that I didn't know for sure that she was
talking to me. 
> 
> Then, all of the sudden I hear this "hey, blind lady? Blind lady?" This
of course irritated me even more, but I finally turned around and
acknowledged her. 
> 
> As it happened, I was so lost in thought, that I had left my card in the
machine. Had I continued to ignore or be rude to her, I would likely have
found myself in some serious trouble. This experience has definitely given
me back a dose of humility, and reminded me that while we do not have to
give up our dignity, we do need to maintain an even balance.
> 
> 
> Diane Graves
> Civil Rights Specialist
> Indiana Civil Rights Commission
> Alternative Dispute Resolutions Unit
> 317-232-2647
> 
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> George Washington Carver
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> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
> On Behalf Of Gary Wunder
> Sent: Monday, December 13, 2010 1:39 PM
> To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support
> 
> I like this post about people who are affirming to everyone.  Since my 
> last post told a story about a driver who offended me, I should be 
> fair and tell a story about a driver who should have been offended at 
> my conduct.  Several years ago a friend of mine, learning that I was 
> paying a fairly high rate to go to and from work, decided that she 
> would offer me a ride home.  I thanked her, thinking this would be a 
> one time deal, and it turned out that we rode together for several 
> years.  She wouldn't take a dime.  Once in a great while she would 
> take a lunch or some kind of gift, but she really did not want us to have
anything like a paid relationship based on transportation.
> In her mind I was right on her way, she was glad to help.
> 
> About a week into our transportation arrangement, I noticed that she 
> would quickly jump in her car, slide over, and open my door.  That 
> bothered me since I was perfectly capable of opening the door myself.  
> Because she was so friendly in offering me a ride, I wanted to deal 
> with this in a tactful way but wasn't quite sure how to do it.  The 
> longer I thought, the longer this went on, and it's a little like not 
> knowing someone's name: if you ask right off the bat who it is, you 
> know, but after you've talked with them for five or 10 minutes, it's 
> awfully difficult to admit this person is a stranger to you.
> 
> It turns out that on this particular truck, there was no way for her 
> to unlock the door short of actually using the door handle.  She was 
> only doing for me what she would do for any passenger in her vehicle.  
> I put a lot of mental energy into worrying about an issue which wasn't 
> an issue at all.  I took a slight where none was intended or given.
> 
> 
> 
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