[Blindtlk] dating seaghted people Vs. Blind people?

[Darian Smith]

I would have to say that who you date, and how they are to you is a
matter of personality.  Sure, you are always going to want to be on
top of your game as grooming goes- yes, always care about  how you
look!
  The decision of who to date is very personal and probably does play
into how confident you are as a person.  Truth is, if you are
comfortable in your own   skin then you will be ok, because if in your
life sight does not matter, then sight will not matter with regards to
who comes into your life.
  Respectfully,
  Darian


On 5/25/11, Nikki Wunderlich <nikki0222 at gmail.com> wrote:
> If my friend Hope were on this list I know she'd say she'd rather date some
> one who was sighted versus some one who is blind because the sighted person
> could drive her places, and could describe things to her that she couldn't
> see. She hasn't had very many boy friends either. She is currently dating a
> sighted man though. She's 26 years old, and I can think of maybe 4
> oyfriends, including this one that she has had. I on the other hand have had
> many boy friends, but I don't care if they are sighted or blind, infact, I
> was engaged to Kyle Smith for a while who is completely blind, and I've had
> other boy friends who were visually impaired or blind. I've only had 2 boy
> friends who were sighted. Well in conclusion it doesn't matter to me. The
> level of vision some one has is just that, it doesn't make them a good or
> bad person.
>
> Nikki
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Humberto
> Sent: Wednesday, May 25, 2011 8:24 PM
> To: nabs-l at nfbnet.org
> Cc: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [Blindtlk] dating seaghted people Vs. Blind people?
>
> Hello dear listers,
>
> I'm wanting to know, and I've been curious about, your opinions
> on the topic stated in the subject line. I think this discussion
> has been shared already on this list a little bit but it would be
> good for us to discuss this as a matter of opinions are
> concerned.
> So, let me begin by asking, what do you think about going out
> with a sighted person Vs. a blind person? Are there any main
> differences, if any, on dating blind people or sighted people?
> Will a blind person expect to date or marry another blind person?
> If I date a sighted person, for instance, will I have to deal
> with the blindness misconceptions that people sometimes have? How
> can a blind person get that sighted person to think that the
> blind person can become a competent member of society by doing
> everything else that a sighted person can do.
> I myself have a blind girlfriend, and yes, we enjoy each other as
> much as 2 sighted people will enjoy each other's engagement. I've
> been going with her for about 4 years now, and we still keep in
> touch.
> would it be different if I make the choice to go out with a
> sighted girl, yet knowing that my blindness is just a
> characteristic? Will she understand that?
> I ask these questions only for your thoughts, and I wouldn't just
> want to start a huge debate here. I must stress, though, that if
> I do choose to date a sighted girlfriend, she must know that my
> blindness will not stop me from doing anything that I want to,
> and having high expectations.
> But is there anything that, specifically speaking, a sighted
> person looks for when he or she is trying to date a blind person,
> versus a blind person trying to date a blind person? Is personal
> gloaming a big deal for this? Have you guy gone through
> experiences like that, whether you decide to date someone who is
> sighted or who is blind? I know this might seem quite obvious,
> but I understand that, unfair or fair as it might seem, sighted
> people, the first thing they look at, is how you look. They first
> look at you visually and they know immediately whether to stick
> with one or not.
> Any thoughts? Opinions? experiences? questions?
>
> Cheers,  Humberto
>
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