[Blindtlk] Walking down the aisle

[Sherry Gomes]

Ariel,

Congratulations! I hope you have many happy years together.

As for walking down the aisle, most brides, blind or sighted, walk down on
their father's arm, holding his arm. It's tradition and certainly very
special for the father and daughter. So, I don't see why you couldn't walk
down the aisle holding your dad's arm and holding your cane in the other
hand. If you're going to have a reception with dancing and such, maybe a
folding or telescoping cane would be good, something you could easily leave
at your place at the table or in a place where you will know where it is
while you dance with your husband. 

Sherry



-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Arielle
Silverman
Sent: Tuesday, August 20, 2013 4:58 PM
To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
Subject: [Blindtlk] Walking down the aisle

Hi all,

I don't normally post on this list, but have a question that I think
this list would be the best place to ask.
I am getting married in two weeks and am just curious to talk to other
blind brides about how you went down the aisle and whether you used a
cane, sighted guide or both? (I don't have a guide dog so that's not
an option).

Our wedding will be outside, so the "aisle" is actually just a set of
steps leading down to a creek. I will be walking with my parents (as
part of tradition) so I could handle the mobility aspect either with
or without a cane.
I am totally blind and use my cane all the time in public places
without a second thought, and pose for photos with my cane in the
background. I'm just a little worried that during that big photo-op
moment when I am coming out, my cane could end up dominating my
appearance more than I would like. I feel positively identified as a
blind person and don't object to being seen with my cane at all, but I
just don't want it to dominate if that makes sense. Also, my current
cane is quite beat-up so if I use it in the wedding, I will probably
want to buy a new one for that purpose.

For those of you who did use a cane, how did you hold it and what did
you do with it during the actual ceremony?

I probably will use my cane, but just want to figure out the most
graceful-looking technique (and rebuff any pressure from family
members not to use it).

Thanks and best,
Arielle

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