[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Mon Jul 4 19:24:12 UTC 2011

I agree with the both of you.

Gloria Whipple
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-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Jeanette Fortin
Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 12:09
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

i'm with you on that, not doing the dating webistes, God will either bring 
someone in to my life or not.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Nikki Wunderlich" <nikki0222 at gmail.com>
To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 12:45 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

> I've never went on those dating websites, because my family says they're 
> too dangerous, and I don't want to have world war 3 on my hands because of

> doing something like that. I am just either going to have to meet the 
> person I date in person some how, or stay single.
> Nikki Wunderlich
> face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com
> yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich
> skype and twitter nikki022285
> cell 763-248-0106
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jessica Kostiw" <jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
> To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:05 PM
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I 
> do
>
>
>> Dana,
>> First, like everyone has said, your X-husband sounds like a complete dirt
>> bag!  You and I have sort of crossed paths over the years, and from what 
>> I
>> recall it sounds like you are better off without him.
>> As far as the dating cites are concerned, after reading your post one
>> question jumps out in my mind.  In your profiles, do you state right out
>> that you are blind?  If so, how much of a focus is it?  The stereo types 
>> you
>> stated are unfortunately true, but I do not think they are as across the
>> board as you may think.  A little over a year and a half ago I met my
>> boyfriend Jon on Match.com.  At the time I distinctly recall toying with
>> whether or not to state anything on the page about my blindness.  My 
>> family
>> said I should, after all I could immediately weed out the jerks.  Since 
>> many
>> people do prejudge, I elected not to.  I am not blind Jessica, I am 
>> Jessica
>> who happeneds to be blind.  To weed out jerks, I instead mentioned my 
>> being
>> a Christian and the church I belonged to.  The majority of my profile
>> focused on my interest in physical fitness, reading, and such.  With 
>> dating
>> sites you talk and email to a number of different people.  I wasn't on 
>> the
>> site to educate everyone and their brother on blindness.  Threw the
>> conversations and interaction I was able to weed out the guys that I 
>> really
>> didn't see any chemistry with.  I didn't tell all of them I was blind 
>> until
>> we developed a rapport.  By the time I did tell them, I had somewhat of 
>> an
>> idea of their character.  With Jon specifically, I remember slipping in 
>> that
>> the Labrador picture in my profile was actually my former guide dog.
>>
>>
>> As I write, Jon is waiting for me to help him with some weeding, so I 
>> have
>> to wrap this up.  I have a lot to say on this issue though, and would be
>> happy to talk to you in more detail.  There are a few points that I would
>> like to make though before I close.  First, with all do respect, I am
>> wondering if the frustration and defeat that you expressed in your 
>> message
>> is also coming through in your dating interaction.  I joined match 
>> because
>> at the time I was working in a cubicle in an office with all married 
>> people.
>> (It is not a good idea to date people at work anyway.)  I went into it 
>> with
>> the attitude of possibly meeting someone to date, but also just to meet 
>> some
>> nice people and see where things go.  If nothing happened, I would have 
>> some
>> funny stories to tell friends.  I was on Match for two months when I 
>> started
>> talking to Jon.  Today, we are happier than ever.  We are an active 
>> regular
>> couple.  When I told him I was blind, he really didn't care.  It was like
>> "Okay, tell me if I offend you or you need anything....  let's go 
>> kayaking."
>>
>>
>> In closing, as the commercial states, one in every five couples today 
>> meets
>> on line.  Of course you have to be safe, but if you go in with decent
>> expectations how is it any different than walking into a bar and meeting
>> someone?  Just meet in a public place the first time you do meet and be 
>> sure
>> to have an escape route if the person is not who you thought.
>>
>> Happy Dating!
>> Jessica
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Dana
>> Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 12:01 AM
>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>> Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I do
>>
>> I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried every 
>> dating
>> site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and most often sighted
>> guys don't give me one second glance.
>> I have a college education and work full time as well which defies a lot 
>> of
>> the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and I can't seem 
>> to
>> either find a  blind person who is as independent as myself or a sighted
>> person who doesn't feel that blind people are in need of being taken care
>> of.
>> I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all honesty to 
>> show
>> the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an equal partner.
>> Dana
>>
>> Follo me on twitter
>> djkitty73
>> Windows live messenger ID and face book ID one in the same
>> dananolan at comcast.net
>> If you have skype add me
>> dana030973
>>
>>
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