[blparent] (no subject)

Tue Feb 10 21:13:59 UTC 2009

Hi Jennifer. 
I'm glad you found my post helpful. 
I have to say, I don't recall seeing posts from you, but that's okay. 
Congradulations on the new baby. 
There's nothing wrong with whatever you decide to do, just so long as
you're happy, the child is happy and husband is happy. 
Daycares are like anything else, some are good, some are not. And some
stay-at-home moms are good while others are not, the difference is that
we don't hear about the ones who are not, whereas we do hear about
daycares that are not up to snuff. 
When you go to the daycares, ask the preschoolers what they like about
the place. They'll be the most honest and you will hear some useful
things. 
You will also want to check out the inspection reports for the daycares
you are interested in. 
Finally, know that like any situation, there are trade-offs.
Child-raising is no different. 
You want balance, but you are not going to have balance every day. So
long as everybody gets what they need, and you all end the day feeling
good, that's what matters.  

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of Jennifer Bazer
Sent: Tuesday, February 10, 2009 3:30 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)

Hello Rebecca,

I have seen your posts on other lists!

You pose so many great questions.  I will be visiting centers in my area
just to get a feel and I will be doing unannounced visits!  There are so
many things to consider. I think it will be a difficult decision for me,
but I usually am the planner, the organizer and I will weigh all pros
and cons.

Thanks for the book suggestion as well. 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of Pickrell, Rebecca M (IT)
Sent: Tuesday, February 10, 2009 10:45 AM
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Hi Jennifer. 
I am Rebecca and husband and I have a soon-to-be two-year-old. 
As to your question about daycares, you want to ask yourself the
following; 1. Do you have the temperament to stay home/be with your
child all day, every day? I do not. I tell people that no matter how
much I love you, I do not have it in me to be with you 24/7. 
2. If you currently work outside the home, do you enjoy it? 
3. Do you need the money, now or in the future? 
4. If you can work from home, do you want to? Hubby can at times, and he
does not have the temperament to work from home and do childcare. 
5. If you do choose daycare, the daycare center should be totally
transparent with you. They should let you touch everything, and answer
whatever questions you have. 
Our daughter is in daycare, and we like it. They do activities wit her,
that we wouldn't think to do. As a friend of mine explained it "Daycare
has a process and a staff, stay-at-home moms do it all". 
As with anything, there are good and bad daycares. I highly suggest you
read Gavin Debekcer's book Protecting The Gift. Read the section on
childcare. 
Without knowing you, I can't begin to advise in any more detail. 
If you are married or have apartner, ask him/her to share their
thoughts. 
Ask your mom and dad (assumming your relationship is healthy) and ditto
for your partner's parents. They can offer a good perspective.  
Keep in mind, the needs of a newborn are very different from the needs
of a toddler, and it is hard to imagine a sweet cuddly newborn kicking,
biting and screaming "no no no" when they are say eighteen months.
You'll find too, that what works at one point, may or may not work at
another point and you'll need to change plans. Lastly, what you do with
your first child, may or may not be what you do with subsequent
children, or the timing may be different for what you do and when. 
Since you've asked this question, I'd advise you to go visit some
daycares in your area and see what you think. 

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of Jennifer Bazer
Sent: Sunday, February 08, 2009 5:36 PM
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Hello Veronica,

I haven't had any cravings yet.  I am really trying to eat lots of
fruits and veggie along with things with calcium in them.  I also
started looking at labels for things high in fiber as I read that 21 to
28 grams of fiber a day will help reduce constipation, hemorrhoids and
preeclamsea.  I am drinking lots of water and milk.  No nausea yet, but
feeling pretty tired by the middle of the day.
-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
Sent: Saturday, February 07, 2009 9:25 PM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] (no subject)

Any cravings.  I had a lot at the beginning, cucumbers, spaghetti sauce
and toward the end all i wanted was peanut butter anything. Veronica (V)
----- Original Message -----
From: "Jennifer Bazer" <jhipp25 at sc.rr.com>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, February 07, 2009 5:19 PM
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> Hello Anjelina and Group,
>
> Wow, you are getting close!
>
> I am feeling okay right now.  I have to eat very small meals several 
> times per day.  I only feel nauseous if my stomach gets empty or I eat

> too
much.
>
> I am tired more often now, but overall, things are going well.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Anjelina
> Sent: Saturday, February 07, 2009 10:47 AM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: Re: [blparent] New Member
>
> Welcome to the list Jennifer.
> I'm also expecting my first little one on the 26th of Feb.   This is a

> great
> place for questions. Many of the mothers on this list have helped me 
> through the past nine months, and we can all help each other.
> How have you been feeling?
> Anjelina
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Jennifer Bazer
> Sent: Saturday, February 07, 2009 10:21 AM
> To: blparent at nfbnet.org
> Subject: [blparent] New Member
>
> Hello,
>
> My name is Jennifer, and I found out very recently I will be having my

> first child.  My husband and I have been married for two and a half 
> months.
>
> I am excited to hear about all your experiences.  You may have to 
> forgive me when I start asking numerous questions!  Grin!
>
> Take care.
>
> Jennifer
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