[BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
Ericka
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Thu Nov 19 21:07:21 UTC 2020
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Ericka Nelson
> On Nov 19, 2020, at 2:16 PM, Madison Martin via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
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> Our population is 65,000 at least. Plus I live in Canada so I don't know that we have rural funding for transportation.
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> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Judy Jones via BlindTlk
> Sent: November 19, 2020 12:27 PM
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> Cc: Judy Jones <sonshines59 at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
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> According to the ADA, Para is supposed to go where the buses go, but they have anywhere from a three-quarter-mile to a mile and a half service area outside the transit routes they can go.
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> Each local mobility network is different on how they handle their services, according to money and needs.
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> And, like you said, most rural areas aren't going to be covered if they are outside the boundaries of the fixed-rout/Para service area.
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> Areas under 50 thousand in population can receive funding for rural areas, but once they reach 50 thousand or over, that rural funding stops, and urban funding kicks in.
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> Judy
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> Not to mention if cities don’t share the cost there won’t be a rural transit authority of any kind. We can’t go 10 minutes away to my grandparents house because their community won’t kick in. Usually the rule is if a bus won’t go there Paratransit won’t. We have for profit Paratransit but it is costly. Sometimes a community has a rideshare volunteer program. It has a sliding scale fee for riders.
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> No idea what other countries.
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> Ericka Nelson
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>> On Nov 18, 2020, at 3:29 PM, Judy Jones via BlindTlk <blindtlk at nfbnet.org> wrote:
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>> Hi, Pam,
>>
>> In rural areas, buses don't necessarily go places, especially if
>> things are outside the ADA three-quarters mile service apron.
>>
>> Judy
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Pamela
>> Dominguez via BlindTlk
>> Sent: Wednesday, November 18, 2020 4:56 AM
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>> Cc: Pamela Dominguez <pammygirl99 at gmail.com>
>> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
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>> Why wouldn't a paratransit take you? I can understand that you
>> couldn't get a bus. Pam.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: Madison Martin via BlindTlk
>> Sent: Tuesday, November 17, 2020 4:20 PM
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>> Cc: maddymartin at mymts.net
>> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
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>> I get driven everywhere, not that I go many places. The main place I
>> go is to the barn where I ride, it's in the country, so a bus or
>> paratransit wouldn't take me there.
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Judy Jones
>> via BlindTlk
>> Sent: November 16, 2020 5:27 PM
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>> Cc: Judy Jones <sonshines59 at gmail.com>
>> Subject: Re: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
>>
>> Hi, Madison,
>>
>> On a list like this that isn't specific, I don't see any problem in
>> venting, myself. Of course it would be up to the list owner.
>>
>> My very general answer is: When you are out on your own, most of this
>> will probably square itself out, and the issues that seem so great now
>> will solve themselves, or be non-issues.
>>
>> Now, for the specifics. When I remember being your age, a long time
>> ago hahaha, I was very anxious to be on my own, not because I didn't
>> love my folks, but because I was ready.
>>
>> I was in school in another town, so that automatically had me out
>> taking care of myself, buying what I wanted, managing my money.
>>
>> At that time, I wasn't working, and mom and dad helped me out each
>> month with some money. I had worked in the summertimes, but not during college.
>>
>> I loved going home on the weekends, but it's strange, once you've
>> really been out on your own, it's never the same going back.
>>
>> It was always nice to visit catch up, enjoy that protective
>> environment with mom and dad, but always good to leave the nest again.
>>
>> I visited the nest less and less, since I got a teaching job straight
>> out of college in another state, then married and moved across country.
>>
>> You haven't left the nest yet, and you are an adult, and sounds like
>> wanting to spread your wings a bit.
>>
>> You need work in order to fund that, but until you do have a job, just
>> curious, do you do your own shopping?
>>
>> Do you take bus or Para to go visit friends, shopping, go to a movie,
>> whatever you like to do?
>>
>> I'm thinking that if you are doing things by yourself more and more,
>> your parents are bound to see your independence, and will maybe work
>> into letting go.
>>
>> I know about that, I'm a mom, and one has to work at that as a mom.
>>
>> My folks did that very well, but am not saying it is easy for a parent
>> to do this.
>>
>> Can you discuss an allowance from your folks, if you are not already
>> getting one, then budgeting it for things you want and trips you want to take?
>>
>> Judy
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: BlindTlk <blindtlk-bounces at nfbnet.org> On Behalf Of Madison
>> Martin via BlindTlk
>> Sent: Monday, November 16, 2020 3:01 PM
>> To: blindtlk at nfbnet.org
>> Cc: maddymartin at mymts.net
>> Subject: [BlindTlk] frustrating home situation
>>
>> Hi all,
>> Hope this is okay to talk about hear, I just really need to vent.
>> I forgot to say that Dad and I went out for super on Saturday to get
>> away from the craziness. Plus I don't eat pizza. Makayla's biggest
>> issue is that her and Mom are too much a like, so they're always at
>> each other and she thinks that Mom is always mad at her when she
>> isn't. Dad takes anti-depressant meds, but I think he watches and
>> reads way too much news. I also think he drinks way too much coffie
>> and alcohol, and he also needs to lose weight. Makayla also likes to
>> nag me about stuff that Mom and Dad don't bug me about, I already have
>> two parents I don't want or need a third. I'm an adult so I think I
>> should be allowed to make my own decisions and not get told what to
>> do. Mom also loves to be in control all the time which is very
>> annoying. None of us are very good at talking about and sharing our
>> feelings, if we were a normal family then we could talk about this
>> stuff, but we aren't. I know that a therapist can't necessarily solve
>> our problems, but hopefully they could give us ways to cope. Mom is the one that needs the most help, but we know that she wouldn't go or talk.
>> I don't know that Mom would ever join us, and I don't know if Makayla
>> even wants to go. I'd consider it, but only if we found the right therapist.
>> There are many I'm sure, but they're not all the same. I'd love to
>> move out, but I don't think I want to live by myself. I used to think
>> that Dad and I should go live together, but now I'm not so sure. I
>> already told you about his issues, and he also nags me about stuff
>> mainly personal hygiene stuff, mainly showiering. I don't go anywhere
>> so I really don't care how I look or if I smell. Plus the less we
>> shower the less water we use, and the less product we have to buy. As
>> an adult, should I not be allowed to make my own decsions even when it
>> comes to personal hygiene? Sometimes I feel like I'm treated more like
>> a kid then the adult that I am and should be allowed to be. Makayla
>> would probably just yell at me, she wouldn't actually teach me how to
>> do something. She quite often just says "If you want something then
>> why not just learn to do it yourself." She also bugs me about stuff
>> and tells me what to do too. She's also gotten really bad at just
>> taking things without asking, mainly food. Sometimes someone buys
>> something for themselves or for someone else (that's not her), but she
>> just sees things and assumes she can eat or use them, when she can't
>> always. If she'd just ask then chances are she could eat some of or
>> use some of whatever it is, but she doesn't. Dad does this too, not as
>> much though. We made fudge a few months ago, and she ate a few pieces without asking. It had to be kept in the fridge so Mom would cut up a few pieces and put them out to warm up a bit.
>> Now if we make it again she's not allowed to have any because she
>> didn't ask the first time, she blew it. What's fair is fair. Plus the
>> last few times she's made stuff she hasn't asked me if I'd like any,
>> not that I would unless it's plain.
>> It's just annoying when Mom or Dad buys me something and then I don't
>> really get any because she's eaten it. Dad says I'm going to have to
>> start hiding stuff in my room, which would be weird, if it gets to
>> that then I think we have a real problem on our hands. Plus she's good
>> at noticing/finding things that Mom has tried to hide, in particular chocolate.
>> Mom isn't always good at sharing either, but I just ask and if she
>> says no then I don't touch it. We might have to start putting our
>> names on things, which Makayla did yesterday, when she got this
>> macaronie dinner from Sobeys, which I didn't get. If she wants her own
>> then that's fine, but I like them too, so I should've gotten one too.
>> I've learned that if someone gets something for me, whether it's a
>> dinner or snack stuff I have to eat it right away or else there might
>> not be any/one left when I really want it/some. She yells at me when
>> we're doing dishes because apparently I don't dry them right. Now I just wait for her to finish washing and then I dry.
>> I've tried talking to Mom, but that didn't really work/help. She
>> thought that I was talking about some particular time or decision that
>> I want to make, but I was just talking about in general. I still
>> collect animal figurenes, and she has this weird thing that if it's
>> too close to my birthday or Christmas then I can't buy anything, even
>> though when I'm looking at stuff it usually over a month until either
>> event. I do it because I worry that she won't like the look of the
>> figurine that I'm asking for so she won't buy it for me, regardless of
>> how much I want it. Like last Christmas I asked for this particular
>> husky, well she didn't buy it for me because she said that she didn't
>> like it's face, it was too pointy, but the
>> 2 that she got me looked way more like wolves then huskies. It's my
>> money, should I not be allowed to spend it when and how I want?
>> Any thoughts/suggestions? Like I said, I just really needed to vent,
>> so if no one answers then that's fine. Thanks for letting me do it anyway.
>> Madison
>>
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