[Blindtlk] To Cane or Not To Cane?

Sun Feb 27 22:34:04 UTC 2011

I just returned from San Antonio TX, and was with my friend, but I to
used my cane often, even in crowds, especially in crowds, and alot of
the time, I tried to just walk near her.

On 2/27/11, Marion Gwizdala <blind411 at verizon.net> wrote:
> Jessica,
>     when I was dating my ex-wife who is sighted, she would always encourage
> me to put my cane away when we were together and just hold her hand. One day
> we were walking through the mall and she turned to look at something. Just
> as she did, she ran me into one of those metal signs a business had parked
> in the walkway. It fell to the ground with a crash that was probably heard
> from one end of the mall to the other. "That's why I use my cane!" I told
> her as I took it out of my pocket and unfolded it. She never complained
> about me using my cane after that.
>     I would still hold her hand and she would give me direction through our
> hand-holding but I used my cane in conjunction with her sighted guide. Still
> today, whenever I use sighted guide, I always use my cane too!
>
> fraternally yours,
> Marion Gwizdala
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Jessica Kostiw" <jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>; "'Pamela Allen'"
> <pallen at lcb-ruston.com>
> Sent: Sunday, February 27, 2011 4:41 PM
> Subject: [Blindtlk] To Cane or Not To Cane?
>
>
>> Hello List,
>> This is Jessica Kostiw.  I have been on this list for quite a while,
>> but do not post very often.  I am hoping to get some good advice on an
>> issue
>> that I am sure we have all faced.
>>
>> I am a Louisiana Center for the Blind graduate, and well appreciate the
>> important of the travel skills I acquired there.
>> If you are like me though, the significant majority of your time is spent
>> with other sighted people.  My longtime boyfriend Jon is sighted.  He has
>> actually purchased a cane from the NFB and wants to go under sleep shades
>> to
>> see what it is like.  The thing is on the one hand he is very supportive,
>> but more and more when we are together in a store or something would very
>> much rather that I just take his hand.  He says it's quicker and makes
>> more
>> sense, but I want to be able to be independent.  I don't see why he can't
>> just walk by me and give me directions or something.  When we do that
>> though, he says he feels like he is just calling a dog.  He may as well
>> ring
>> a cowbell.  He can't keep up chatter all the time and becomes harder for
>> me
>> to follow.  People give dirty looks like "why isn't that guy helping that
>> blind lady?"  Part of me understands what he is saying, I have heard the
>> same arguments from my mom.  My sister is so impatient and always just
>> insists that I take her elbow.  I live in Virginia.  There is no public
>> transportation where I live, and I am concerned that always being around
>> sighted people with this attitude will eventually cause me to lose my
>> skills.  This Email is focusing on the situation with Jon only because I
>> am
>> concerned about our future.  We are definitely working towards marriage
>> and
>> children and all that and I don't want to feel like I am completely
>> dependent on my husband and can't equally contribute when we take any
>> future
>> children out in public.  We have already agreed that we will live in an
>> area
>> with good public transportation so I won't feel dependent and can do
>> things
>> on my own, but again what about when we are together?   Do I have to
>> sacrifice my independence to make it easier on him?
>>
>> Any incite would be greatly appreciated!!
>> Jessica
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Chris Judd
>> Sent: Thursday, February 10, 2011 2:31 AM
>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] [PM] Facebook with jaws
>>
>> I tried accessing the facebook lite site, and it worked.
>> http://lite.facebook.com
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Bonnie Lucas" <lucas.bonnie at gmail.com>
>> To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Thursday, February 10, 2011 12:47 AM
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] [PM] Facebook with jaws
>>
>>
>> Not sure what has happened but we discovered the same thing today as well.
>> Perhaps it is something that will be fixed soon. My daughter and I tried
>> everything to get it to let us click on things but it would not. Not sure
>> what's up!
>> Bonnie
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of humberto
>> Sent: Wednesday, February 09, 2011 7:35 PM
>> To: gui-talk at nfbnet.org; nfbcs at nfbnet.org
>> Cc: blindTlk at nfbnet.org
>> Subject: [Blindtlk] [PM] Facebook with jaws
>>
>> ---- Original Message ------
>> From: Michelle Abadia <michelle.abadia at verizon.net
>> Subject: [PM] Facebook with jaws
>> Date sent: Wed, 09 Feb 2011 06:40:45 -0500
>>
>> Hi.
>>
>> I apologize for the unrelated topic.
>> I've been using Facebook successfully on my windows 7 laptop,
>> using (www.m.facebook.com), which I think our litt moderator
>> suggested because (www.facebook.com) wasn't very accessible with
>> jaws.
>> This morning, I come to find that now, m.facebook.com isn't
>> accessible either! Everything is preceeded by "same page link",
>> and when I click on something or try to write a message, the
>> system won't let me. This happened overnight, because I was able
>> to work on Facebook just 24 hours ago.
>>
>> Could someone please give me some assistance with this off list
>> at
>> Michelle.abadia at verizon.net
>> ?
>>
>> Thanks so much in advance.
>>
>> Michelle Abadia
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-- 
I'm trying to understand the choices you made as a young man, Dad. I'm
trying and failing and in agony because I must go back to a home that
is not my home.
San Antonio:
I love you and I miss you already and I haven't even left yet.