[Blindtlk] Just Venting!

Fri May 29 22:07:41 UTC 2015

Danielle,
Big hug and love to you.

On Friday, May 29, 2015, Ray Foret Jr via blindtlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org>
wrote:

> Well, Danielle, it sounds to me like you've had this huge pile-on building
> and building and building up for quite a while now.  Frankly, it seems to
> me like there are a number of unresolved issues between you and your
> family:  but, the long and the short of it feels like this.  You are
> totally blind, and, your family, despite your best efforts, doesn't really
> think of you as even a normal person but just some pitiful poor blind girl
> to be looked after and pitied and felt sorry for and not let do anything.
> Some sighted people feel this way too, believe it or not.  So, it's not
> necessarily a blindness thing:  but, in your case, and given the context of
> your remarks, it sure sounds like that in your case, it might be blindness
> caused.  It also seems to me that you haven't just sat there and let it
> build up:  but rather, that you have made every effort after effort to make
> a difference:  but now, most recently, something has happened that has
> caused you either to snap or else feel like you want to.  Have I figured it
> out about right?  Danelle, I wish I had a specific answer to all the things
> you say:  but, I suspect that some of the blind women on this list might be
> able to help you better with the specific items you list off.  I merely
> enter here because I am concerned, and wanted to lend what moral support I
> can to a fellow blind person who, it seems to me, is on the edge of
> breaking.
>
>
> Sincerely,
> The Constantly Barefooted Ray
>
> Still a happy Mac, Verizon Wireless iPhone 6+ and Apple TV user!
>
> Sent from my Mac,
> the only computer with full accessibility for the blind built-in
>
> > On May 29, 2015, at 2:22 PM, Danielle Antoine via blindtlk <
> blindtlk at nfbnet.org <javascript:;>> wrote:
> >
> > I just cannot stand it when somebody say you can do something then let
> > somebody else do it or just prevent you from doing so. Most often,
> > it's always what I'm doing. Like for instance, my brother and sister
> > didn't have jobs wasn't looking for jobs until I started. Well bless
> > God Hallallujah, thank you Jesus, they both got jobs while I'm still
> > sitting at home. In fact, it cost me more because they have
> > transporation and drive whereas, I don't have those luxuries and where
> > Im located it's really not feasible for me to work even if I was in
> > optimal health. Anyway, my sister followed through with the apps I got
> > for her and my brother didn't and my mom allowed it; they both got
> > hired through someone else's efforts in the end. I hoe they keep their
> > jobs this time! They both are lucky and have no problems getting hired
> > with minimal effort! I have a lot of time on my hands so can devote to
> > a few mmindless things that don't require me to think so hard or use
> > much energy. So, why all this unnecessary stress and aggravation. For
> > my blind parents, how do you go about picking baby gear on your own? I
> > lost my babies oh about a couple of months ago and my other prior
> > three children live with their father. but I had gotten the okay from
> > a couple of friends prior to all this to document pattern descriptions
> > and everytime I start I can never get very far do to computer
> > breakage, stealing of software, hacking and such through no fault of
> > my own. As we all know, our technology is expensive and can not easily
> > be replaced in a day or so. Even whene we fix one thing such as the
> > laptop or desktop, we still need to install a screen reader, and now
> > MS Office since it is now not standard and if you have scanning
> > software so it is not off the shelf ready to rock and roll. I am on
> > SSI only. Believe me, this has to be somebody sighted who wouldn't
> > want this job if they had it but I am happy to do it. I really started
> > doing this out of sheer frustration. Since my niece came along, the
> > adults in her life started buying everything with like characters and
> > such when it would've made mor sense for them to buy colored stuff.
> > Like for real people! They can see things like, tangerine, gold,
> > Everest, purple, onyx, Paisley, Fuschia, Bromley, Go Green, Cameron,
> > Saturn, Cowmooflage  and such like that. I mean, really what does that
> > mean to a total who has never seen colors or seen them clear enough in
> > their life? Those are just examples of pattern names And colors which
> > they can esily coordinate accordingly rather than snatching up any and
> > everything. My sister knew she was having  a girl and instead she got
> > neutral stuff as well. what ever happened to commonsense, courtesy,
> > consideration, feelings, and boundaries? My mom denied my pregnancy
> > though so I hope she is happy with my loss on top of me being unable
> > to honor the visitation agreement with my children since she and my ex
> > have serious beef! I should also mention ther have been about 10
> > babies in total born since she has and that is what so angers me even
> > more. Also, most of her things relate back to my own teenage and
> > preteen's likes. In fact, my mom bought the exact same car seat I had
> > bought for my first son with a zoo theme! I should say that my sister
> > was in jail but she knew what she was having before she went in and
> > did not prepare. So about a month before my niece's arrival I started
> > looking at gear and stuff for her. I had planned to buy everything she
> > needed since I had saved a little money up, to take the worry from her
> > and my mom who I was sure going fo likely get her and at the time was
> > talking about moving to where we are now with more space for my
> > sisters kids. Of course, I was looking at sex appropriate things for
> > her from the diaper bag to the crib to a few toys and washcloths. I
> > figure when its coming out of someone else's pocket it shouldn't
> > matter thow much it cost since you didn't have nothing anyway. At that
> > time, I wasn't expecting.
> >
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