[blparent] fear/anticipation of birth

Fri Jan 16 20:53:07 UTC 2009

Rebecca didn't have time to get scared.  On the otherhand, I didn't get that 
way until the last 2 weeks before she came.  Those were the weeks I was 
confined to that darn hospital bed. I had lots of time to lay there and 
worry. (lol) V
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Dena Wainwright" <autumnrose21 at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 6:00 PM
Subject: [blparent] fear/anticipation of birth

> Hi.
> I have to agree. I don't think I've met a first-time mom who wasn't at 
> least
> a bit afraid of some aspect of becoming a new parent. I know I was worried
> about the pain of labor, whether or not something would go wrong with 
> either
> me or the baby during delivery, how I would handle caring for such a
> helpless, little person, etc. I don't think this fear has anything to do
> with being blind--I think it's just a normal part of the process for all
> people. Just the other day, I asked my husband if he remembered how
> terrified we were when we brought Elise home that we would break her...
> Dena
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 6:35 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>
>
>> Hi,
>>
>> Well, you're the very first mother I know, and I know lots of mothers, 
>> who
>> wasn't scared or at least a little worried about being a first time
>> parent. As for you having a supportive husband, being able to talk and
>> make informed decisions together is the way you support each other.
>> That's him being supportive of you and you being supportive of him.  But
>> you've lost the point of my message.  The subject was purchasing baby
>> items, not when should I give my baby medacin.
>>
>> Tammy
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 3:31 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>
>>
>>> Tammy,
>>> I wasn't scared during the last of my pregnancy. Why would I be?
>>> Second, my husband doesn't support me. We both make informed decitions
>>> and talk about them.
>>> And I wasn't scared by new motherhood. I was shocked at how primitive a
>>> newborn is, but that was more like "Wow, it's amazing the human race
>>> survived"
>>> I've also had friends who do really dumb things because they don't know
>>> they can seek help.
>>> Anjilina's goal now needs to be making sure she has people in her
>>> community she trusts.
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 1:15 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>
>>> Hi,
>>>
>>> Rebecca, this is not  amedical list, it's a parenting one.  The original
>>> question was not a medical one, it was a question about how to give
>>> medacin when needed.  I'm sure we can rest assured that Angelina's
>>> doctors will advise her when and when not to give medacin.  Your posts,
>>> while they may contain some useful information for some people, may also
>>> make mothers to be scared and unsure of what they are doing at a time
>>> when we neede to be a help and a confidence boost to them.  Most of us
>>> remember this feeling as we've been through it before, but for a first
>>> time mother and a single parent this time can be overwhelming and very
>>> scarey.  I think it's important to give people the facts, but you also
>>> need to take feelings in to account here, and think about how much
>>> information is too much information at one time.  I know your intentions
>>> were good, but remember back when you were at the end stage of your
>>> pregnancy, I know, you only knew for the 6 weeks leading up to your
>>> baby's birth, but remember how scared you were, and all the things you
>>> had to think about.  Then think about all of that again, only imagine
>>> yourself with no husband to support you.  I hope you get my point, and I
>>> hope you dohn't think I'm trying to be harsh or unkind.  I'm certainly
>>> not!  I'm trying to consider the feelings of somebody who might be a
>>> little more scared then they'd like to admit, and I'm thinking of how I
>>> would feel in there position, because I remember it very well, and not
>>> too fondly.
>>>
>>> Tammy
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 10:39 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>
>>>
>>>> Debbie,
>>>> You misread my intent.
>>>> What I was trying to convey is that newborns shouldn't need medicine.
>>>> With a cranky older baby, you can easily say "A shot of tyenol will
>>>> help".
>>>> This isn't true of a newborn.
>>>> We were told no medicine for a newborn, ad if we felt we needed
>>> medicine
>>>> that that in and of itself was a problem.
>>>> This was lifted after two months.
>>>> My point is that while Anjelina does need to figure out how she will
>>>> administer meds, she doesn't need to think that the first thing she
>>> will
>>>> do is dole them out right away.
>>>> If she does feel that medicine would help, the baby cries "too much"
>>> or
>>>> "won't sleep" or any other thinking, she does need to seek medical
>>>> advice.
>>>> Knowing what is and isn't normal is far more important at this stage
>>>> then how to administer medicine. That can be learned quickly.
>>>> Please reread my post and do not misquote me.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>> On Behalf Of Deborah Kent Stein
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 9:23 AM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Hi, Angelina,
>>>>
>>>> I remember being a mother-to-be and feeling anxious about what I would
>>>> do if my baby got sick.  Sighted people were endlessly asking me how I
>>>> would handle emergencies, how I would get her to the ER if she was
>>> hurt
>>>> or ill and there was nobody around to drive, how I would take her
>>> temp,
>>>> and of course, how I would measure medicine.  I wanted above all
>>> things
>>>> to be a good mom and to keep my baby healthy and safe, so I would
>>>> probably have been thinking about all of those things anyway, but the
>>>> worries of the people around me certainly kept it high on my horizon!
>>>> It is not surprising to me at all that you are thinking about how you
>>>> will give medicine if you need to.  I don't think it suggests "an
>>>> underlying problem," I think it indicates that like any conscientious
>>>> mother you want to do your very best.
>>>>
>>>> And I'm confident that you will!
>>>>
>>>> Debbie
>>>>
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M. (TASCSD)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 7:24 AM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> Hi Anjilina. Here are my thoughts;
>>>>> 1. If you've got time to come up with a theme for your newborn's
>>> room,
>>>>> you've got time to get your ducks in a row regarding the hospital,
>>>>> finding a peditritian, and if you plan to work, finding childcare.
>>>> Take
>>>>> care of that first.
>>>>> 2. Newborns don't care about the theme of their room. There is a law
>>>>> that says, the more time and money you spend on it, the less your
>>> baby
>>>>> will sleep there.
>>>>> 3. The absolutes that you need to have are these;
>>>>> 1 diapers
>>>>> 2 carseat
>>>>> 3 clothes
>>>>> 4 wipes which can be as simple as cut up cloth and water
>>>>> 5. a disposal system for human waste
>>>>> 5. You shouldn't have to give your newborn medicine unless there is a
>>>>> condition that you know of now. Even tyenol is a bad idea until two
>>>>> months, or so we were told. If you think you need to give your
>>> newborn
>>>>> meds, you have an underlying problem which needs to be addressed.
>>>>> 6. You will never "have everything you need". There will be things
>>> you
>>>>> think of after the baby is born. Also, babies and children change
>>> over
>>>>> time. What you need for anewborn will not be what you need for a
>>>> toddler
>>>>> and so it goes.
>>>>>
>>>>> Given your situation, I'd not worry about the theme for your baby's
>>>>> room. We didn't have one as we didn't have time.
>>>>> You will also want a crib, though you probably don't *need* one right
>>>>> away. What you will need is aplace to put the baby and if money is an
>>>>> issue, I'd suggest a bucket carseat as it will give you both acarseat
>>>> as
>>>>> well as a seat for the baby.
>>>>> Btw, didn't you also have another baby shower? What happened to those
>>>>> gifts? Look and see what you got in that stash, you do not need to
>>>>> reinvent the wheel here.
>>>>> You'll be fine.
>>>>> Lastly, Veronica says you tried to write me privately. If you did, I
>>>>> never got a note, hence could not respond.
>>>>> The most important thing your child needs is lots of physical
>>> contact,
>>>>> food, and a clean butt.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>> On Behalf Of Anjelina
>>>>> Sent: Wednesday, January 14, 2009 3:03 AM
>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Questions about purchasing baby items
>>>>>
>>>>> 1. Did you use a theme for your newborns room? If so did you go based
>>>> on
>>>>> texture of colors?
>>>>> 2. What adaptive equipment did you have to purchase?
>>>>> I went browsing with my sister and saw ear thermometers and medicine
>>>>> spoons.
>>>>> I didn't know if most off the shelf products are accessible to use.
>>>>> 3. I've decided to use a sling so she is closer to me, but did you
>>> use
>>>> a
>>>>> stroller at times?
>>>>> I'm trying to add items to a registry but I don't want to add things
>>>>> that I won't use.
>>>>> Thanks for any answers.
>>>>> Anjelina
>>>>>
>>>>>
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