[BlindTlk] vent

Tue Nov 17 02:54:50 UTC 2020

hello sonetimes it is hard to figure out when and how to conduct your 
life and make proper decisions. I don't know how old you are and of 
course i don't know who has control of your money. If parents still have 
control of funds, it is really hard to break away. If you never leave 
the house thay will have a dificult time seeing you as a capable adult.

On 11/16/2020 4:54 PM, Madison Martin via BlindTlk wrote:
> Hi all,
> Please just ignore my last message, I left some stuff out. I think Mom is
> depressed, she spends most of the day in her room on her phone watching TV.
> She's always so negative, I think she's sick and tired of being sick and tired.
> I think we all need to go to a therapist, but I know she wouldn't go or talk,
> she'd say that we have the problem. There have been times where I've thought
> about moving out with Dad, but I don't think she'd survive without us. She's the
> one who should leave the house, she doesn't like the house and doesn't spend
> much time down hear with us anyway.   I'm still struggling with the incident
> with the lady back in March, I've tried apologizing and explaining my reasoning
> for writing the post, but I feel like she's not listening to me and that I
> deserve a second chance. I think I'm going to have to get Dad involved and have
> him talk to her. It makes me sad just thinking about it. Makayla's biggest issue
> is that her and Mom are too much a like, so they're always at each other and she
> thinks that Mom is always mad at her when she isn't. Dad takes anti-depressant
> meds, but I think he watches and reads way too much news. I also think he drinks
> way too much coffie and alcohol, and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla also
> likes to nag me about stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me about, I already have
> two parents I don't want or need a third. I'm an adult so I think I should be
> allowed to make my own decisions and not get told what to do. Mom also loves to
> be in control all the time which is very annoying. None of us are very good at
> talking about and sharing our feelings, if we were a normal family then we could
> talk about this stuff, but we aren't. I know that a therapist can't necessarily
> solve our problems, but hopefully they could give us ways to cope. Mom is the
> one that needs the most help, but we know that she wouldn't go or talk.
> I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if Makayla even wants
> to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right therapist. There are many
> I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to move out, but I don't think
> I want to live by myself. I used to think that Dad and I should go live
> together, but now I'm not so sure. I already told you about his issues, and he
> also nags me about stuff mainly personal hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I
> don't go anywhere so I really don't care how I look or if I smell. Plus the less
> we shower the less water we use, and the less product we have to buy. As an
> adult, should I not be allowed to make my own decsions even when it comes to
> personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel like I'm treated more like a kid then the
> adult that I am and should be allowed to be. Makayla would probably just yell at
> me, she wouldn't actually teach me how to do something. She quite often just
> says "If you want something then why not just learn to do it yourself." She also
> bugs me about stuff and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten really bad at
> just taking things without asking, mainly food. Sometimes someone buys something
> for themselves or for someone else (that's not her), but she just sees things
> and assumes she can eat or use them, when she can't always. If she'd just ask
> then chances are she could eat some of or use some of whatever it is, but she
> doesn't. Dad does this too, not as much though. We made fudge a few months ago,
> and she ate a few pieces without asking. It had to be kept in the fridge so Mom
> would cut up a few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit. Now if we make it
> again she's not allowed to have any because she didn't ask the first time, she
> blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus the last few times she's made stuff she
> hasn't asked me if I'd like any, not that I would unless it's plain. It's just
> annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I don't really get any
> because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to have to start hiding stuff in my
> room, which would be weird, if it gets to that then I think we have a real
> problem on our hands. Plus she's good at noticing/finding things that Mom has
> tried to hide, in particular chocolate. Mom isn't always good at sharing either,
> but I just ask and if she says no then I don't touch it. We might have to start
> putting our names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this
> macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her own then
> that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too. I've learned
> that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a dinner or snack stuff I
> have to eat it right away or else there might not be any/one left when I really
> want it/some.  She yells at me when we're doing dishes because apparently I
> don't dry them right. Now I just wait for her to finish washing and then I dry.
> I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She thought that I
> was talking about some particular time or decision that I want to make, but I
> was just talking about in general. I still collect animal figurenes, and she has
> this weird thing that if it's too close to my birthday or Christmas then I can't
> buy anything, even though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a month
> until either event. I do it because I worry that she won't like the look of the
> figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy it for me, regardless of how much
> I want it. Like last Christmas I asked for this particular husky, well she
> didn't buy it for me because she said that she didn't like it's face, it was too
> pointy, but the 2 that she got me looked way more like wolves then huskies. It's
> my money, should I not be allowed to spend it when and how I want?
> Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to vent, so if no
> one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it anyway.
> Madison
>
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