[Blindtlk] Off Topic - Accessible places on the net for LGBTQ individuals?

[Peter Wolfe]

Ari,


    I've read the attraction difference that you speak about on the
list as well! Like in all tings there are some room for difference but
the other senses seem to appear to compensate for the lack of vision.
I guess that they would have to rely on others to focus on anything
visual or not on that aspect of the attraction. I feel that the things
they relate to taste, touch and hearing play a more significant role
intuitively than the other elements as much. Obviously this goes
wihout saying just those are anecdotes and probably aren't indictive
of the whole subset as a whole group nor should it be.

    I never heard of corrective rape nor the term before that is
interesting. I need to send this to my former Women's Studies
Professor at my former uni at Auburn. She would find it fascinating
cause she is so adament that women shouldn't be raped or moleasted
like any rational person would be but has a passion for it. I also
share an interest cause of being raped at the age of ten by my next
door neighbor as my older brother Brian was looking. I don't mean to
bring the mood down just that I've had a hard life as well even in
America like you have in South Africa surely as well so hardship is
felt in both of our hearts.

    Thank you for sharing an inerest to the blind LGBTQ family cause
we need more spot light done on such events in our groups especially
on social science research. Much sexually transmitted diseases could
potentially be prevented by a database of those proned with such a
perpensity towards the disease like the LGBTQ group. I don't mean for
a tool to segregate just that its you no longer your private domain
that being containinated with std's that your partner should be
anonymously be informed of the other partners disease and other
potential partners. I don't know whether this happens or not in South
Africa but it should happen cause of your inordiently high sexually
transmitted diseases as well as this should happen here as well for
that matter.


Just my thoughts,
Peter Q Wolfe BA

On 2/20/13, Ari Damoulakis <aridamoulakis at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi Peter
> First, I think it is maybe harder for you in some parts of America
> like the south to come out as gay. We here in South Africa have good
> laws to help and accept gay people, although having said that, we have
> a very strong religious right who, even though they can't do anything
> about the laws, they try to intimidate or guilt trip or "change" gay
> people. Its like our disability laws, good on paper but not practiced
> properly.
> I was involved in an Anthropology class where we learned about a
> terrible phenomenon we have here called corrective rape, which is
> being done to lesbian women. Often men here forcably rape a lesbian
> because they believe it will change her orientation.
> Even on the campus I'm on, the gay society often faces damage to their
> office or property.
> What I meant by the gay totally blind question is more about, let me
> put it this way. A sighted person who realises he is gay I think if
> I'm right they realise it many times more through a physical
> attraction to people of the same sex. Now obviously totally blind
> people can't see the bodies so do they maybe use voice for example and
> say I'm more attracted to male voices, or maybe its like they enjoy
> the company of same sex people more? I'm just curious because I've
> never met a person who is totally blind from birth who is gay, so I'm
> just curious about the process.
> Ari
> On 2/20/13, Peter Wolfe <yogabare13 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Ari,
>>
>>
>>     After a few replies on list, it appears that much of the
>> challenges are innergenerational like racism of the past. An older
>> fella said that his father hated either gays or blacks, so he was
>> probably double wammed with dating a guy of color and being gay
>> himself. There are still inclusion issues in the gay community as a
>> whole towards the blind and much of the other disability community for
>> that matter that I'd attest to as well. This is no different than for
>> being blind of any group just that gay men and women open up more
>> readily than the normal population even though some are steadfast into
>> preferences like race, etc. Lastly, much of what you face presumedly
>> being hetrosexual is about the same as if you would be whether you
>> were in or outside of the closet now! BTW: I'm not fully out in public
>> though.
>>
>>
>> hugs,
>> Peter a.k.a Emily sometimes
>>
>> On 2/20/13, Peter Wolfe <yogabare13 at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Ari,
>>>
>>>
>>>     Thanks for the online resource cause you can never have too many
>>> right? Well, I cannot fully answer your question because I wasn't born
>>> blind nor have ever had a blind partner before. HOwever, if you didn't
>>> midnd that I quoted your material with keeping your name anonymous on
>>> the Yahoo Gay e-mail list for which I'm already a member on their
>>> impressions of your question. Unless your a closeted gay you wouldn't
>>> mind and you probably aren't so it doesn't matter nyhow. I'll report
>>> to you on this same thread as the results pore in.
>>>
>>>
>>> hope this helps,
>>> Peter
>>>
>>> On 2/20/13, Ari Damoulakis <aridamoulakis at gmail.com> wrote:
>>>> Hi Peter
>>>> There's also a group called Queerability, just search on Google. I
>>>> also know of a mailing list for blind LGBT people.
>>>> You join by sending an email to
>>>> blind-gay-subscribe at yahoogroups.com
>>>> I just have a question, its just something I'm curious about.
>>>> I have known blind LGBT people, but many of them had their sight when
>>>> they realised their sexual orientation, that they were attracted to
>>>> the same sex.
>>>> I'm curious to know, how do totally blind people who are born gay
>>>> realise it and then start adjusting, is it much more of a difficult
>>>> process to go through than a sighted person goes through?
>>>> Thanks
>>>> Ari
>>>>
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>>>
>>> --
>>> Cordially,
>>> Peter Q Wolfe, BA
>>> cum laude Auburn University
>>> e-mail: yogabare13 at gmail.com
>>> "If you don't stand up for something your willing to fall for anything"
>>> Peter Q Wolfe
>>> "Stand up for your rights"
>>> Bob Marley
>>>
>>
>>
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>> Cordially,
>> Peter Q Wolfe, BA
>> cum laude Auburn University
>> e-mail: yogabare13 at gmail.com
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>> Peter Q Wolfe
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Cordially,
Peter Q Wolfe, BA
cum laude Auburn University
e-mail: yogabare13 at gmail.com
"If you don't stand up for something your willing to fall for anything"
Peter Q Wolfe
"Stand up for your rights"
Bob Marley