[blparent] sassy children

[Sean Paul]

I think it is very important early on to explain to our children that every 
body has differences in themselves. Some people are blind, others are fat, 
others are skinny, etc, etc. And that we're all different in our own way. 
And that we should except everyone for who they are. And that one shouldn't 
judge another unless they want themselves judged as equally hard. That we 
should look past what is on the outside and look on the inside. That we all 
have habbits and yours are no better than someone elses. I think that if we 
do this it is easier for our children to except others.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Amy Murillo-Hicks" <amym2 at cox.net>
To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Saturday, July 18, 2009 12:14
Subject: [blparent] sassy children


> Just to add some additional thoughts to the sassy children  subject.
>
>
> 1.  This is so particularly hurtful coming from our own children.  We give 
> them everything including our whole hearts souls and all of our dreams. 
> So much of our own ego is wrapped up in everything they do.  We deal with 
> the blindness ignorance crap every day from everyone else and to get it 
> thrown back at us from our own must be so much more of a slap in the face 
> to us as parents.
> 2.  If blindness is a non issue in the home, then it should in turn be a 
> non issue to the child.  The question then becomes where is it coming in. 
> Kids pick up everything and internalize it, spit it back out and see how 
> it plays with their most important audience,  us as parents.
>
> I am really really fortunate in not having to deal with this with my kids 
> because I think I made a conscious effort to be sure my kids when they 
> were little have no contact with anyone who would demean my ability to 
> parent.  Some would say that I was being unrealistic and that it will come 
> up later and then be a problem.  What I can tell you is when my oldest was 
> in Sunday school at age 4 and the subject of Jesus healing the blind came 
> up, my child got in an argument with  his teacher and said that the blind 
> people had nothing wrong with them and neither did his mom.   This pattern 
> continues in other situations to this day.  When we encountered people on 
> the street who would make unthinking comments, we would talk about it 
> right away.
>
> I saw this is being the same for my oldest child who is bi-racial with his 
> father absent.  I needed to work extra hard in instilling in him a sense 
> of pride in who he is.
>
> Teaching about pride and surrounding ourselves with good role models so 
> far has been really key for us.
>
> Also catching them when they do bad stuff when you are in another room 
> doesn't hurt either.l..
>
> Just more comments from the peanut gallery.
>
> Amy M-H
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