[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Mon Jul 4 18:45:41 UTC 2011

I've never went on those dating websites, because my family says they're too 
dangerous, and I don't want to have world war 3 on my hands because of doing 
something like that. I am just either going to have to meet the person I 
date in person some how, or stay single.
Nikki Wunderlich
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jessica Kostiw" <jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:05 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do


> Dana,
> First, like everyone has said, your X-husband sounds like a complete dirt
> bag!  You and I have sort of crossed paths over the years, and from what I
> recall it sounds like you are better off without him.
> As far as the dating cites are concerned, after reading your post one
> question jumps out in my mind.  In your profiles, do you state right out
> that you are blind?  If so, how much of a focus is it?  The stereo types 
> you
> stated are unfortunately true, but I do not think they are as across the
> board as you may think.  A little over a year and a half ago I met my
> boyfriend Jon on Match.com.  At the time I distinctly recall toying with
> whether or not to state anything on the page about my blindness.  My 
> family
> said I should, after all I could immediately weed out the jerks.  Since 
> many
> people do prejudge, I elected not to.  I am not blind Jessica, I am 
> Jessica
> who happeneds to be blind.  To weed out jerks, I instead mentioned my 
> being
> a Christian and the church I belonged to.  The majority of my profile
> focused on my interest in physical fitness, reading, and such.  With 
> dating
> sites you talk and email to a number of different people.  I wasn't on the
> site to educate everyone and their brother on blindness.  Threw the
> conversations and interaction I was able to weed out the guys that I 
> really
> didn't see any chemistry with.  I didn't tell all of them I was blind 
> until
> we developed a rapport.  By the time I did tell them, I had somewhat of an
> idea of their character.  With Jon specifically, I remember slipping in 
> that
> the Labrador picture in my profile was actually my former guide dog.
>
>
> As I write, Jon is waiting for me to help him with some weeding, so I have
> to wrap this up.  I have a lot to say on this issue though, and would be
> happy to talk to you in more detail.  There are a few points that I would
> like to make though before I close.  First, with all do respect, I am
> wondering if the frustration and defeat that you expressed in your message
> is also coming through in your dating interaction.  I joined match because
> at the time I was working in a cubicle in an office with all married 
> people.
> (It is not a good idea to date people at work anyway.)  I went into it 
> with
> the attitude of possibly meeting someone to date, but also just to meet 
> some
> nice people and see where things go.  If nothing happened, I would have 
> some
> funny stories to tell friends.  I was on Match for two months when I 
> started
> talking to Jon.  Today, we are happier than ever.  We are an active 
> regular
> couple.  When I told him I was blind, he really didn't care.  It was like
> "Okay, tell me if I offend you or you need anything....  let's go 
> kayaking."
>
>
> In closing, as the commercial states, one in every five couples today 
> meets
> on line.  Of course you have to be safe, but if you go in with decent
> expectations how is it any different than walking into a bar and meeting
> someone?  Just meet in a public place the first time you do meet and be 
> sure
> to have an escape route if the person is not who you thought.
>
> Happy Dating!
> Jessica
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Dana
> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 12:01 AM
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I do
>
> I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried every 
> dating
> site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and most often sighted
> guys don't give me one second glance.
> I have a college education and work full time as well which defies a lot 
> of
> the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and I can't seem to
> either find a  blind person who is as independent as myself or a sighted
> person who doesn't feel that blind people are in need of being taken care
> of.
> I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all honesty to 
> show
> the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an equal partner.
> Dana
>
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> If you have skype add me
> dana030973
>
>
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