[Blindtlk] Blindness and Singleness

[David Andrews]

Without knowing you, it is impossible for me to say if there is 
anything about you that is sabotaging your relationships.  Mostly I 
agree with others here, not all sighted people accept us and don't 
act weird about blindness.  Some are just fine with it, and it may 
take a little time to find that person.  People either get blindness, 
or they don't.  And ... if they don't there isn't much you can do.

Dave

At 03:21 PM 9/7/2013, you wrote:
>Hello everyone,
>
>I am desperately in need of some advice. I am a totally blind Christian man
>in my early twenties and I am single. It's been my experience that it's
>extremely difficult for me to get dates. The few girls who do go out with
>me never turn out to be serious about me. After several years of being
>summarily rejected time without number and spending countless exhausting
>hours overthinking my approach, I'm beginning to wonder if it is actually
>something I'm doing (should I change my approach) or if its just a fact of
>being blind and I need to accept it gracefully.
>
>Has anyone else had this experience. I'm honestly unsure if I'm being
>rejected because I am blind, or because there is something undesirable
>about me. Could it be that blindness isa dealbreaker for most girls?
>
>I feel like, despite my blindness I have a lot to offer. I am steady,
>reliable, I have a job, I am tall and physically fit, I have a lot of
>different skills and interests. On the whole, I feel that I'm a fairly
>well-rounded individual and reasonably well-intergrated in society. Also
>it's not like I'm trying to get the most beautiful or desirable girls out
>there. I just want ONE nice, pleasant girl who will like and accept me that
>I can spend time with, and ultimately someone to marry. I don't feel like
>thats asking too much.
>
>so if it is my blindness that is scaring girls off is there anything at all
>that I could do to offset this reaction? Could it be that I'm not
>presenting myself as confident enough or that they have some false
>stereotypes in their mind that I need to overcome? Am I just giving up too
>soon or is this really an almost hopeless situation?
>
>This has all been extremely frustrating to me. Any advice would be greatly
>appreciated.
>
>Thanks!
>
>Jason