[Blindtlk] Hobbies?

[Peter Wolfe]

Julie,



    Whas your experience been with the talking meat therometer? I
bought one but wasn't allowed to use it to cook with. I really miss
cooking for six years that my life has been like denied rights of
cooking just cold meals is all I'm allowed to do like simple salads,
sandwiches, tuna and peanut butter crap. I like cooking cause it
allows me to be the little helper who I like to be in the house just
can't in this realtionship.



    I have a question in inner personal relationships for everyone to
consider on my situation. What would you say after numerous attempts
of trying to find something that has been moved everywhere that your
partner says "As soon as we move to somewhere new so that everything
isn't moved all the time then you can be more independent". This has
happened to me for four going on five years of relentless controls on
everything even my messages and riffling through my laptop. I don't
seem to have any privacy, however, age might play a role cause they
are twice as old as me. Nobody should be treating someone like an
animal like arguing to go to stores or insisting maybe pleading to
attend me wherever I go on paratransit. I'm just so tired of all this
and have no where to go from here with numerous other medical
obligations like dental and savings to do that I can't afford yet to
move. By the way, this is all because I cheated on her with a man like
a year and a half ago and she thinks that I'm mentally ill for being
gay. Tired just tired of her damn nephew saying gay jokes about me
just ridicule doesn't put its right name on it just horrible.


sad,
Peter

On 3/30/13, Julie J. <julielj at neb.rr.com> wrote:
> Peter,
>
> I cook on the stovetop nearly daily.   I prefer to bake, but I think that's
>
> because I enjoy cookies and cakes more than meat and vegetables!  Seriously
>
> though, I haven't found cooking particularly difficult as a blind person.
> Most things I determine doneness by their texture or smell.  Meat smells
> different when it's browned.  I cook vegetables until they feel soft, but
> not soggy, when poked with the wooden spoon.  Same thing with pasta,
> although I usually eat a noodle to double check.  I really don't like
> underdone pasta.
>
> To drain noodles I place the strainer in the sink in a corner so it won't
> slide around.  then I slowly pour into the strainer.  My husband, who is
> sighted, prefers to use the type of strainer spatula thingy that you hold
> against the edge of the pan and pour through.  I don't have enough hand
> strength to do it this way because you have to be able to hold the pan with
>
> only one hand.  the other is holding the spatula strainer.
>
> I've been buying hamburger directly from the butcher for several years now.
>
> The meat is very lean and rarely is there enough fat that it needs to be
> drained.  However in the days of grocery store hamburger, I would use paper
>
> towels to absorb the excess fat.  There are lots of ways to remove the extra
>
> fat.  the paper towels are just what I find easiest.
>
> For flipping I generally use a standard spatula.  although if I anticipate
> that the contents of the pan might splatter or the grease might pop a lot, I
>
> prefer to use tongs.  They give me more control and a firm grip on the piece
>
> of meat.  For flipping things like eggs or pancakes, the trick is to flip
> fast.
>
> We are just moving into spring and our meals will get lighter with more
> fresh ingredients.  For most of the winter we eat things like: beef stew,
> pot roast, chili, chicken and dumplings, spaghetti and variations on these.
>
> In the summer we'll eat a lot more grilled meats and sautéed vegetables.
>
> I have grilled numerous times independently.  It really isn't that much
> different from stovetop cooking.  Getting your heat source going is
> different, of course, but the actual cooking isn't all that different.  Then
>
> again I learned to cook on a gas stove, so maybe grilling doesn't bother me
>
> because I'm comfortable with the open flame. I'd suggest starting with
> steak, pork chops or bigger pieces of chicken.  Decent sizes of meat that
> won't roll and won't fall down inside your grill are easiest.  If you grill
>
> vegetables, try putting them in foil or using a grill basket.
>
> I think if I get my garden bed preparation done, I'm going to make a carrot
>
> cake this afternoon.  I'm thinking we'll have Shepherd's Pie for supper to
> use up a lot of the vegetables in the refrigerator. And I agree with you
> cooking and cleaning are basic life skills everyone should know regardless
> of gender roles.  My son actually wants to be a restaurant owner.  He's
> turning out to be a very good cook.  When I met my husband he only knew how
>
> to grill and make frozen pizza.  It's been 9 years, but he does have enough
>
> skill in the kitchen now that he would be okay if something happened to me.
>
> We had to find that out the hard way when I broke my foot.  Microwave
> dinners are not nearly as tasty as the commercials lead one to believe!
>
> It concerns me when you say that your partner won't let you cook or clean
> and that your yoga pants were taken away.  I don't know your situation and
> I'm not trying to be judgmental in any way.  I'm saying this to you because
>
> I value you as a person.  the kind of control you are describing seems
> abusive to me.   Please take care of yourself.  There are organizations that
>
> can help.  Please reach out and let people help you.
>
> Julie
>
>
>
>
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-- 
Cordially,
Peter Q Wolfe, BA
cum laude Auburn University
e-mail: yogabare13 at gmail.com
"If you don't stand up for something your willing to fall for anything"
Peter Q Wolfe
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