[Blindtlk] Off Topic - Accessible places on the net for LGBTQ individuals?

[Peter Wolfe]

    I'm wondering Diane that you mentioned a preference towards
african american males right? I can see how you relate on blatened
discrimination that is where you and I agree cause I feel more akined
to immigrants than fellow americans. Ironically in America that many
americans have such high standards sometimes that they feel like you
being disabled that your unworthy of their company or time. Likewise
the elderly are treated this way even though the asian society isn't
like this as readily. Finally, do you think your opinions would change
meeting someone of another race like asians or hispanics with the same
demeanor as african americans or is it the physical aspect more so
than the psychological or the balance in general?

    The reason why I posed the above doubt to consider is that I don't
want you to be limited on who you can date or not cause of past runs
ins of certaian racial minorities or your own race, etc. I choose not
to limit my options cause have dated: hispanic, african american,
south korean, and caucasian people in the past that all had pluses and
minuses. Much gravitates around socioeconomic levels coupled with
education not race as much. My last boyfriend was black, but my next
boyfriend will be something different perhaps hispanic or something or
asian even better. Oh, my God like their skin tone is gorgeous isn' it
the asians I mean? Do you think that a caucaisian red haired fem boy
like me and a asian would match good or what? I'd like to totally get
a girls prospective on this.


hugs,
Peter a.k.a Emily sometimes

On 2/20/13, Diane Graves <princess.di2007 at gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi Ari, Peter, and All,
>
> Let me first emphasize the fact that I am not gay, so perhaps I have no
> right to speak here. However, I really wouldn't think that recognizing this
> attraction as a totally blind person would be any different whether you are
> gay or straight.
>
> Those of us who are totally blind and heterosexual, know what we like and
> know what we don't. We go by voices, the companionship we prefer, things we
> have in common, and a number of other factors. Even being totally blind, we
> have body types that we prefer, and once you get to know a person you
> typically get a general idea of their body type. Are they tall, are they
> short, overweight or thin, muscular or slight, long hair or short,  etc.
>
> For example, I am a totally blind white woman who, for as far back as I can
> remember, has always preferred or gravitated toward black men. I have
> always
> been attracted to the voices, by the confident way that they carry and
> present themselves, and a number of other characteristics. I also think
> that
> I have always felt a kin to the African American race because I, myself,
> have experienced blatant discrimination.
>
> I don't think any of these factors would be different if you were totally
> blind and gay. You really don't need sight to determine what you like/want.
>
> Diane Graves
>  most anything that
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Peter
> Wolfe
> Sent: Wednesday, February 20, 2013 12:48 PM
> To: Blind Talk Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] Off Topic - Accessible places on the net for LGBTQ
> individuals?
>
> Ari,
>
>
>     After a few replies on list, it appears that much of the challenges are
> innergenerational like racism of the past. An older fella said that his
> father hated either gays or blacks, so he was probably double wammed with
> dating a guy of color and being gay himself. There are still inclusion
> issues in the gay community as a whole towards the blind and much of the
> other disability community for that matter that I'd attest to as well. This
> is no different than for being blind of any group just that gay men and
> women open up more readily than the normal population even though some are
> steadfast into preferences like race, etc. Lastly, much of what you face
> presumedly being hetrosexual is about the same as if you would be whether
> you were in or outside of the closet now! BTW: I'm not fully out in public
> though.
>
>
> hugs,
> Peter a.k.a Emily sometimes
>
> On 2/20/13, Peter Wolfe <yogabare13 at gmail.com> wrote:
>> Ari,
>>
>>
>>     Thanks for the online resource cause you can never have too many
>> right? Well, I cannot fully answer your question because I wasn't born
>> blind nor have ever had a blind partner before. HOwever, if you didn't
>> midnd that I quoted your material with keeping your name anonymous on
>> the Yahoo Gay e-mail list for which I'm already a member on their
>> impressions of your question. Unless your a closeted gay you wouldn't
>> mind and you probably aren't so it doesn't matter nyhow. I'll report
>> to you on this same thread as the results pore in.
>>
>>
>> hope this helps,
>> Peter
>>
>> On 2/20/13, Ari Damoulakis <aridamoulakis at gmail.com> wrote:
>>> Hi Peter
>>> There's also a group called Queerability, just search on Google. I
>>> also know of a mailing list for blind LGBT people.
>>> You join by sending an email to
>>> blind-gay-subscribe at yahoogroups.com
>>> I just have a question, its just something I'm curious about.
>>> I have known blind LGBT people, but many of them had their sight when
>>> they realised their sexual orientation, that they were attracted to
>>> the same sex.
>>> I'm curious to know, how do totally blind people who are born gay
>>> realise it and then start adjusting, is it much more of a difficult
>>> process to go through than a sighted person goes through?
>>> Thanks
>>> Ari
>>>
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>> Cordially,
>> Peter Q Wolfe, BA
>> cum laude Auburn University
>> e-mail: yogabare13 at gmail.com
>> "If you don't stand up for something your willing to fall for anything"
>> Peter Q Wolfe
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> Peter Q Wolfe, BA
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Cordially,
Peter Q Wolfe, BA
cum laude Auburn University
e-mail: yogabare13 at gmail.com
"If you don't stand up for something your willing to fall for anything"
Peter Q Wolfe
"Stand up for your rights"
Bob Marley