[Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness

[Ray Foret jr]

I'm with Mike all the way on this one.  Frankly, I think that part of the problem may well be that you haven't fully accepted yourself as a blind person.  Where do I get off saying that?  Well, Just make an honest and careful examination of your own message.  Count up the times you think that your blindness is the problem and then count up the times you speak of giving up.  I'm not going to tell you what you will find;  just do it and, prepair to be somewhat shocked and perhaps dismaid at the result.  But, now comes the more interesting aspect of this question.  What are you going to do with the raw data you get out of this examination?  Are you going to let it control you:  or, are you going to take control of it?


Sent from my mac, the only computer with full accessibility for the blind built-in!
Sincerely,
The Constantly Barefooted Ray
Still a very proud and happy Mac and Iphone user!

On Sep 7, 2013, at 3:43 PM, "Mike Freeman" <k7uij at panix.com> wrote:

> You're giving up too soon.
> 
> Mike
> 
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jason
> Terryn
> Sent: Saturday, September 07, 2013 1:22 PM
> To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
> 
> Hello everyone,
> 
> I am desperately in need of some advice. I am a totally blind Christian man
> in my early twenties and I am single. It's been my experience that it's
> extremely difficult for me to get dates. The few girls who do go out with
> me never turn out to be serious about me. After several years of being
> summarily rejected time without number and spending countless exhausting
> hours overthinking my approach, I'm beginning to wonder if it is actually
> something I'm doing (should I change my approach) or if its just a fact of
> being blind and I need to accept it gracefully.
> 
> Has anyone else had this experience. I'm honestly unsure if I'm being
> rejected because I am blind, or because there is something undesirable
> about me. Could it be that blindness isa dealbreaker for most girls?
> 
> I feel like, despite my blindness I have a lot to offer. I am steady,
> reliable, I have a job, I am tall and physically fit, I have a lot of
> different skills and interests. On the whole, I feel that I'm a fairly
> well-rounded individual and reasonably well-intergrated in society. Also
> it's not like I'm trying to get the most beautiful or desirable girls out
> there. I just want ONE nice, pleasant girl who will like and accept me that
> I can spend time with, and ultimately someone to marry. I don't feel like
> thats asking too much.
> 
> so if it is my blindness that is scaring girls off is there anything at all
> that I could do to offset this reaction? Could it be that I'm not
> presenting myself as confident enough or that they have some false
> stereotypes in their mind that I need to overcome? Am I just giving up too
> soon or is this really an almost hopeless situation?
> 
> This has all been extremely frustrating to me. Any advice would be greatly
> appreciated.
> 
> Thanks!
> 
> Jason
> _______________________________________________
> blindtlk mailing list
> blindtlk at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blindtlk_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for
> blindtlk:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blindtlk_nfbnet.org/k7uij%40panix.com
> 
> 
> _______________________________________________
> blindtlk mailing list
> blindtlk at nfbnet.org
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/listinfo/blindtlk_nfbnet.org
> To unsubscribe, change your list options or get your account info for blindtlk:
> http://nfbnet.org/mailman/options/blindtlk_nfbnet.org/rforetjr%40att.net