[Blindtlk] dating seaghted people Vs. Blind people?

[Penny Duffy]

I am a sighted parent of a blind child.  I feel most sighed people can come
to realize that blindness is just a characteristic.  I don't place limited
on my child because she is blind.  I would hope when my child is old enough
to start dating that she doesn't limit herself. She should have high
expectations of sighted people.  I want my child to find someone who
respects her, that find her amazing, beautiful and smart (and much more)  If
that person is sighted or blind it doesn't matter because I believe it
doesn't matter.   Will it matter to my daughter I honestly don't know.

The very first blind person I really met (beyond some much older relatives)
was my daughter.  Most sighted people simply have had the chance.  I am just
a mommy. I don't know whats it like to be blind and I know that many sighted
people do have low expectations of the blind but I also know that many
sighted people just need to be show by example that those misconceptions are
simple misguided.


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--Penny
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Adventures with Abby - visionfora.blogspot.com


On Wed, May 25, 2011 at 9:23 PM, Humberto <humbertoa5369 at netzero.net> wrote:

> Hello dear listers,
>
> I'm wanting to know, and I've been curious about, your opinions on the
> topic stated in the subject line. I think this discussion has been shared
> already on this list a little bit but it would be good for us to discuss
> this as a matter of opinions are concerned.
> So, let me begin by asking, what do you think about going out with a
> sighted person Vs. a blind person? Are there any main differences, if any,
> on dating blind people or sighted people? Will a blind person expect to date
> or marry another blind person? If I date a sighted person, for instance,
> will I have to deal with the blindness misconceptions that people sometimes
> have? How can a blind person get that sighted person to think that the blind
> person can become a competent member of society by doing everything else
> that a sighted person can do.
> I myself have a blind girlfriend, and yes, we enjoy each other as much as 2
> sighted people will enjoy each other's engagement. I've been going with her
> for about 4 years now, and we still keep in touch.
> would it be different if I make the choice to go out with a sighted girl,
> yet knowing that my blindness is just a characteristic? Will she understand
> that?
> I ask these questions only for your thoughts, and I wouldn't just want to
> start a huge debate here. I must stress, though, that if I do choose to date
> a sighted girlfriend, she must know that my blindness will not stop me from
> doing anything that I want to, and having high expectations.
> But is there anything that, specifically speaking, a sighted person looks
> for when he or she is trying to date a blind person, versus a blind person
> trying to date a blind person? Is personal gloaming a big deal for this?
> Have you guy gone through experiences like that, whether you decide to date
> someone who is sighted or who is blind? I know this might seem quite
> obvious, but I understand that, unfair or fair as it might seem, sighted
> people, the first thing they look at, is how you look. They first look at
> you visually and they know immediately whether to stick with one or not.
> Any thoughts? Opinions? experiences? questions?
>
> Cheers,  Humberto
>
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