[blparent] Help

[kate02 at bellsouth.net]

I think its OK to punish a child when behavior is defiant.  I should have been clear.  I was saying we give her a time out when she makes a comment about how we can’t do something because we’re blind because she is being disrespectful to an adult by avoiding what needs to be done at the time.  Her argument is just a tactic to procrastinate.  She has lots of time to share her opinion, but I don’t tolerate sassy children and call it freedom of speech.  If I mouthed off to a boss I would lose my job.

Just my thoughts
Kate
  
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From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>
Kate, punishing your child for their opinion is not so good in my book, but when 
she says blind people can't do this or that, point out the things they can do.  
You can cook, bake, clean, vacuum, dust, walk, run, play baseball, shoot hoops.  
Then ask them what is it exactly  that you can't do.  I always say I can drive, 
> but not safely on a city street. V
> 
> -----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf 
> Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:31 AM
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> 
> Hi Jennifer.
> 
This sounds familiar, our oldest is six and we started having issues after she 
> started attending school.
> 
I think this has a lot to do with the way the public view vision loss.  And when 
> your kids are in school your not there to correct misinformation.
> 
This may sound cold, but when our Daughter makes a comment about how her dad and 
> I can’t do something because we’re blind we give her a time out and tell her 
> otherwise.  Its not only school but family that can unknowingly send negative 
> messages about the blind.  This is just a slippery slope, and I don’t think 
> there is one answer, but I’m hoping this is just a tactic for six year olds to 
> push the envelope and will pass.
> 
> Hope this helps, sari I don’t have more.
> 
> Kate
>   
> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
> >
> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3 days a 
> week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who will be 6 soon told 
> him today that she does the things that she does that are bad because he can't 
> see her do them.  This hurt him very much.  We are not sure what to do at this 
> point and any advice would be helpful.  I have tried spending extra time with 
> her when I can and giving her some positive attention.  This week we have 
> swimming which we always do together not only has a family but we each take some 
> individual time with both of the kids, we also are taking both the kids to a 
> carnival on friday and we are all going to the zoo on saturday.  We really try 
> to spend as much time as we can with them in the positive and not sure why my 
> daughter is lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at home she 
> doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she doesn't do it 
> > either.  Just with him.
> > 
> > Jennifer and Dustin
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