[Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Thu Jul 7 16:16:18 UTC 2011

Not trying to create waves, but how is a dating site any different from
actively meeting someone anywhere else.  I too am a Christian and there are
always singles events and such... it's the same thing.

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Constance Canode
Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 5:09 PM
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I do

Right on Dave.  My exact thoughts.  Hey, are you inside my head or 
what?  Smile...and have a happy Fourth.
At 03:36 PM 7/4/2011, you wrote:
>I thought he "helped those who helped themselves."  Putting matters 
>into somebody elses hands, even God, seems to me to be an excuse for 
>doing nothing.
>
>Dave
>
>02:09 PM 7/4/2011, you wrote:
>>exactly
>>Nikki Wunderlich
>>face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com
>>yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich
>>skype and twitter nikki022285
>>cell 763-248-0106
>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Jeanette Fortin" 
>><jeanette at fortin-home.com>
>>To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 2:08 PM
>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I
do
>>
>>
>>>i'm with you on that, not doing the dating webistes, God will 
>>>either bring someone in to my life or not.
>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Nikki Wunderlich"
<nikki0222 at gmail.com>
>>>To: "Blind Talk Mailing List" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>Sent: Monday, July 04, 2011 12:45 PM
>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind feels like I
do
>>>
>>>
>>>>I've never went on those dating websites, because my family says 
>>>>they're too dangerous, and I don't want to have world war 3 on my 
>>>>hands because of doing something like that. I am just either 
>>>>going to have to meet the person I date in person some how, or stay
single.
>>>>Nikki Wunderlich
>>>>face book, my space, and MSN as well as email nikki0222 at gmail.com
>>>>yahoo and AIM nikkiwunderlich
>>>>skype and twitter nikki022285
>>>>cell 763-248-0106
>>>>----- Original Message ----- From: "Jessica Kostiw" 
>>>><jessicac.kostiw at gmail.com>
>>>>To: "'Blind Talk Mailing List'" <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
>>>>Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 2:05 PM
>>>>Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone less who is blind 
>>>>feels like I do
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>Dana,
>>>>>First, like everyone has said, your X-husband sounds like a complete
dirt
>>>>>bag!  You and I have sort of crossed paths over the years, and from
what I
>>>>>recall it sounds like you are better off without him.
>>>>>As far as the dating cites are concerned, after reading your post one
>>>>>question jumps out in my mind.  In your profiles, do you state right
out
>>>>>that you are blind?  If so, how much of a focus is it?  The 
>>>>>stereo types you
>>>>>stated are unfortunately true, but I do not think they are as across
the
>>>>>board as you may think.  A little over a year and a half ago I met my
>>>>>boyfriend Jon on Match.com.  At the time I distinctly recall toying
with
>>>>>whether or not to state anything on the page about my 
>>>>>blindness.  My family
>>>>>said I should, after all I could immediately weed out the 
>>>>>jerks.  Since many
>>>>>people do prejudge, I elected not to.  I am not blind Jessica, I 
>>>>>am Jessica
>>>>>who happeneds to be blind.  To weed out jerks, I instead 
>>>>>mentioned my being
>>>>>a Christian and the church I belonged to.  The majority of my profile
>>>>>focused on my interest in physical fitness, reading, and 
>>>>>such.  With dating
>>>>>sites you talk and email to a number of different people.  I wasn't on
the
>>>>>site to educate everyone and their brother on blindness.  Threw the
>>>>>conversations and interaction I was able to weed out the guys 
>>>>>that I really
>>>>>didn't see any chemistry with.  I didn't tell all of them I was 
>>>>>blind until
>>>>>we developed a rapport.  By the time I did tell them, I had somewhat of
an
>>>>>idea of their character.  With Jon specifically, I remember 
>>>>>slipping in that
>>>>>the Labrador picture in my profile was actually my former guide dog.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>As I write, Jon is waiting for me to help him with some weeding, so I
have
>>>>>to wrap this up.  I have a lot to say on this issue though, and would
be
>>>>>happy to talk to you in more detail.  There are a few points that I
would
>>>>>like to make though before I close.  First, with all do respect, I am
>>>>>wondering if the frustration and defeat that you expressed in your
message
>>>>>is also coming through in your dating interaction.  I joined match
because
>>>>>at the time I was working in a cubicle in an office with all 
>>>>>married people.
>>>>>(It is not a good idea to date people at work anyway.)  I went 
>>>>>into it with
>>>>>the attitude of possibly meeting someone to date, but also just 
>>>>>to meet some
>>>>>nice people and see where things go.  If nothing happened, I 
>>>>>would have some
>>>>>funny stories to tell friends.  I was on Match for two months 
>>>>>when I started
>>>>>talking to Jon.  Today, we are happier than ever.  We are an 
>>>>>active regular
>>>>>couple.  When I told him I was blind, he really didn't care.  It was
like
>>>>>"Okay, tell me if I offend you or you need anything....  let's 
>>>>>go kayaking."
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>In closing, as the commercial states, one in every five couples 
>>>>>today meets
>>>>>on line.  Of course you have to be safe, but if you go in with decent
>>>>>expectations how is it any different than walking into a bar and
meeting
>>>>>someone?  Just meet in a public place the first time you do meet 
>>>>>and be sure
>>>>>to have an escape route if the person is not who you thought.
>>>>>
>>>>>Happy Dating!
>>>>>Jessica
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>-----Original Message-----
>>>>>From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On
>>>>>Behalf Of Dana
>>>>>Sent: Sunday, July 03, 2011 12:01 AM
>>>>>To: Blind Talk Mailing List
>>>>>Subject: [Blindtlk] I wonder if anyone elss who is blind feels like I
do
>>>>>
>>>>>I honestly get so frustrated from time to time as I have tried 
>>>>>every dating
>>>>>site I can think of on the internet, paid for them and most often
sighted
>>>>>guys don't give me one second glance.
>>>>>I have a college education and work full time as well which 
>>>>>defies a lot of
>>>>>the statistics of the employment rate among the blind, and I can't seem
to
>>>>>either find a  blind person who is as independent as myself or a
sighted
>>>>>person who doesn't feel that blind people are in need of being taken
care
>>>>>of.
>>>>>I surefire wish there were something we all could do in all 
>>>>>honesty to show
>>>>>the world that it is not a care taker we need it is an equal partner.
>>>>>Dana
>>>>>
>>>>>Follo me on twitter
>>>>>djkitty73
>>>>>Windows live messenger ID and face book ID one in the same
>>>>>dananolan at comcast.net
>>>>>If you have skype add me
>>>>>dana030973
>
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