[Blindtlk] visually impaired married to a sighted

Fri Mar 15 05:15:59 UTC 2013

Wow.  I don't know how you do that.  I have simply decided that I am not
living anywhere where there isn't a city that has at least desent
transportation around me.  I am not downing what you did, but that is not
for me.  I hope you can do a few things you like to do.   I think you really
persevered through that.  Great job.  

-----Original Message-----
From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Mari
Hunziker
Sent: Friday, March 15, 2013 11:00 PM
To: Blind Talk Mailing List
Subject: Re: [Blindtlk] visually impaired married to a sighted

HI Ericka,

I can totally relate. I am legally blind, low to high partical depending on
the day as well married to a sighted man. We have been married for 15 and a
half years and it has taken us a very long time to figure it out. I'd even
say we are still learning how to deal with it each day. I too live in a
small town in Texas with no transportation. I must rely on neighbors,
friends, church members or my husband. He was in school fro the last 8 years
- gone from 7am till about 11pm. I had to find the courage to ask someone
for a ride. He just graduated in December and he is available a little more
to help drive me around to get errands done. I've learned that I don't ever
get to do what I want to do. Now that we have kids their needs come first.
Grocery shopping, clothes, shoe, school supply shopping and then anything
else that needs to get done. I have learned to plan and that actually took a
while to develop since I am not a very organized person when it comes to
meal planning. But my friends from church turned me onto a great monthly
planner that does all the work for you. You just follow the steps and viola
a sensational meal is ready in minutes.  I have attached it here for you and
anyone on the list to take and copy. Take a look I think its great. It
provides a great example of what to do if you want to change up the recipes
to. Its called Month of Menus!. About the blind and sighted thing. There is
a Department of Blind Services in your state.
http://www.dhs.wisconsin.gov/blind/ There are several links with information
on Adjustment skills, Adaptive Equipment, Blindness Education,
Rehabilitation Teaching Services, Resources and Information, etc. Take a
look at the link above and call to get some assistance. It will make a huge
difference. Also, I am happy to talk or email off list. Let me know if you'd
like my info and if you'd like to chat off line. Good luck and God Bless.
Life is challenging, but we are all here to help each other through it.

Thanks,
Mari Hunziker

On Fri, Mar 15, 2013 at 8:07 PM, Ericka J. Short
<ericka.short at att.net>wrote:

> I know we usually talk about computers, or philosophy here, but I 
> think this is an important topic. I just wondered what kind of things 
> people have done to make their sighted spouse understand the 
> disability thing.  The biggest part of things for us is that we have 
> horrible transit here in Kenosha and  so it's difficult to 
> independently travel alone.  My husband  just doesn't know what to  do 
> about this. I take rides with  friends or people from church at times, 
> but some things I want to ride with my husband to together.  He either 
> feels like he should be my only transportation  or not at all.  It's 
> driving me batty!  Another really big issue is the fact I need things 
> organized (not necessarily good at that however) to be more 
> independent.  If he's going to be all male and dump everything in  
> piles all over the house for me to trip over every once in a while, 
> then he can't get mad at me for a bill not getting paid, a lost check or
his the credit card.  Mine you there is no may to read a  credit card
number on a cctv.
>  I just can't do it.  He seems to think he  should "know" how to  
> handle it and  dosent realize that  some people have vision that  
> doesn't stay stable.  Being a partial it is really difficult to 
> explain.  Some days I can see better than others for example.
>
> I use my cane lots of the time outside the house and sometimes at church.
>  Once I learn the set up of a place I don['t have to ask any more 
> questions usually than the average sighted person.  I can't read print 
> or use a monocular for a lot of outside things or indoors either for 
> that matter.  I do use strong reading  glasses a lot.  I am learning 
> braille but I"ve been a print user all l my life with minimal computer 
> skills and even less income  Help!  I feel like I'm in the twilight 
> zone of sight as it is and can see why he'd be frustrated.  I am too!
>
> Ericka
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