[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Mon Jul 4 23:51:40 UTC 2011

of course you could, i feel like living life and doing the things you love 
will give you more of an opportunity to find that special person. jeanette
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Desiree Oudinot" <turtlepower17 at gmail.com>
To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 5:05 PM
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do


> In my opinion, if God wants two people to meet, it will happen, but
> that doesn't mean just sitting around and waiting for something to
> fall into your lap. You could fall into that trap in so many
> situations. You could even take it to such an extreme that you could
> sit in your house wasting away for all your life because you believe
> that someday a cure will come for your blindness in the form of some
> divine intervention. So while I don't have anything against anyone's
> religious beliefs, I do believe that in order to make something
> happen, you have to get the ball rolling on your own terms. The rest
> will follow.
>
> On 7/4/11, Humberto Avila <avila.bert.humberto2 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Exactly, David. I agree with this.
>> I don't  want to be really religious here or change the subject matter to 
>> an
>> off-topic state, but, this brings me to a story that tries to tell just
>> exactly what you've said in your "I thought he helped those who helped
>> themselves" statement:
>>
>>      one man was cruising on a boat by himself across the ocean. 
>> Suddenly,
>> the boat crashes and sinks, living nothing but the man sinking there by
>> himself. His only hope is that God is going to save his life and god 
>> would
>> be the only one to save him because he was alone in the ocean trying to
>> float alive. One larger ship approaches him and the people on the ship 
>> asked
>> him, "do you need help? Come on, we can save you, just hop on." The man's
>> response was, "No, god is going to save me."
>> Later on, the man was still sinking in the water and despite all the 
>> waves
>> that were coming still he was thinking that god will save him. Suddenly
>> another ship bigger than the first one stages up to the lonely man and 
>> the
>> captain asks him: "come on! We'll save you! Just jump in!" but then the
>> man's response was once again, "No, No, god will save me, don't worry god
>> will save me."
>> The ship went away, and the man was to the point of dying, when he keeps
>> thinking "god, please, save me. Why don't you do it now."
>> So another boat--probably the size of his--came to him, the person on the
>> boat asks him "come in, I'll save you." But the man kept responding, "No,
>> no, god is going to save me, god is the only one that is going to save 
>> me,
>> don't worry."
>> The boat hurried away, and minutes later the man couldn't resist no more 
>> and
>> died.
>> When the man was with god in heaven, he asked him: "god, why didn't you 
>> save
>> me? I thought you were going to save me." then god's response was, "Hey, 
>> I
>> sent you three boats, but you did not get on either one of them. Sorry."
>>
>> --Source: MY MOM SHARED THIS STORY WITH ME.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of David Andrews
>> Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 1:37 PM
>> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I 
>> do
>>
>> I thought he "helped those who helped themselves."  Putting matters
>> into somebody elses hands, even God, seems to me to be an excuse for
>> doing nothing.
>>
>> Dave
>>
>> 02:09 PM 7/4/2011, you wrote:
>>>exactly
>>>Nikki Wunderlich
>>>face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com
>>>yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich
>>>skype and twitter nikki022285
>>>cell 763-248-0106
>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Jeanette Fortin"
>>><jeanette at fortin-home.com>
>>>To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 2:08 PM
>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I
>> do
>>>
>>>
>>>>i'm with you on that, not doing the dating webistes, God will
>>>>either bring someone in to my life or not.
>>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Nikki Wunderlich"
>> <nikki0222 at gmail.com>
>>>>To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>>Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 12:45 PM
>>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like 
>>>>I
>> do
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>I've never went on those dating websites, because my family says
>>>>>they're too dangerous, and I don't want to have world war 3 on my
>>>>>hands because of doing something like that. I am just either going
>>>>>to have to meet the person I date in person some how, or stay single.
>>>>>Nikki Wunderlich
>>>>>face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com
>>>>>yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich
>>>>>skype and twitter nikki022285
>>>>>cell 763-248-0106
>>>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Jessica Kostiw"
>>>>><jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
>>>>>To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:05 PM
>>>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like 
>>>>>I
>> do
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>>Dana,
>>>>>>First, like everyone has said, your X-husband sounds like a complete
>> dirt
>>>>>>bag!  You and I have sort of crossed paths over the years, and from 
>>>>>>what
>> I
>>>>>>recall it sounds like you are better off without him.
>>>>>>As far as the dating cites are concerned, after reading your post one
>>>>>>question jumps out in my mind.  In your profiles, do you state right 
>>>>>>out
>>>>>>that you are blind?  If so, how much of a focus is it?  The
>>>>>>stereo types you
>>>>>>stated are unfortunately true, but I do not think they are as across 
>>>>>>the
>>>>>>board as you may think.  A little over a year and a half ago I met my
>>>>>>boyfriend Jon on Match.com.  At the time I distinctly recall toying 
>>>>>>with
>>>>>>whether or not to state anything on the page about my blindness.  My
>> family
>>>>>>said I should, after all I could immediately weed out the
>>>>>>jerks.  Since many
>>>>>>people do prejudge, I elected not to.  I am not blind Jessica, I am
>> Jessica
>>>>>>who happeneds to be blind.  To weed out jerks, I instead mentioned my
>> being
>>>>>>a Christian and the church I belonged to.  The majority of my profile
>>>>>>focused on my interest in physical fitness, reading, and such.  With
>> dating
>>>>>>sites you talk and email to a number of different people.  I wasn't on
>> the
>>>>>>site to educate everyone and their brother on blindness.  Threw the
>>>>>>conversations and interaction I was able to weed out the guys that I
>> really
>>>>>>didn't see any chemistry with.  I didn't tell all of them I was blind
>> until
>>>>>>we developed a rapport.  By the time I did tell them, I had somewhat 
>>>>>>of
>> an
>>>>>>idea of their character.  With Jon specifically, I remember
>>>>>>slipping in that
>>>>>>the Labrador picture in my profile was actually my former guide dog.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>As I write, Jon is waiting for me to help him with some weeding, so I
>> have
>>>>>>to wrap this up.  I have a lot to say on this issue though, and would 
>>>>>>be
>>>>>>happy to talk to you in more detail.  There are a few points that I
>> would
>>>>>>like to make though before I close.  First, with all do respect, I am
>>>>>>wondering if the frustration and defeat that you expressed in your
>> message
>>>>>>is also coming through in your dating interaction.  I joined match
>> because
>>>>>>at the time I was working in a cubicle in an office with all
>>>>>>married people.
>>>>>>(It is not a good idea to date people at work anyway.)  I went into it
>> with
>>>>>>the attitude of possibly meeting someone to date, but also just
>>>>>>to meet some
>>>>>>nice people and see where things go.  If nothing happened, I
>>>>>>would have some
>>>>>>funny stories to tell friends.  I was on Match for two months
>>>>>>when I started
>>>>>>talking to Jon.  Today, we are happier than ever.  We are an active
>> regular
>>>>>>couple.  When I told him I was blind, he really didn't care.  It was
>> like
>>>>>>"Okay, tell me if I offend you or you need anything....  let's go
>>>>>>kayaking."
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>In closing, as the commercial states, one in every five couples today
>> meets
>>>>>>on line.  Of course you have to be safe, but if you go in with decent
>>>>>>expectations how is it any different than walking into a bar and 
>>>>>>meeting
>>>>>>someone?  Just meet in a public place the first time you do meet
>>>>>>and be sure
>>>>>>to have an escape route if the person is not who you thought.
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Happy Dating!
>>>>>>Jessica
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>-----Original Message-----
>>>>>>From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On
>>>>>>Behalf Of Dana
>>>>>>Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 12:01 AM
>>>>>>To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>>>>>>Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I 
>>>>>>do
>>>>>>
>>>>>>I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried every
>> dating
>>>>>>site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and most often
>> sighted
>>>>>>guys don't give me one second glance.
>>>>>>I have a college education and work full time as well which defies a 
>>>>>>lot
>> of
>>>>>>the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and I can't 
>>>>>>seem
>> to
>>>>>>either find a  blind person who is as independent as myself or a 
>>>>>>sighted
>>>>>>person who doesn't feel that blind people are in need of being taken
>> care
>>>>>>of.
>>>>>>I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all honesty to
>> show
>>>>>>the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an equal partner.
>>>>>>Dana
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Follo me on twitter
>>>>>>djkitty73
>>>>>>Windows live messenger ID and face book ID one in the same
>>>>>>dananolan at comcast.net
>>>>>>If you have skype add me
>>>>>>dana030973
>>
>>
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