[blparent] Sassy Children

Sat Jul 18 01:14:35 UTC 2009

Hear, hear! V

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From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On Behalf Of Allie
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 11:05 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: [blparent] Sassy Children

Now, I realize I might have an unpopular opinion, but I believe that even 
two-year-olds can be sassy ... mine is going through this phase where she 
thinks she can scream at Mommy when she's upset. If I tell her no (because 
that's usually all it takes), she starts crying. Well, I wouldn't even 
really call it crying, more like whining. I ignore that, because it's not 
worth giving her attention for the whining. As soon as she starts screaming 
at me, though, she gets spanked for it. I try not to use spanking for 
everything, but disrespect is one of those things that will certainly 
warrant a spanking.

Some would say that perhaps she is just venting frustration and doesn't know 
any other way to do it. That is fine with me. She can cry about it if she 
wants, in another room, but I won't tolerate screaming or yelling back at 
me.

I try to talk to her, before and after the spanking, using simple sentences, 
hoping that if she doesn't understand now, she will eventually grow to learn 
what it all means.

-- Allie

----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 6:36 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help

> when she gets a sassy tounge she usually gets slapped in the face for it. 
> We had a great talk with her tonight all 4 of us, me, dustin, her dad and 
> his wife.  We decided that at first she could goto the pool and sit on the 
> bench for 10 mins and watch her brother and other kids play as a lesson, 
> but when we got home tonight she decided to tell me I smelled like a B**** 
> so now she gets to stay at home with her mean step uncle.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:46 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>
>
>> Oh, you're right, no sassy tongues here either. V
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>> Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:41 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>
>>
>> I think its OK to punish a child when behavior is defiant.  I should have 
>> been clear.  I was saying we give her a time out when she makes a comment 
>> about how we can’t do something because we’re blind because she is being 
>> disrespectful to an adult by avoiding what needs to be done at the time. 
>> Her argument is just a tactic to procrastinate.  She has lots of time to 
>> share her opinion, but I don’t tolerate sassy children and call it 
>> freedom of speech.  If I mouthed off to a boss I would lose my job.
>>
>> Just my thoughts
>> Kate
>>
>> -------------- Original message ----------------------
>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>>
>> Kate, punishing your child for their opinion is not so good in my book, 
>> but when
>> she says blind people can't do this or that, point out the things they 
>> can do.
>> You can cook, bake, clean, vacuum, dust, walk, run, play baseball, shoot 
>> hoops.
>> Then ask them what is it exactly  that you can't do.  I always say I can 
>> drive,
>>> but not safely on a city street. V
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On 
>> Behalf
>>> Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:31 AM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>>
>>>
>>> Hi Jennifer.
>>>
>> This sounds familiar, our oldest is six and we started having issues 
>> after she
>>> started attending school.
>>>
>> I think this has a lot to do with the way the public view vision loss. 
>> And when
>>> your kids are in school your not there to correct misinformation.
>>>
>> This may sound cold, but when our Daughter makes a comment about how her 
>> dad and
>>> I can’t do something because we’re blind we give her a time out and tell 
>>> her
>>> otherwise.  Its not only school but family that can unknowingly send 
>>> negative
>>> messages about the blind.  This is just a slippery slope, and I don’t 
>>> think
>>> there is one answer, but I’m hoping this is just a tactic for six year 
>>> olds to
>>> push the envelope and will pass.
>>>
>>> Hope this helps, sari I don’t have more.
>>>
>>> Kate
>>>
>>> -------------- Original message ----------------------
>>> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
>>> >
>>> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3 
>>> days a
>>> week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who will be 6 
>>> soon told
>>> him today that she does the things that she does that are bad because he 
>>> can't
>>> see her do them.  This hurt him very much.  We are not sure what to do 
>>> at this
>>> point and any advice would be helpful.  I have tried spending extra time 
>>> with
>>> her when I can and giving her some positive attention.  This week we 
>>> have
>>> swimming which we always do together not only has a family but we each 
>>> take some
>>> individual time with both of the kids, we also are taking both the kids 
>>> to a
>>> carnival on friday and we are all going to the zoo on saturday.  We 
>>> really try
>>> to spend as much time as we can with them in the positive and not sure 
>>> why my
>>> daughter is lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at 
>>> home she
>>> doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she doesn't do 
>>> it
>>> > either.  Just with him.
>>> >
>>> > Jennifer and Dustin
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