[Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support

[Ray Foret Jr]

Both of your stories and Dianne's story about forgetting her card.  Her original story, the one that really  started this thread, that would be the one to start off with.


Sincerely, 
The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!

Now A Very Proud and very happy Mac user!!!

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On Dec 13, 2010, at 2:21 PM, Gary Wunder wrote:

> I bet if one of you were to try to put it together, you would have the ear
> of the Editor, but frankly, I'm not yet certain about how much I should
> author and how much I should edit what others author. I do believe that
> these kinds of philosophical discussions belong in the Monitor if we can
> make them look like articles.
> 
> Warmly,
> 
> Gary
> 
> P.S. Which story?
> 
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Ray Foret Jr
> Sent: Monday, December 13, 2010 1:44 PM
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support
> 
> How come I sense a Monitor article growing out of this discussion?  I think
> one could be put together farily decently based on this thread.
> 
> After all, Garry's recent stories of this morning and that one from Dianne
> just now could b e used to serve as the basis for something.
> 
> 
> Sincerely,
> The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!
> 
> Now A Very Proud and very happy Mac user!!!
> 
> Skype Name:
> barefootedray
> 
> On Dec 13, 2010, at 1:31 PM, Graves, Diane wrote:
> 
>> Hi Gary,
>> 
>> Well, I was debating, but, having seen your story, I feel compelled to
> post the lesson I learned just a couple of hours or so ago, as well.
>> 
>> I learned that I might not want to get too "full of myself," and start by
> giving folks the benefit of the doubt. I was on my way down to the cafeteria
> deep in thought, even singing to myself, (very quietly, of course LOL) and I
> stopped by the ATM machine. I have the sequence memorized so that I can
> withdraw from checking. Well, I did my business and walked away from the
> machine.
>> 
>> I hear this lady saying "ma'am? Ma'am?" Although I didn't know for sure, I
> thought that she was probably talking to me, and, based on past
> interchanges, I  figured that she was going to tell me that I was about to
> run into the closed door that I knew was there.  I continued to walk,
> justifying my action by the fact that I didn't know for sure that she was
> talking to me. 
>> 
>> Then, all of the sudden I hear this "hey, blind lady? Blind lady?" This
> of course irritated me even more, but I finally turned around and
> acknowledged her. 
>> 
>> As it happened, I was so lost in thought, that I had left my card in the
> machine. Had I continued to ignore or be rude to her, I would likely have
> found myself in some serious trouble. This experience has definitely given
> me back a dose of humility, and reminded me that while we do not have to
> give up our dignity, we do need to maintain an even balance.
>> 
>> 
>> Diane Graves
>> Civil Rights Specialist
>> Indiana Civil Rights Commission
>> Alternative Dispute Resolutions Unit
>> 317-232-2647
>> 
>> "It is service that measures success."
>> George Washington Carver
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>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>> On Behalf Of Gary Wunder
>> Sent: Monday, December 13, 2010 1:39 PM
>> To: 'Blind Talk Mailing List'
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Needing Feedback and Support
>> 
>> I like this post about people who are affirming to everyone.  Since my 
>> last post told a story about a driver who offended me, I should be 
>> fair and tell a story about a driver who should have been offended at 
>> my conduct.  Several years ago a friend of mine, learning that I was 
>> paying a fairly high rate to go to and from work, decided that she 
>> would offer me a ride home.  I thanked her, thinking this would be a 
>> one time deal, and it turned out that we rode together for several 
>> years.  She wouldn't take a dime.  Once in a great while she would 
>> take a lunch or some kind of gift, but she really did not want us to have
> anything like a paid relationship based on transportation.
>> In her mind I was right on her way, she was glad to help.
>> 
>> About a week into our transportation arrangement, I noticed that she 
>> would quickly jump in her car, slide over, and open my door.  That 
>> bothered me since I was perfectly capable of opening the door myself.  
>> Because she was so friendly in offering me a ride, I wanted to deal 
>> with this in a tactful way but wasn't quite sure how to do it.  The 
>> longer I thought, the longer this went on, and it's a little like not 
>> knowing someone's name: if you ask right off the bat who it is, you 
>> know, but after you've talked with them for five or 10 minutes, it's 
>> awfully difficult to admit this person is a stranger to you.
>> 
>> It turns out that on this particular truck, there was no way for her 
>> to unlock the door short of actually using the door handle.  She was 
>> only doing for me what she would do for any passenger in her vehicle.  
>> I put a lot of mental energy into worrying about an issue which wasn't 
>> an issue at all.  I took a slight where none was intended or given.
>> 
>> 
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