[Blindtlk] Questions concerning how people look like
Julie J
julielj at windstream.net
Fri Feb 26 17:30:06 UTC 2010
I am not into face touching. the only person whose face I have ever felt in
the manner you describe was my son when he was very little. I feel like the
only things that I'm missing out on by not touching faces are things that I
really don't care about anyway. I can tell if a person is smiling or
laughing in their voice. I can tell if a person is only half way paying
attention to me in their voice. How much acne they have, whether or not they
wear glasses or have a beard are not really important to me.
the man who is now my husband and I had been on several dates before I
thought to ask a friend about his appearance. It really didn't matter to me
much. I suppose it was more a curiosity than anything else. The vague,
"oh he's good looking." didn't help much and it definitely didn't change the
way I felt about him.
Perhaps if we're talking about teen agers or college aged kids who aren't
too interested in an actual relationship, but more a fashion accessory
partner, then maybe physical appearance is more important. I don't know.
Julie
----- Original Message -----
From: "Ray Foret jr" <rforetjr at comcast.net>
To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Friday, February 26, 2010 4:17 AM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Questions concerning how people look like
> Umberto,
>
> Let me begin by dispelling the idea you seem to have in your head that the
> looks of a person are everything. this, I assure you, is not so. Yes,
> looks are important, and, it goes without saying that you yourself should
> look at least presentable. Now, as to knowing how someone looks, I would
> say to you that you should not base your decision on just how the other
> person looks. But, let's start with the question of facing the other
> person.
>
> In this case, all you need really to do is to turn in the direction of the
> person's voice; and, this will put you facing that other person. But,
> even if the other person is not speaking, you can usually tell where they
> are and if you begin by saying hello, their answer back will instantly
> give you all the information you really need to do this.
>
> As for feeling other people's faces, wow! You really want to avoid doing
> that for sure; that is, unless you don't mind the prospect of getting your
> own face slapped. Man, that's something right out of a horror film from
> the 1930's. The sound of the person's voice will tell you quite a lot
> about that person. In fact, I believe that a person's voice gives away
> much more about that person than they ever realize.
> Otherwise, you can find out some fact about the other person which you
> will find you have in common with them and use this as a starting point.
> Let me give you a personal example of what I mean. My girlfriend and I
> met on an e-mail list serve. One night, I wrote her just to say "hi", and
> she answered me back by pointing out that she noticed my e-mail signature
> and said that she too loves to go barefooted all the time. Well, that was
> the factor we have in common which served as a kind of jumping off point,
> if you will. We just took it from there. While her voice was not what I
> was hoping it would be, we were too much occupied with the task of
> deciding whether or not we could have a relationship. When we did in fact
> first see each other in person, we knew that it would work. In fact,
> she's on this list; and so, she may well have a thing or two to add in
> this regard. I am told, by various family members and other friends who
> have seen her that she is very beautiful. But, even if they had not so
> informed me, she would still be beautiful to me; even if her face and body
> were ghastly in appearance. You see, it's what's on the inside of a
> person that really matters. That's where you really want to focus.
> Sincerely,
> The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!
>
> Now a Mac user!!!
>
> e-mail:
> rforetjr at comcast dot net
>
> Skype:
> barefootedray
>
> On Feb 25, 2010, at 7:50 PM, hmp wrote:
>
>> TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:
>>
>> I'm very sure everyone in this mailing list is blind. Maybe some of
>> you are not. And well, I have a curiosity, or a question, that maybe you
>> can answer for me and if it is not that intimidating:
>> As you know, sighted people tend to look at each other's face, or
>> perhaps most of the body movements and the hands, while they're talking
>> to each other. For example, when somebody is talking and facing another
>> person, that person faces that other person, and he or she can look at
>> the person's face. In addition, this does not happen when they are
>> talking only; the person can just look at that other person, E.G. a boy
>> says "hello" to a girl perhaps, and he looks at her because she is pretty
>> (or she perhaps isn't) and he looks at her smile and he knows what she
>> looks like. He can maybe remember her just through all those details of
>> her. Furthermore, there are more case-scenarios out there that are very
>> similar to this one.
>> While sighted people do this, as far as blind people are concerned, is
>> there any way a blind person can do the same things just like the
>> sighted? Can a blind person tell how someone looks like by some technique
>> or some information? If I want to know how someone looks like, what can I
>> do? Sometimes I think that probably by touching faces I can get a general
>> detail of what he/she is like, but some people may see this as an
>> offensive thing. I have just a little bit of vision (mostly out of the
>> corner of my right eye), but I cannot see well enough to see these
>> things. I can only see very close objects or people. But anyways, if, for
>> example, I meet a nice girl and she says hello to me, and she carries out
>> a conversation with me. How can I get the physical description of her?
>> How do I know if she is just smiling without laughing? How do I know what
>> her hair looks like? maybe she has a pointy nose, a big/small mouth, and
>> probably really all straight and white teeth! How can I know these
>> things? I could perhaps ask her, "What do you look like?" but I've had
>> bad experiences asking that question, although some people are kind and
>> they tell me. Again, I don't see any bad thing by touching people's
>> faces, however, I'm not sure if I should totally do it because of an
>> offense or just being disrespectful.
>> I am asking this question just for curiosity, and I'd like to see what
>> you think about this. Any feedback and comments about this topic are
>> welcome. I'd like to find out what other blind people have done to
>> accomplish well this situation.
>>
>> Thank you and have a very lucky day!
>>
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