[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Alan Wheeler awheeler65 at windstream.net
Wed Jul 6 02:38:50 UTC 2011 

I helped myself, but I didn't need a dating site to do it. Don't get me
wrong. Technology was involved, but I didn't need e-harmony or match.com.
LOL!

Of course, I was very blessed, so I may be considered an exception to the
rule. LOL!
 

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Constance Canode
Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 4:09 PM
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Right on Dave.  My exact thoughts.  Hey, are you inside my head or what?
Smile...and have a happy Fourth.
At 03:36 PM 7/4/2011, you wrote:
>I thought he "helped those who helped themselves."  Putting matters 
>into somebody elses hands, even God, seems to me to be an excuse for 
>doing nothing.
>
>Dave
>
>02:09 PM 7/4/2011, you wrote:
>>exactly
>>Nikki Wunderlich
>>face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com 
>>yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich skype and twitter nikki022285 cell 
>>763-248-0106
>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Jeanette Fortin" 
>><jeanette at fortin-home.com>
>>To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 2:08 PM
>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels 
>>like I do
>>
>>
>>>i'm with you on that, not doing the dating webistes, God will either 
>>>bring someone in to my life or not.
>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Nikki Wunderlich" 
>>><nikki0222 at gmail.com>
>>>To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 12:45 PM
>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels 
>>>like I do
>>>
>>>
>>>>I've never went on those dating websites, because my family says 
>>>>they're too dangerous, and I don't want to have world war 3 on my 
>>>>hands because of doing something like that. I am just either going 
>>>>to have to meet the person I date in person some how, or stay single.
>>>>Nikki Wunderlich
>>>>face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com 
>>>>yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich skype and twitter nikki022285 cell 
>>>>763-248-0106
>>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Jessica Kostiw" 
>>>><jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
>>>>To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>>Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:05 PM
>>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels 
>>>>like I do
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>Dana,
>>>>>First, like everyone has said, your X-husband sounds like a 
>>>>>complete dirt bag!  You and I have sort of crossed paths over the 
>>>>>years, and from what I recall it sounds like you are better off without
him.
>>>>>As far as the dating cites are concerned, after reading your post 
>>>>>one question jumps out in my mind.  In your profiles, do you state 
>>>>>right out that you are blind?  If so, how much of a focus is it?  
>>>>>The stereo types you stated are unfortunately true, but I do not 
>>>>>think they are as across the board as you may think.  A little over 
>>>>>a year and a half ago I met my boyfriend Jon on Match.com.  At the 
>>>>>time I distinctly recall toying with whether or not to state 
>>>>>anything on the page about my blindness.  My family said I should, 
>>>>>after all I could immediately weed out the jerks.  Since many 
>>>>>people do prejudge, I elected not to.  I am not blind Jessica, I am 
>>>>>Jessica who happeneds to be blind.  To weed out jerks, I instead 
>>>>>mentioned my being a Christian and the church I belonged to.  The 
>>>>>majority of my profile focused on my interest in physical fitness, 
>>>>>reading, and such.  With dating sites you talk and email to a 
>>>>>number of different people.  I wasn't on the site to educate 
>>>>>everyone and their brother on blindness.  Threw the conversations 
>>>>>and interaction I was able to weed out the guys that I really 
>>>>>didn't see any chemistry with.  I didn't tell all of them I was 
>>>>>blind until we developed a rapport.  By the time I did tell them, I 
>>>>>had somewhat of an idea of their character.  With Jon specifically, 
>>>>>I remember slipping in that the Labrador picture in my profile was 
>>>>>actually my former guide dog.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>As I write, Jon is waiting for me to help him with some weeding, so 
>>>>>I have to wrap this up.  I have a lot to say on this issue though, 
>>>>>and would be happy to talk to you in more detail.  There are a few 
>>>>>points that I would like to make though before I close.  First, 
>>>>>with all do respect, I am wondering if the frustration and defeat 
>>>>>that you expressed in your message is also coming through in your 
>>>>>dating interaction.  I joined match because at the time I was 
>>>>>working in a cubicle in an office with all married people.
>>>>>(It is not a good idea to date people at work anyway.)  I went into 
>>>>>it with the attitude of possibly meeting someone to date, but also 
>>>>>just to meet some nice people and see where things go.  If nothing 
>>>>>happened, I would have some funny stories to tell friends.  I was 
>>>>>on Match for two months when I started talking to Jon.  Today, we 
>>>>>are happier than ever.  We are an active regular couple.  When I 
>>>>>told him I was blind, he really didn't care.  It was like "Okay, 
>>>>>tell me if I offend you or you need anything....  let's go 
>>>>>kayaking."
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>In closing, as the commercial states, one in every five couples 
>>>>>today meets on line.  Of course you have to be safe, but if you go 
>>>>>in with decent expectations how is it any different than walking 
>>>>>into a bar and meeting someone?  Just meet in a public place the 
>>>>>first time you do meet and be sure to have an escape route if the 
>>>>>person is not who you thought.
>>>>>
>>>>>Happy Dating!
>>>>>Jessica
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>-----Original Message-----
>>>>>From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>>>>>[mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Dana
>>>>>Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 12:01 AM
>>>>>To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>>>>>Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like 
>>>>>I do
>>>>>
>>>>>I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried 
>>>>>every dating site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and 
>>>>>most often sighted guys don't give me one second glance.
>>>>>I have a college education and work full time as well which defies 
>>>>>a lot of the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and 
>>>>>I can't seem to either find a  blind person who is as independent 
>>>>>as myself or a sighted person who doesn't feel that blind people 
>>>>>are in need of being taken care of.
>>>>>I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all honesty 
>>>>>to show the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an 
>>>>>equal partner.
>>>>>Dana
>>>>>
>>>>>Follo me on twitter
>>>>>djkitty73
>>>>>Windows live messenger ID and face book ID one in the same 
>>>>>dananolan at comcast.net If you have skype add me
>>>>>dana030973
>
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