[Blindtlk] Just Venting!

[Ray Foret Jr]

Well, Danielle, it sounds to me like you've had this huge pile-on building and building and building up for quite a while now.  Frankly, it seems to me like there are a number of unresolved issues between you and your family:  but, the long and the short of it feels like this.  You are totally blind, and, your family, despite your best efforts, doesn't really think of you as even a normal person but just some pitiful poor blind girl to be looked after and pitied and felt sorry for and not let do anything.  Some sighted people feel this way too, believe it or not.  So, it's not necessarily a blindness thing:  but, in your case, and given the context of your remarks, it sure sounds like that in your case, it might be blindness caused.  It also seems to me that you haven't just sat there and let it build up:  but rather, that you have made every effort after effort to make a difference:  but now, most recently, something has happened that has caused you either to snap or else feel like you want to.  Have I figured it out about right?  Danelle, I wish I had a specific answer to all the things you say:  but, I suspect that some of the blind women on this list might be able to help you better with the specific items you list off.  I merely enter here because I am concerned, and wanted to lend what moral support I can to a fellow blind person who, it seems to me, is on the edge of breaking.


Sincerely,
The Constantly Barefooted Ray

Still a happy Mac, Verizon Wireless iPhone 6+ and Apple TV user!

Sent from my Mac,
the only computer with full accessibility for the blind built-in

> On May 29, 2015, at 2:22 PM, Danielle Antoine via blindtlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> I just cannot stand it when somebody say you can do something then let
> somebody else do it or just prevent you from doing so. Most often,
> it's always what I'm doing. Like for instance, my brother and sister
> didn't have jobs wasn't looking for jobs until I started. Well bless
> God Hallallujah, thank you Jesus, they both got jobs while I'm still
> sitting at home. In fact, it cost me more because they have
> transporation and drive whereas, I don't have those luxuries and where
> Im located it's really not feasible for me to work even if I was in
> optimal health. Anyway, my sister followed through with the apps I got
> for her and my brother didn't and my mom allowed it; they both got
> hired through someone else's efforts in the end. I hoe they keep their
> jobs this time! They both are lucky and have no problems getting hired
> with minimal effort! I have a lot of time on my hands so can devote to
> a few mmindless things that don't require me to think so hard or use
> much energy. So, why all this unnecessary stress and aggravation. For
> my blind parents, how do you go about picking baby gear on your own? I
> lost my babies oh about a couple of months ago and my other prior
> three children live with their father. but I had gotten the okay from
> a couple of friends prior to all this to document pattern descriptions
> and everytime I start I can never get very far do to computer
> breakage, stealing of software, hacking and such through no fault of
> my own. As we all know, our technology is expensive and can not easily
> be replaced in a day or so. Even whene we fix one thing such as the
> laptop or desktop, we still need to install a screen reader, and now
> MS Office since it is now not standard and if you have scanning
> software so it is not off the shelf ready to rock and roll. I am on
> SSI only. Believe me, this has to be somebody sighted who wouldn't
> want this job if they had it but I am happy to do it. I really started
> doing this out of sheer frustration. Since my niece came along, the
> adults in her life started buying everything with like characters and
> such when it would've made mor sense for them to buy colored stuff.
> Like for real people! They can see things like, tangerine, gold,
> Everest, purple, onyx, Paisley, Fuschia, Bromley, Go Green, Cameron,
> Saturn, Cowmooflage  and such like that. I mean, really what does that
> mean to a total who has never seen colors or seen them clear enough in
> their life? Those are just examples of pattern names And colors which
> they can esily coordinate accordingly rather than snatching up any and
> everything. My sister knew she was having  a girl and instead she got
> neutral stuff as well. what ever happened to commonsense, courtesy,
> consideration, feelings, and boundaries? My mom denied my pregnancy
> though so I hope she is happy with my loss on top of me being unable
> to honor the visitation agreement with my children since she and my ex
> have serious beef! I should also mention ther have been about 10
> babies in total born since she has and that is what so angers me even
> more. Also, most of her things relate back to my own teenage and
> preteen's likes. In fact, my mom bought the exact same car seat I had
> bought for my first son with a zoo theme! I should say that my sister
> was in jail but she knew what she was having before she went in and
> did not prepare. So about a month before my niece's arrival I started
> looking at gear and stuff for her. I had planned to buy everything she
> needed since I had saved a little money up, to take the worry from her
> and my mom who I was sure going fo likely get her and at the time was
> talking about moving to where we are now with more space for my
> sisters kids. Of course, I was looking at sex appropriate things for
> her from the diaper bag to the crib to a few toys and washcloths. I
> figure when its coming out of someone else's pocket it shouldn't
> matter thow much it cost since you didn't have nothing anyway. At that
> time, I wasn't expecting.
> 
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