[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Mon Jul 4 19:09:48 UTC 2011

exactly
Nikki Wunderlich
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jeanette Fortin" <jeanette at fortin-home.com>
To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 2:08 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do


> i'm with you on that, not doing the dating webistes, God will either bring 
> someone in to my life or not.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Nikki Wunderlich" <nikki0222 at gmail.com>
> To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 12:45 PM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I 
> do
>
>
>> I've never went on those dating websites, because my family says they're 
>> too dangerous, and I don't want to have world war 3 on my hands because 
>> of doing something like that. I am just either going to have to meet the 
>> person I date in person some how, or stay single.
>> Nikki Wunderlich
>> face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com
>> yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich
>> skype and twitter nikki022285
>> cell 763-248-0106
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Jessica Kostiw" <jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
>> To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:05 PM
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I 
>> do
>>
>>
>>> Dana,
>>> First, like everyone has said, your X-husband sounds like a complete 
>>> dirt
>>> bag!  You and I have sort of crossed paths over the years, and from what 
>>> I
>>> recall it sounds like you are better off without him.
>>> As far as the dating cites are concerned, after reading your post one
>>> question jumps out in my mind.  In your profiles, do you state right out
>>> that you are blind?  If so, how much of a focus is it?  The stereo types 
>>> you
>>> stated are unfortunately true, but I do not think they are as across the
>>> board as you may think.  A little over a year and a half ago I met my
>>> boyfriend Jon on Match.com.  At the time I distinctly recall toying with
>>> whether or not to state anything on the page about my blindness.  My 
>>> family
>>> said I should, after all I could immediately weed out the jerks.  Since 
>>> many
>>> people do prejudge, I elected not to.  I am not blind Jessica, I am 
>>> Jessica
>>> who happeneds to be blind.  To weed out jerks, I instead mentioned my 
>>> being
>>> a Christian and the church I belonged to.  The majority of my profile
>>> focused on my interest in physical fitness, reading, and such.  With 
>>> dating
>>> sites you talk and email to a number of different people.  I wasn't on 
>>> the
>>> site to educate everyone and their brother on blindness.  Threw the
>>> conversations and interaction I was able to weed out the guys that I 
>>> really
>>> didn't see any chemistry with.  I didn't tell all of them I was blind 
>>> until
>>> we developed a rapport.  By the time I did tell them, I had somewhat of 
>>> an
>>> idea of their character.  With Jon specifically, I remember slipping in 
>>> that
>>> the Labrador picture in my profile was actually my former guide dog.
>>>
>>>
>>> As I write, Jon is waiting for me to help him with some weeding, so I 
>>> have
>>> to wrap this up.  I have a lot to say on this issue though, and would be
>>> happy to talk to you in more detail.  There are a few points that I 
>>> would
>>> like to make though before I close.  First, with all do respect, I am
>>> wondering if the frustration and defeat that you expressed in your 
>>> message
>>> is also coming through in your dating interaction.  I joined match 
>>> because
>>> at the time I was working in a cubicle in an office with all married 
>>> people.
>>> (It is not a good idea to date people at work anyway.)  I went into it 
>>> with
>>> the attitude of possibly meeting someone to date, but also just to meet 
>>> some
>>> nice people and see where things go.  If nothing happened, I would have 
>>> some
>>> funny stories to tell friends.  I was on Match for two months when I 
>>> started
>>> talking to Jon.  Today, we are happier than ever.  We are an active 
>>> regular
>>> couple.  When I told him I was blind, he really didn't care.  It was 
>>> like
>>> "Okay, tell me if I offend you or you need anything....  let's go 
>>> kayaking."
>>>
>>>
>>> In closing, as the commercial states, one in every five couples today 
>>> meets
>>> on line.  Of course you have to be safe, but if you go in with decent
>>> expectations how is it any different than walking into a bar and meeting
>>> someone?  Just meet in a public place the first time you do meet and be 
>>> sure
>>> to have an escape route if the person is not who you thought.
>>>
>>> Happy Dating!
>>> Jessica
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On
>>> Behalf Of Dana
>>> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 12:01 AM
>>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>>> Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I do
>>>
>>> I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried every 
>>> dating
>>> site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and most often 
>>> sighted
>>> guys don't give me one second glance.
>>> I have a college education and work full time as well which defies a lot 
>>> of
>>> the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and I can't seem 
>>> to
>>> either find a  blind person who is as independent as myself or a sighted
>>> person who doesn't feel that blind people are in need of being taken 
>>> care
>>> of.
>>> I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all honesty to 
>>> show
>>> the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an equal partner.
>>> Dana
>>>
>>> Follo me on twitter
>>> djkitty73
>>> Windows live messenger ID and face book ID one in the same
>>> dananolan at comcast.net
>>> If you have skype add me
>>> dana030973
>>>
>>>
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