[Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness

Sun Sep 8 15:10:36 UTC 2013

Good morning, shelly, and others,

         Throughout my relatively brief span of  experience, for good 
or for worse, guys have never exhibited a reluctance to associate 
with me due to a fact that an ocular input happens to be non 
responsive to outside stimuli. For me, so far as I am aware, this 
layer of the being that is mine has not, at least outwardly been a 
reason not to either know me or pursue romance although nowadays, I 
am in a relationship with another  blind guy.
for today, Car
55 PM 9/7/2013, Charlotte wrote:
>I had a really hard time also finding someone. I am happily 
>committed now and have a great relationship. I am with another blind 
>person and I really like that because we know the things that each 
>other deals with. I was also married before to a sighted person, but 
>he was verbally abusive and controlling. I think it was just the way 
>he was though and it didn't have to do with me being blind. There 
>are sighted people out there that will accept you for who you are, 
>but they are few and far between. I can't tell you how many times 
>I'd get rejected when a guy found out I was blind. A lot of them 
>think they'll have to take care of us and that's just simply not 
>true. Some will learn, but the rest never do.
>
>On 9/7/2013 3:59 PM, shelly christner wrote:
>>i have noticed that as well from a blind girls perspective.  I have 
>>only found three guys with vision that did not care about my 
>>blindness.  If you wanna chat send me an email offlizt. I can 
>>always use more friends.
>>
>>   shelly christner Sent from my iPhone
>>
>>On Sep 7, 2013, at 15:43, "Mike Freeman" <k7uij at panix.com> wrote:
>>
>>>You're giving up too soon.
>>>
>>>Mike
>>>
>>>
>>>-----Original Message-----
>>>From: blindtlk [mailto:blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Jason
>>>Terryn
>>>Sent: Saturday, September 07, 2013 1:22 PM
>>>To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>>>Subject: [Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness
>>>
>>>Hello everyone,
>>>
>>>I am desperately in need of some advice. I am a totally blind Christian man
>>>in my early twenties and I am single. It's been my experience that it's
>>>extremely difficult for me to get dates. The few girls who do go out with
>>>me never turn out to be serious about me. After several years of being
>>>summarily rejected time without number and spending countless exhausting
>>>hours overthinking my approach, I'm beginning to wonder if it is actually
>>>something I'm doing (should I change my approach) or if its just a fact of
>>>being blind and I need to accept it gracefully.
>>>
>>>Has anyone else had this experience. I'm honestly unsure if I'm being
>>>rejected because I am blind, or because there is something undesirable
>>>about me. Could it be that blindness isa dealbreaker for most girls?
>>>
>>>I feel like, despite my blindness I have a lot to offer. I am steady,
>>>reliable, I have a job, I am tall and physically fit, I have a lot of
>>>different skills and interests. On the whole, I feel that I'm a fairly
>>>well-rounded individual and reasonably well-intergrated in society. Also
>>>it's not like I'm trying to get the most beautiful or desirable girls out
>>>there. I just want ONE nice, pleasant girl who will like and accept me that
>>>I can spend time with, and ultimately someone to marry. I don't feel like
>>>thats asking too much.
>>>
>>>so if it is my blindness that is scaring girls off is there anything at all
>>>that I could do to offset this reaction? Could it be that I'm not
>>>presenting myself as confident enough or that they have some false
>>>stereotypes in their mind that I need to overcome? Am I just giving up too
>>>soon or is this really an almost hopeless situation?
>>>
>>>This has all been extremely frustrating to me. Any advice would be greatly
>>>appreciated.
>>>
>>>Thanks!
>>>
>>>Jason
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