[Blindtlk] [Bulk] dating seaghted people Vs. Blind people?

[Ray Foret Jr]

Well, Humberto, and list,  to tell the plain truth of the matter, all I care about is whether or not she loves going barefoot.  Okay kidding over.  Now, in the utmost seriousness, let me say this.  It really and truly does not matter to me one tiny little bit whether she is sighted or blind.  But, there are traps either way.

1.  IF she's sighted, you'd better make sure that you don't expect her to look after you because you're blind; and, on the other side of that one, you'd better make sure he doesn't want or feel the need to look after you because you're blind.  Just because he/she is blind does not mean it's gonna work out; believe me.  I got thrown over by a blind girl, and, quite aside from the fact that I cried and cried and didn't eat for two days straight, I just gotta tell y'all, that (at least in my opinion), her blindness had nothing to do with it so far as I could tell.  I'm not going to list all my personal criteria here because I do not think that this is in keeping with the topic of your question; so, I'll restrict myself to the subject you raise.  Strictly in terms of blindness or not, to me, that doesn't really matter; that is, unless, the traps I've mentioned before come in to play; which, mind you, is possible.

PS.  Yeah, it would be nice if the next one loved to go barefooted outside like me.  Okay, now back to the regularly scheduled program.  hah hah.


Sincerely,
The Constantly Barefooted Ray!!!

Now a very proud and happy Mac user!!!

Skype name:
barefootedray

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On May 25, 2011, at 8:23 PM, Humberto wrote:

> Hello dear listers,
> 
> I'm wanting to know, and I've been curious about, your opinions on the topic stated in the subject line. I think this discussion has been shared already on this list a little bit but it would be good for us to discuss this as a matter of opinions are concerned.
> So, let me begin by asking, what do you think about going out with a sighted person Vs. a blind person? Are there any main differences, if any, on dating blind people or sighted people? Will a blind person expect to date or marry another blind person? If I date a sighted person, for instance, will I have to deal with the blindness misconceptions that people sometimes have? How can a blind person get that sighted person to think that the blind person can become a competent member of society by doing everything else that a sighted person can do.
> I myself have a blind girlfriend, and yes, we enjoy each other as much as 2 sighted people will enjoy each other's engagement. I've been going with her for about 4 years now, and we still keep in touch.
> would it be different if I make the choice to go out with a sighted girl, yet knowing that my blindness is just a characteristic? Will she understand that?
> I ask these questions only for your thoughts, and I wouldn't just want to start a huge debate here. I must stress, though, that if I do choose to date a sighted girlfriend, she must know that my blindness will not stop me from doing anything that I want to, and having high expectations.
> But is there anything that, specifically speaking, a sighted person looks for when he or she is trying to date a blind person, versus a blind person trying to date a blind person? Is personal gloaming a big deal for this? Have you guy gone through experiences like that, whether you decide to date someone who is sighted or who is blind? I know this might seem quite obvious, but I understand that, unfair or fair as it might seem, sighted people, the first thing they look at, is how you look. They first look at you visually and they know immediately whether to stick with one or not.
> Any thoughts? Opinions? experiences? questions?
> 
> Cheers,  Humberto
> 
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