[blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items

Thu Jan 15 03:16:19 UTC 2009

Hi to all of you and happy new-year.

So after dealing with e-mail issues I found time to see what I’ve been missing and I just don’t know what to say.  We all have our opinions, and our circumstances differ but for the most part things go smoothly.  It is fair to say that e-mail can be difficult to read the way it is intended, it’s just how it is, but after reading threw a lot of messages I’m confused.  What does giving meds have to do with setting up a nursery?  I’m just curious.

Now to just say my Pease, I can’t imagine going threw pregnancy on my own.  I was fortunate to have a partner to help me and make certain our wishes were respected.  It would be logical that when your on your own, there would be no one to speak up if you were unable to voice your concerns.  Also, I think the experience of parenting with a partner or not would be different depending on your income.  There are services available if you can pay and we all have to choose what we are willing to pay others to do so we don’t have to.  I personally respect single Moms because I just don’t know if I could do it myself.

Just my thoughts.

Kate

-------------- Original message ----------------------
From: "Pipi" <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
>
> very well put tammy.
> i was there a few months ago. i found out about savannah when the birth 
> mother was 5 months along. this didn't give me much time to prepare. and 
> like i've stated before, i made a list of anything and everything i could 
> research and think of.  i wanted to prepare. i even thought to the future to 
> find out how i could help with homework and such, and that is years down the 
> line.
> i turned to people for support . i was overwhelmed and  had a lot to do in a 
> short amount of time. i needed helpful support. I needed people to help 
> guide me and help me get my priorities in line, but i didn't need it done in 
> a manner that made me feel bad.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 12:14 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
> 
> 
> > Hi,
> >
> > Rebecca, this is not  amedical list, it's a parenting one.  The original 
> > question was not a medical one, it was a question about how to give 
> > medacin when needed.  I'm sure we can rest assured that Angelina's doctors 
> > will advise her when and when not to give medacin.  Your posts, while they 
> > may contain some useful information for some people, may also make mothers 
> > to be scared and unsure of what they are doing at a time when we neede to 
> > be a help and a confidence boost to them.  Most of us remember this 
> > feeling as we've been through it before, but for a first time mother and a 
> > single parent this time can be overwhelming and very scarey.  I think it's 
> > important to give people the facts, but you also need to take feelings in 
> > to account here, and think about how much information is too much 
> > information at one time.  I know your intentions were good, but remember 
> > back when you were at the end stage of your pregnancy, I know, you only 
> > knew for the 6 weeks leading up to your baby's birth, but remember how 
> > scared you were, and all the things you had to think about.  Then think 
> > about all of that again, only imagine yourself with no husband to support 
> > you.  I hope you get my point, and I hope you dohn't think I'm trying to 
> > be harsh or unkind.  I'm certainly not!  I'm trying to consider the 
> > feelings of somebody who might be a little more scared then they'd like to 
> > admit, and I'm thinking of how I would feel in there position, because I 
> > remember it very well, and not too fondly.
> >
> > Tammy
> > ----- Original Message ----- 
> > From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> > To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> > Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 10:39 AM
> > Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
> >
> >
> >> Debbie,
> >> You misread my intent.
> >> What I was trying to convey is that newborns shouldn't need medicine.
> >> With a cranky older baby, you can easily say "A shot of tyenol will
> >> help".
> >> This isn't true of a newborn.
> >> We were told no medicine for a newborn, ad if we felt we needed medicine
> >> that that in and of itself was a problem.
> >> This was lifted after two months.
> >> My point is that while Anjelina does need to figure out how she will
> >> administer meds, she doesn't need to think that the first thing she will
> >> do is dole them out right away.
> >> If she does feel that medicine would help, the baby cries "too much" or
> >> "won't sleep" or any other thinking, she does need to seek medical
> >> advice.
> >> Knowing what is and isn't normal is far more important at this stage
> >> then how to administer medicine. That can be learned quickly.
> >> Please reread my post and do not misquote me.
> >>
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> >> On Behalf Of Deborah Kent Stein
> >> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 9:23 AM
> >> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >> Hi, Angelina,
> >>
> >> I remember being a mother-to-be and feeling anxious about what I would
> >> do if my baby got sick.  Sighted people were endlessly asking me how I
> >> would handle emergencies, how I would get her to the ER if she was hurt
> >> or ill and there was nobody around to drive, how I would take her temp,
> >> and of course, how I would measure medicine.  I wanted above all things
> >> to be a good mom and to keep my baby healthy and safe, so I would
> >> probably have been thinking about all of those things anyway, but the
> >> worries of the people around me certainly kept it high on my horizon!
> >> It is not surprising to me at all that you are thinking about how you
> >> will give medicine if you need to.  I don't think it suggests "an
> >> underlying problem," I think it indicates that like any conscientious
> >> mother you want to do your very best.
> >>
> >> And I'm confident that you will!
> >>
> >> Debbie
> >>
> >> ----- Original Message -----
> >> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> >> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> >> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 7:24 AM
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
> >>
> >>
> >>> Hi Anjilina. Here are my thoughts;
> >>> 1. If you've got time to come up with a theme for your newborn's room,
> >>> you've got time to get your ducks in a row regarding the hospital,
> >>> finding a peditritian, and if you plan to work, finding childcare.
> >> Take
> >>> care of that first.
> >>> 2. Newborns don't care about the theme of their room. There is a law
> >>> that says, the more time and money you spend on it, the less your baby
> >>> will sleep there.
> >>> 3. The absolutes that you need to have are these;
> >>> 1 diapers
> >>> 2 carseat
> >>> 3 clothes
> >>> 4 wipes which can be as simple as cut up cloth and water
> >>> 5. a disposal system for human waste
> >>> 5. You shouldn't have to give your newborn medicine unless there is a
> >>> condition that you know of now. Even tyenol is a bad idea until two
> >>> months, or so we were told. If you think you need to give your newborn
> >>> meds, you have an underlying problem which needs to be addressed.
> >>> 6. You will never "have everything you need". There will be things you
> >>> think of after the baby is born. Also, babies and children change over
> >>> time. What you need for anewborn will not be what you need for a
> >> toddler
> >>> and so it goes.
> >>>
> >>> Given your situation, I'd not worry about the theme for your baby's
> >>> room. We didn't have one as we didn't have time.
> >>> You will also want a crib, though you probably don't *need* one right
> >>> away. What you will need is aplace to put the baby and if money is an
> >>> issue, I'd suggest a bucket carseat as it will give you both acarseat
> >> as
> >>> well as a seat for the baby.
> >>> Btw, didn't you also have another baby shower? What happened to those
> >>> gifts? Look and see what you got in that stash, you do not need to
> >>> reinvent the wheel here.
> >>> You'll be fine.
> >>> Lastly, Veronica says you tried to write me privately. If you did, I
> >>> never got a note, hence could not respond.
> >>> The most important thing your child needs is lots of physical contact,
> >>> food, and a clean butt.
> >>>
> >>>
> >>> -----Original Message-----
> >>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> >>> On Behalf Of Anjelina
> >>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 3:03 AM
> >>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> >>> Subject: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
> >>>
> >>> 1. Did you use a theme for your newborns room? If so did you go based
> >> on
> >>> texture of colors?
> >>> 2. What adaptive equipment did you have to purchase?
> >>> I went browsing with my sister and saw ear thermometers and medicine
> >>> spoons.
> >>> I didn't know if most off the shelf products are accessible to use.
> >>> 3. I've decided to use a sling so she is closer to me, but did you use
> >> a
> >>> stroller at times?
> >>> I'm trying to add items to a registry but I don't want to add things
> >>> that I won't use.
> >>> Thanks for any answers.
> >>> Anjelina
> >>>
> >>>
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