[blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items

Thu Jan 15 00:31:51 UTC 2009

very well put tammy.
i was there a few months ago. i found out about savannah when the birth 
mother was 5 months along. this didn't give me much time to prepare. and 
like i've stated before, i made a list of anything and everything i could 
research and think of.  i wanted to prepare. i even thought to the future to 
find out how i could help with homework and such, and that is years down the 
line.
i turned to people for support . i was overwhelmed and  had a lot to do in a 
short amount of time. i needed helpful support. I needed people to help 
guide me and help me get my priorities in line, but i didn't need it done in 
a manner that made me feel bad.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 12:14 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items


> Hi,
>
> Rebecca, this is not  amedical list, it's a parenting one.  The original 
> question was not a medical one, it was a question about how to give 
> medacin when needed.  I'm sure we can rest assured that Angelina's doctors 
> will advise her when and when not to give medacin.  Your posts, while they 
> may contain some useful information for some people, may also make mothers 
> to be scared and unsure of what they are doing at a time when we neede to 
> be a help and a confidence boost to them.  Most of us remember this 
> feeling as we've been through it before, but for a first time mother and a 
> single parent this time can be overwhelming and very scarey.  I think it's 
> important to give people the facts, but you also need to take feelings in 
> to account here, and think about how much information is too much 
> information at one time.  I know your intentions were good, but remember 
> back when you were at the end stage of your pregnancy, I know, you only 
> knew for the 6 weeks leading up to your baby's birth, but remember how 
> scared you were, and all the things you had to think about.  Then think 
> about all of that again, only imagine yourself with no husband to support 
> you.  I hope you get my point, and I hope you dohn't think I'm trying to 
> be harsh or unkind.  I'm certainly not!  I'm trying to consider the 
> feelings of somebody who might be a little more scared then they'd like to 
> admit, and I'm thinking of how I would feel in there position, because I 
> remember it very well, and not too fondly.
>
> Tammy
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 10:39 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>
>
>> Debbie,
>> You misread my intent.
>> What I was trying to convey is that newborns shouldn't need medicine.
>> With a cranky older baby, you can easily say "A shot of tyenol will
>> help".
>> This isn't true of a newborn.
>> We were told no medicine for a newborn, ad if we felt we needed medicine
>> that that in and of itself was a problem.
>> This was lifted after two months.
>> My point is that while Anjelina does need to figure out how she will
>> administer meds, she doesn't need to think that the first thing she will
>> do is dole them out right away.
>> If she does feel that medicine would help, the baby cries "too much" or
>> "won't sleep" or any other thinking, she does need to seek medical
>> advice.
>> Knowing what is and isn't normal is far more important at this stage
>> then how to administer medicine. That can be learned quickly.
>> Please reread my post and do not misquote me.
>>
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Deborah Kent Stein
>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 9:23 AM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>
>>
>>
>> Hi, Angelina,
>>
>> I remember being a mother-to-be and feeling anxious about what I would
>> do if my baby got sick.  Sighted people were endlessly asking me how I
>> would handle emergencies, how I would get her to the ER if she was hurt
>> or ill and there was nobody around to drive, how I would take her temp,
>> and of course, how I would measure medicine.  I wanted above all things
>> to be a good mom and to keep my baby healthy and safe, so I would
>> probably have been thinking about all of those things anyway, but the
>> worries of the people around me certainly kept it high on my horizon!
>> It is not surprising to me at all that you are thinking about how you
>> will give medicine if you need to.  I don't think it suggests "an
>> underlying problem," I think it indicates that like any conscientious
>> mother you want to do your very best.
>>
>> And I'm confident that you will!
>>
>> Debbie
>>
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 7:24 AM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>
>>
>>> Hi Anjilina. Here are my thoughts;
>>> 1. If you've got time to come up with a theme for your newborn's room,
>>> you've got time to get your ducks in a row regarding the hospital,
>>> finding a peditritian, and if you plan to work, finding childcare.
>> Take
>>> care of that first.
>>> 2. Newborns don't care about the theme of their room. There is a law
>>> that says, the more time and money you spend on it, the less your baby
>>> will sleep there.
>>> 3. The absolutes that you need to have are these;
>>> 1 diapers
>>> 2 carseat
>>> 3 clothes
>>> 4 wipes which can be as simple as cut up cloth and water
>>> 5. a disposal system for human waste
>>> 5. You shouldn't have to give your newborn medicine unless there is a
>>> condition that you know of now. Even tyenol is a bad idea until two
>>> months, or so we were told. If you think you need to give your newborn
>>> meds, you have an underlying problem which needs to be addressed.
>>> 6. You will never "have everything you need". There will be things you
>>> think of after the baby is born. Also, babies and children change over
>>> time. What you need for anewborn will not be what you need for a
>> toddler
>>> and so it goes.
>>>
>>> Given your situation, I'd not worry about the theme for your baby's
>>> room. We didn't have one as we didn't have time.
>>> You will also want a crib, though you probably don't *need* one right
>>> away. What you will need is aplace to put the baby and if money is an
>>> issue, I'd suggest a bucket carseat as it will give you both acarseat
>> as
>>> well as a seat for the baby.
>>> Btw, didn't you also have another baby shower? What happened to those
>>> gifts? Look and see what you got in that stash, you do not need to
>>> reinvent the wheel here.
>>> You'll be fine.
>>> Lastly, Veronica says you tried to write me privately. If you did, I
>>> never got a note, hence could not respond.
>>> The most important thing your child needs is lots of physical contact,
>>> food, and a clean butt.
>>>
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Anjelina
>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 3:03 AM
>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>> Subject: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>
>>> 1. Did you use a theme for your newborns room? If so did you go based
>> on
>>> texture of colors?
>>> 2. What adaptive equipment did you have to purchase?
>>> I went browsing with my sister and saw ear thermometers and medicine
>>> spoons.
>>> I didn't know if most off the shelf products are accessible to use.
>>> 3. I've decided to use a sling so she is closer to me, but did you use
>> a
>>> stroller at times?
>>> I'm trying to add items to a registry but I don't want to add things
>>> that I won't use.
>>> Thanks for any answers.
>>> Anjelina
>>>
>>>
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