[blparent] Help

Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS) REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com
Fri Jul 17 12:20:30 UTC 2009 

Totally agree. Parenting classes for all of you and a hug to your
daughter.  

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
On Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
Sent: Friday, July 17, 2009 8:00 AM
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Subject: Re: [blparent] Help


Hmm, this post just showed the hole problem.  First I find it sickening
that you would feel that smacking a little kid in the face is
appropriate discipline.  Also can't you talk to your kid with out extra
people it sounds like a bunch of adults ganging up on a kid just because
their bigger.  There is a difference between the punishment fits the
crime and just being an ass.

I understand that your frustrated but the kid's doctor isn't going to
care when they want to know why your kid has a dislocated jaw.  Maybe
you and your Boyfriend and the child's Father and step Mother should
look in to parenting classes.  I am floored that you are baffled as to
why your Daughter is being disrespectful.  The answer is simple her
models of respect are sort of suckish.

Good luck with all that, Blindness isn't the issue.

Kate
  
-------------- Original message ----------------------
From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
>
> when she gets a sassy tounge she usually gets slapped in the face for
it. 
> We had a great talk with her tonight all 4 of us, me, dustin, her dad 
> and his wife.  We decided that at first she could goto the pool and 
> sit on the bench for 10 mins and watch her brother and other kids play

> as a lesson, but when we got home tonight she decided to tell me I 
> smelled like a B**** so now she gets to stay at home with her mean
step uncle.
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:46 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> 
> 
> > Oh, you're right, no sassy tongues here either. V
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
> > [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of 
> > kate02 at bellsouth.net
> > Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:41 PM
> > To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> > Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> >
> >
> > I think its OK to punish a child when behavior is defiant.  I should

> > have been clear.  I was saying we give her a time out when she makes

> > a comment about how we can't do something because we're blind 
> > because she is being disrespectful to an adult by avoiding what
needs to be done at the time.
> > Her argument is just a tactic to procrastinate.  She has lots of 
> > time to share her opinion, but I don't tolerate sassy children and 
> > call it freedom of speech.  If I mouthed off to a boss I would lose
my job.
> >
> > Just my thoughts
> > Kate
> >
> > -------------- Original message ----------------------
> > From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> >>
> > Kate, punishing your child for their opinion is not so good in my 
> > book, but when she says blind people can't do this or that, point 
> > out the things they can do.
> > You can cook, bake, clean, vacuum, dust, walk, run, play baseball, 
> > shoot hoops.
> > Then ask them what is it exactly  that you can't do.  I always say I

> > can drive,
> >> but not safely on a city street. V
> >>
> >> -----Original Message-----
> > From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
> > [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf
> >> Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
> >> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:31 AM
> >> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> >> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
> >>
> >>
> >> Hi Jennifer.
> >>
> > This sounds familiar, our oldest is six and we started having issues

> > after she
> >> started attending school.
> >>
> > I think this has a lot to do with the way the public view vision
loss. 
> > And when
> >> your kids are in school your not there to correct misinformation.
> >>
> > This may sound cold, but when our Daughter makes a comment about how

> > her dad and
> >> I can't do something because we're blind we give her a time out and

> >> tell her otherwise.  Its not only school but family that can 
> >> unknowingly send negative messages about the blind.  This is just a

> >> slippery slope, and I don't think there is one answer, but I'm 
> >> hoping this is just a tactic for six year olds to push the envelope

> >> and will pass.
> >>
> >> Hope this helps, sari I don't have more.
> >>
> >> Kate
> >>
> >> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> >> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
> >> >
> >> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or

> >> 3 days a week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter 
> >> who will be 6 soon told him today that she does the things that she

> >> does that are bad because he can't see her do them.  This hurt him 
> >> very much.  We are not sure what to do at this point and any advice

> >> would be helpful.  I have tried spending extra time with her when I

> >> can and giving her some positive attention.  This week we have 
> >> swimming which we always do together not only has a family but we 
> >> each take some individual time with both of the kids, we also are 
> >> taking both the kids to a carnival on friday and we are all going 
> >> to the zoo on saturday.  We really try to spend as much time as we 
> >> can with them in the positive and not sure why my daughter is 
> >> lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at home she 
> >> doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she 
> >> doesn't do it
> >> > either.  Just with him.
> >> >
> >> > Jennifer and Dustin
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