[BlindTlk] vent

Tue Nov 17 04:45:26 UTC 2020

If you are 18 or older, then it is time for you to show everyone else what a real adult looks like. You’ve had great suggestions. But they’re doing isn’t working obviously favorite it’s your turn to improve the legacy of the family.

Others already gave you good advice. This is asecond chance.your time to be selfish. You are right when yousay you deserve  a second chance. It’s not going to be easy, but anything worth doing is never easy. Keep us posted as to what you are doing either your successes, your works in progress or when you’re struggling. We’ve all been everywhere in the continuum. And I thank you very much for posting! I’m not there and if I was living in those kind of conditions I probably would have run it up and suicide attempts or something. You’re better than that.

Ericka Nelson

> On Nov 16, 2020, at 5:54 PM, Madison Martin via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
> 
> Hi all,
> Please just ignore my last message, I left some stuff out. I think Mom is
> depressed, she spends most of the day in her room on her phone watching TV.
> She's always so negative, I think she's sick and tired of being sick and tired.
> I think we all need to go to a therapist, but I know she wouldn't go or talk,
> she'd say that we have the problem. There have been times where I've thought
> about moving out with Dad, but I don't think she'd survive without us. She's the
> one who should leave the house, she doesn't like the house and doesn't spend
> much time down hear with us anyway.   I'm still struggling with the incident
> with the lady back in March, I've tried apologizing and explaining my reasoning
> for writing the post, but I feel like she's not listening to me and that I
> deserve a second chance. I think I'm going to have to get Dad involved and have
> him talk to her. It makes me sad just thinking about it. Makayla's biggest issue
> is that her and Mom are too much a like, so they're always at each other and she
> thinks that Mom is always mad at her when she isn't. Dad takes anti-depressant
> meds, but I think he watches and reads way too much news. I also think he drinks
> way too much coffie and alcohol, and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla also
> likes to nag me about stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me about, I already have
> two parents I don't want or need a third. I'm an adult so I think I should be
> allowed to make my own decisions and not get told what to do. Mom also loves to
> be in control all the time which is very annoying. None of us are very good at
> talking about and sharing our feelings, if we were a normal family then we could
> talk about this stuff, but we aren't. I know that a therapist can't necessarily
> solve our problems, but hopefully they could give us ways to cope. Mom is the
> one that needs the most help, but we know that she wouldn't go or talk.  
> I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if Makayla even wants
> to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right therapist. There are many
> I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to move out, but I don't think
> I want to live by myself. I used to think that Dad and I should go live
> together, but now I'm not so sure. I already told you about his issues, and he
> also nags me about stuff mainly personal hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I
> don't go anywhere so I really don't care how I look or if I smell. Plus the less
> we shower the less water we use, and the less product we have to buy. As an
> adult, should I not be allowed to make my own decsions even when it comes to
> personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel like I'm treated more like a kid then the
> adult that I am and should be allowed to be. Makayla would probably just yell at
> me, she wouldn't actually teach me how to do something. She quite often just
> says "If you want something then why not just learn to do it yourself." She also
> bugs me about stuff and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten really bad at
> just taking things without asking, mainly food. Sometimes someone buys something
> for themselves or for someone else (that's not her), but she just sees things
> and assumes she can eat or use them, when she can't always. If she'd just ask
> then chances are she could eat some of or use some of whatever it is, but she
> doesn't. Dad does this too, not as much though. We made fudge a few months ago,
> and she ate a few pieces without asking. It had to be kept in the fridge so Mom
> would cut up a few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit. Now if we make it
> again she's not allowed to have any because she didn't ask the first time, she
> blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus the last few times she's made stuff she
> hasn't asked me if I'd like any, not that I would unless it's plain. It's just
> annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I don't really get any
> because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to have to start hiding stuff in my
> room, which would be weird, if it gets to that then I think we have a real
> problem on our hands. Plus she's good at noticing/finding things that Mom has
> tried to hide, in particular chocolate. Mom isn't always good at sharing either,
> but I just ask and if she says no then I don't touch it. We might have to start
> putting our names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this
> macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her own then
> that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too. I've learned
> that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a dinner or snack stuff I
> have to eat it right away or else there might not be any/one left when I really
> want it/some.  She yells at me when we're doing dishes because apparently I
> don't dry them right. Now I just wait for her to finish washing and then I dry.
> I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She thought that I
> was talking about some particular time or decision that I want to make, but I
> was just talking about in general. I still collect animal figurenes, and she has
> this weird thing that if it's too close to my birthday or Christmas then I can't
> buy anything, even though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a month
> until either event. I do it because I worry that she won't like the look of the
> figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy it for me, regardless of how much
> I want it. Like last Christmas I asked for this particular husky, well she
> didn't buy it for me because she said that she didn't like it's face, it was too
> pointy, but the 2 that she got me looked way more like wolves then huskies. It's
> my money, should I not be allowed to spend it when and how I want?
> Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to vent, so if no
> one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it anyway.
> Madison   
> 
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