[blparent] Help

[Veronica Smith]

Kate, punishing your child for their opinion is not so good in my book, but when she says blind people can't do this or that, point out the things they can do.  You can cook, bake, clean, vacuum, dust, walk, run, play baseball, shoot hoops.  Then ask them what is it exactly  that you can't do.  I always say I can drive, but not safely on a city street. V

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:31 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Help


Hi Jennifer.

This sounds familiar, our oldest is six and we started having issues after she started attending school.

I think this has a lot to do with the way the public view vision loss.  And when your kids are in school your not there to correct misinformation.

This may sound cold, but when our Daughter makes a comment about how her dad and I can’t do something because we’re blind we give her a time out and tell her otherwise.  Its not only school but family that can unknowingly send negative messages about the blind.  This is just a slippery slope, and I don’t think there is one answer, but I’m hoping this is just a tactic for six year olds to push the envelope and will pass.

Hope this helps, sari I don’t have more.

Kate
  
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From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
>
My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3 days a 
week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who will be 6 soon told 
him today that she does the things that she does that are bad because he can't 
see her do them.  This hurt him very much.  We are not sure what to do at this 
point and any advice would be helpful.  I have tried spending extra time with 
her when I can and giving her some positive attention.  This week we have 
swimming which we always do together not only has a family but we each take some 
individual time with both of the kids, we also are taking both the kids to a 
carnival on friday and we are all going to the zoo on saturday.  We really try 
to spend as much time as we can with them in the positive and not sure why my 
daughter is lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at home she 
doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she doesn't do it 
> either.  Just with him.
> 
> Jennifer and Dustin
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