[blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items

Dena Wainwright autumnrose21 at gmail.com
Thu Jan 15 04:30:19 UTC 2009 

I hear you. I can't imagine doing this whole mom thing without my husband 
and our families and friends.
Dena

----- Original Message ----- 
From: <kate02 at bellsouth.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 9:16 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items


> Hi to all of you and happy new-year.
>
> So after dealing with e-mail issues I found time to see what I’ve been 
> missing and I just don’t know what to say.  We all have our opinions, and 
> our circumstances differ but for the most part things go smoothly.  It is 
> fair to say that e-mail can be difficult to read the way it is intended, 
> it’s just how it is, but after reading threw a lot of messages I’m 
> confused.  What does giving meds have to do with setting up a nursery?  I’m 
> just curious.
>
> Now to just say my Pease, I can’t imagine going threw pregnancy on my own. 
> I was fortunate to have a partner to help me and make certain our wishes 
> were respected.  It would be logical that when your on your own, there 
> would be no one to speak up if you were unable to voice your concerns. 
> Also, I think the experience of parenting with a partner or not would be 
> different depending on your income.  There are services available if you 
> can pay and we all have to choose what we are willing to pay others to do 
> so we don’t have to.  I personally respect single Moms because I just don’t 
> know if I could do it myself.
>
> Just my thoughts.
>
> Kate
>
> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> From: "Pipi" <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
>>
>> very well put tammy.
>> i was there a few months ago. i found out about savannah when the birth
>> mother was 5 months along. this didn't give me much time to prepare. and
>> like i've stated before, i made a list of anything and everything i could
>> research and think of.  i wanted to prepare. i even thought to the future 
>> to
>> find out how i could help with homework and such, and that is years down 
>> the
>> line.
>> i turned to people for support . i was overwhelmed and  had a lot to do 
>> in a
>> short amount of time. i needed helpful support. I needed people to help
>> guide me and help me get my priorities in line, but i didn't need it done 
>> in
>> a manner that made me feel bad.
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 12:14 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>
>>
>> > Hi,
>> >
>> > Rebecca, this is not  amedical list, it's a parenting one.  The 
>> > original
>> > question was not a medical one, it was a question about how to give
>> > medacin when needed.  I'm sure we can rest assured that Angelina's 
>> > doctors
>> > will advise her when and when not to give medacin.  Your posts, while 
>> > they
>> > may contain some useful information for some people, may also make 
>> > mothers
>> > to be scared and unsure of what they are doing at a time when we neede 
>> > to
>> > be a help and a confidence boost to them.  Most of us remember this
>> > feeling as we've been through it before, but for a first time mother 
>> > and a
>> > single parent this time can be overwhelming and very scarey.  I think 
>> > it's
>> > important to give people the facts, but you also need to take feelings 
>> > in
>> > to account here, and think about how much information is too much
>> > information at one time.  I know your intentions were good, but 
>> > remember
>> > back when you were at the end stage of your pregnancy, I know, you only
>> > knew for the 6 weeks leading up to your baby's birth, but remember how
>> > scared you were, and all the things you had to think about.  Then think
>> > about all of that again, only imagine yourself with no husband to 
>> > support
>> > you.  I hope you get my point, and I hope you dohn't think I'm trying 
>> > to
>> > be harsh or unkind.  I'm certainly not!  I'm trying to consider the
>> > feelings of somebody who might be a little more scared then they'd like 
>> > to
>> > admit, and I'm thinking of how I would feel in there position, because 
>> > I
>> > remember it very well, and not too fondly.
>> >
>> > Tammy
>> > ----- Original Message ----- 
>> > From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> > To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> > Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 10:39 AM
>> > Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>> >
>> >
>> >> Debbie,
>> >> You misread my intent.
>> >> What I was trying to convey is that newborns shouldn't need medicine.
>> >> With a cranky older baby, you can easily say "A shot of tyenol will
>> >> help".
>> >> This isn't true of a newborn.
>> >> We were told no medicine for a newborn, ad if we felt we needed 
>> >> medicine
>> >> that that in and of itself was a problem.
>> >> This was lifted after two months.
>> >> My point is that while Anjelina does need to figure out how she will
>> >> administer meds, she doesn't need to think that the first thing she 
>> >> will
>> >> do is dole them out right away.
>> >> If she does feel that medicine would help, the baby cries "too much" 
>> >> or
>> >> "won't sleep" or any other thinking, she does need to seek medical
>> >> advice.
>> >> Knowing what is and isn't normal is far more important at this stage
>> >> then how to administer medicine. That can be learned quickly.
>> >> Please reread my post and do not misquote me.
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> -----Original Message-----
>> >> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> >> On Behalf Of Deborah Kent Stein
>> >> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 9:23 AM
>> >> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>> >>
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> Hi, Angelina,
>> >>
>> >> I remember being a mother-to-be and feeling anxious about what I would
>> >> do if my baby got sick.  Sighted people were endlessly asking me how I
>> >> would handle emergencies, how I would get her to the ER if she was 
>> >> hurt
>> >> or ill and there was nobody around to drive, how I would take her 
>> >> temp,
>> >> and of course, how I would measure medicine.  I wanted above all 
>> >> things
>> >> to be a good mom and to keep my baby healthy and safe, so I would
>> >> probably have been thinking about all of those things anyway, but the
>> >> worries of the people around me certainly kept it high on my horizon!
>> >> It is not surprising to me at all that you are thinking about how you
>> >> will give medicine if you need to.  I don't think it suggests "an
>> >> underlying problem," I think it indicates that like any conscientious
>> >> mother you want to do your very best.
>> >>
>> >> And I'm confident that you will!
>> >>
>> >> Debbie
>> >>
>> >> ----- Original Message -----
>> >> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> >> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> >> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 7:24 AM
>> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>> >>
>> >>
>> >>> Hi Anjilina. Here are my thoughts;
>> >>> 1. If you've got time to come up with a theme for your newborn's 
>> >>> room,
>> >>> you've got time to get your ducks in a row regarding the hospital,
>> >>> finding a peditritian, and if you plan to work, finding childcare.
>> >> Take
>> >>> care of that first.
>> >>> 2. Newborns don't care about the theme of their room. There is a law
>> >>> that says, the more time and money you spend on it, the less your 
>> >>> baby
>> >>> will sleep there.
>> >>> 3. The absolutes that you need to have are these;
>> >>> 1 diapers
>> >>> 2 carseat
>> >>> 3 clothes
>> >>> 4 wipes which can be as simple as cut up cloth and water
>> >>> 5. a disposal system for human waste
>> >>> 5. You shouldn't have to give your newborn medicine unless there is a
>> >>> condition that you know of now. Even tyenol is a bad idea until two
>> >>> months, or so we were told. If you think you need to give your 
>> >>> newborn
>> >>> meds, you have an underlying problem which needs to be addressed.
>> >>> 6. You will never "have everything you need". There will be things 
>> >>> you
>> >>> think of after the baby is born. Also, babies and children change 
>> >>> over
>> >>> time. What you need for anewborn will not be what you need for a
>> >> toddler
>> >>> and so it goes.
>> >>>
>> >>> Given your situation, I'd not worry about the theme for your baby's
>> >>> room. We didn't have one as we didn't have time.
>> >>> You will also want a crib, though you probably don't *need* one right
>> >>> away. What you will need is aplace to put the baby and if money is an
>> >>> issue, I'd suggest a bucket carseat as it will give you both acarseat
>> >> as
>> >>> well as a seat for the baby.
>> >>> Btw, didn't you also have another baby shower? What happened to those
>> >>> gifts? Look and see what you got in that stash, you do not need to
>> >>> reinvent the wheel here.
>> >>> You'll be fine.
>> >>> Lastly, Veronica says you tried to write me privately. If you did, I
>> >>> never got a note, hence could not respond.
>> >>> The most important thing your child needs is lots of physical 
>> >>> contact,
>> >>> food, and a clean butt.
>> >>>
>> >>>
>> >>> -----Original Message-----
>> >>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
>> >>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> >>> On Behalf Of Anjelina
>> >>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 3:03 AM
>> >>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>> >>> Subject: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>> >>>
>> >>> 1. Did you use a theme for your newborns room? If so did you go based
>> >> on
>> >>> texture of colors?
>> >>> 2. What adaptive equipment did you have to purchase?
>> >>> I went browsing with my sister and saw ear thermometers and medicine
>> >>> spoons.
>> >>> I didn't know if most off the shelf products are accessible to use.
>> >>> 3. I've decided to use a sling so she is closer to me, but did you 
>> >>> use
>> >> a
>> >>> stroller at times?
>> >>> I'm trying to add items to a registry but I don't want to add things
>> >>> that I won't use.
>> >>> Thanks for any answers.
>> >>> Anjelina
>> >>>
>> >>>
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