[blparent] Sassy Children

Sat Jul 18 02:38:01 UTC 2009

She's two...She can understand those things.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Allie" <alliemartins at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 11:04 PM
Subject: [blparent] Sassy Children


> Now, I realize I might have an unpopular opinion, but I believe that even 
> two-year-olds can be sassy ... mine is going through this phase where she 
> thinks she can scream at Mommy when she's upset. If I tell her no (because 
> that's usually all it takes), she starts crying. Well, I wouldn't even 
> really call it crying, more like whining. I ignore that, because it's not 
> worth giving her attention for the whining. As soon as she starts 
> screaming at me, though, she gets spanked for it. I try not to use 
> spanking for everything, but disrespect is one of those things that will 
> certainly warrant a spanking.
>
> Some would say that perhaps she is just venting frustration and doesn't 
> know any other way to do it. That is fine with me. She can cry about it if 
> she wants, in another room, but I won't tolerate screaming or yelling back 
> at me.
>
> I try to talk to her, before and after the spanking, using simple 
> sentences, hoping that if she doesn't understand now, she will eventually 
> grow to learn what it all means.
>
> -- Allie
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
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> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 6:36 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
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>
>> when she gets a sassy tounge she usually gets slapped in the face for it. 
>> We had a great talk with her tonight all 4 of us, me, dustin, her dad and 
>> his wife.  We decided that at first she could goto the pool and sit on 
>> the bench for 10 mins and watch her brother and other kids play as a 
>> lesson, but when we got home tonight she decided to tell me I smelled 
>> like a B**** so now she gets to stay at home with her mean step uncle.
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:46 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
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>>
>>> Oh, you're right, no sassy tongues here either. V
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:41 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
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>>> I think its OK to punish a child when behavior is defiant.  I should 
>>> have been clear.  I was saying we give her a time out when she makes a 
>>> comment about how we can’t do something because we’re blind because she 
>>> is being disrespectful to an adult by avoiding what needs to be done at 
>>> the time. Her argument is just a tactic to procrastinate.  She has lots 
>>> of time to share her opinion, but I don’t tolerate sassy children and 
>>> call it freedom of speech.  If I mouthed off to a boss I would lose my 
>>> job.
>>>
>>> Just my thoughts
>>> Kate
>>>
>>> -------------- Original message ----------------------
>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>>>
>>> Kate, punishing your child for their opinion is not so good in my book, 
>>> but when
>>> she says blind people can't do this or that, point out the things they 
>>> can do.
>>> You can cook, bake, clean, vacuum, dust, walk, run, play baseball, shoot 
>>> hoops.
>>> Then ask them what is it exactly  that you can't do.  I always say I can 
>>> drive,
>>>> but not safely on a city street. V
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] 
>>> On Behalf
>>>> Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
>>>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 5:31 AM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Hi Jennifer.
>>>>
>>> This sounds familiar, our oldest is six and we started having issues 
>>> after she
>>>> started attending school.
>>>>
>>> I think this has a lot to do with the way the public view vision loss. 
>>> And when
>>>> your kids are in school your not there to correct misinformation.
>>>>
>>> This may sound cold, but when our Daughter makes a comment about how her 
>>> dad and
>>>> I can’t do something because we’re blind we give her a time out and 
>>>> tell her
>>>> otherwise.  Its not only school but family that can unknowingly send 
>>>> negative
>>>> messages about the blind.  This is just a slippery slope, and I don’t 
>>>> think
>>>> there is one answer, but I’m hoping this is just a tactic for six year 
>>>> olds to
>>>> push the envelope and will pass.
>>>>
>>>> Hope this helps, sari I don’t have more.
>>>>
>>>> Kate
>>>>
>>>> -------------- Original message ----------------------
>>>> From: "Jennifer Massey" <renandstimpy3 at comcast.net>
>>>> >
>>>> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 3 
>>>> days a
>>>> week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who will be 6 
>>>> soon told
>>>> him today that she does the things that she does that are bad because 
>>>> he can't
>>>> see her do them.  This hurt him very much.  We are not sure what to do 
>>>> at this
>>>> point and any advice would be helpful.  I have tried spending extra 
>>>> time with
>>>> her when I can and giving her some positive attention.  This week we 
>>>> have
>>>> swimming which we always do together not only has a family but we each 
>>>> take some
>>>> individual time with both of the kids, we also are taking both the kids 
>>>> to a
>>>> carnival on friday and we are all going to the zoo on saturday.  We 
>>>> really try
>>>> to spend as much time as we can with them in the positive and not sure 
>>>> why my
>>>> daughter is lashing out so much towards him in general.  When I am at 
>>>> home she
>>>> doesn't do this and when she is with her dad and his wife she doesn't 
>>>> do it
>>>> > either.  Just with him.
>>>> >
>>>> > Jennifer and Dustin
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