[Blindtlk] Walking down the aisle

[Bonnie Lucas]

Arielle,
I haven't been reading virtually everything here but I would think that when
you are walking up to meet your husband, and if you plan on walking with
your dad, you could have him put one of those cute new folding NFB canes in
his suit pocket. That might not be the time when you carry your flowers, but
if it is, you could take your dad's arm with one hand, (for many a
tradition, and with the other hand, you would be able to hold the bouquet.
Then, by the time you open that cane, it would be no big deal and perhaps
not even a reason to decorate it. You could open it when you were ready to
and if your dad will be wearing a suit, believe me, it would fit in the
pocket, pretty sure. I have one in my purse as a back up and it hardly takes
any space.

By the way, I have read many of your posts on the NOPBC list and I am so
impressed with your ability to speak your mind and yet be respectful and
kind. Keep up the good work and have a very wonderful wedding and much, much
more!

Warmly,
Bonnie Lucas

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Arielle
Silverman
Sent: Wednesday, August 21, 2013 4:00 PM
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Walking down the aisle

Hi all,

Thanks for your feedback! It's given me a lot more to think about. I totally
forgot about holding my bouquet, which pushes me a little in the no-cane
direction. We will have a wedding rehearsal the day before so I'll be able
to practice, and might just practice with and without the cane and then
decide which works better. I might also explore the idea of tying a ribbon
to the top of the cane that matches my flowers.

Best,
Arielle

On 8/21/13, A Kelly <gadgetgirlkelly at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hello and congratulations.  I am not a bride, but I know someone who was.
> Her wedding was also outside.  She did not feel comfortable not using 
> a cane outside; So she got some fancy lace and decorated her cane to 
> match her dress.  Many thought the cane and dress were ordered 
> together, because they were gorgeous.  She also walk down the aisle on 
> the arm of her father with fancy cane in hand.
> I'm sure whatever you choose, you will be beautiful. Have a good day.
>
> Best Regards,
> Anita K.  also known as "Gadget Girl".  Sent via my Apple gadget.  
> Apple, Take a bite, Express yourself!
>
> On Aug 20, 2013, at 6:58 PM, Arielle Silverman <arielle71 at gmail.com>
wrote:
>
>> Hi all,
>>
>> I don't normally post on this list, but have a question that I think 
>> this list would be the best place to ask.
>> I am getting married in two weeks and am just curious to talk to 
>> other blind brides about how you went down the aisle and whether you 
>> used a cane, sighted guide or both? (I don't have a guide dog so 
>> that's not an option).
>>
>> Our wedding will be outside, so the "aisle" is actually just a set of 
>> steps leading down to a creek. I will be walking with my parents (as 
>> part of tradition) so I could handle the mobility aspect either with 
>> or without a cane.
>> I am totally blind and use my cane all the time in public places 
>> without a second thought, and pose for photos with my cane in the 
>> background. I'm just a little worried that during that big photo-op 
>> moment when I am coming out, my cane could end up dominating my 
>> appearance more than I would like. I feel positively identified as a 
>> blind person and don't object to being seen with my cane at all, but 
>> I just don't want it to dominate if that makes sense. Also, my 
>> current cane is quite beat-up so if I use it in the wedding, I will 
>> probably want to buy a new one for that purpose.
>>
>> For those of you who did use a cane, how did you hold it and what did 
>> you do with it during the actual ceremony?
>>
>> I probably will use my cane, but just want to figure out the most 
>> graceful-looking technique (and rebuff any pressure from family 
>> members not to use it).
>>
>> Thanks and best,
>> Arielle
>>
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