[blparent] Help

Tue Jul 21 02:40:52 UTC 2009

Yeah, I realized that as I hit the send key, but it was definitely too late.
Smile! Hello to all. V

-----Original Message-----
From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
Behalf Of Pipi
Sent: Monday, July 20, 2009 6:24 PM
To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help

lol v you are confusing jo elizabeth and myself. this is pipi. my niece and 
nephew live with me.  i don't have a step son, just my daughter savannah.
Pipi
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Monday, July 20, 2009 4:01 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help

> Oh, my husband's cousins used to play practical jokes on me because I am
> blind.  They did it to be funny and I do have a good sense of humor.  I 
> did
> not know your niece and nephew were living with you, I thought only your
> stepson.  Then Jo elizabeth, you better get on the ball and teach them a
> thing or two.  Is this going to be permanent or are they just passing
> through? V
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
> Behalf Of Pipi
> Sent: Monday, July 20, 2009 2:48 PM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>
> i only mentioned my niece and nephew, because they do live with me.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Monday, July 20, 2009 2:27 PM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>
>
>>I agree that nieces and nephews and cousins play such tricks upon us, but
>> usually not the children who live in your own house.  They should have
>> more
>> respect for their parents and their parent's mates.  Regardless if that
>> mate
>> is blind or sighted.  It makes me wonder what else is going on with this
>> child and why she feels the need to lash out at mom and boyfriend. V
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Pipi
>> Sent: Monday, July 20, 2009 11:24 AM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>
>> i've been away for over a week and am not all the way through my email
>> yet,
>> but i had one quick thought on this. at 6 years old, your daughter knows,
>> or
>>
>> at least should know better than to push out the screen and throw her 
>> toys
>> out. she is a kid and no one is perfect, but i would personally take the
>> toys away from her for a while. she obviously didn't want them too badly
>> if
>> she throws them outside.
>> just my thoughts.
>> oh and the doing things because your boyfriend can't see is a normal kid
>> thing. my niece and nephew do it to me. your boyfriend needs to find
>> different ways to know what she is doing, if that makes any sense. she
>> will
>> learn that although he can't see, he is still in charge and knows if i do
>> something i'm not supposed to do, he'll know about it and there will be
>> consequences. if he can't tell that the kids are doing things they aren't
>> supposed to be doing, perhaps he needs to interact with them more?
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: <kate02 at bellsouth.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 12:22 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>
>>
>>>
>>> I have been thinking more on this and was thinking about how much time
>>> you
>>
>>> spend taking your Daughter out to do fun things with your boyfriend.
>>>
>>> I found with my oldest that if you take the outing away because of the
>>> bad
>>
>>> behavior it stops faster.  I also found that if you plan extra fun 
>>> things
>>> in an attempt to create understanding in a way it just reinforces the 
>>> bad
>>> behavior because even though she tosses her toys out the window she will
>>> still go and at six they learn that real fast.  Trust me take away TV or
>>> cancel a fun trip because of bad behavior and you will have fast 
>>> results.
>>>
>>> Hope this helps.
>>>
>>> Kate
>>>
>>> -------------- Original message ----------------------
>>> From: Mark Melonson <variant at pcdesk.net>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> Jennifer,
>>>>
>>>> Keep your head up... From my "limitted" experience with this subject
>>>> with
>>
>>>> my
>>>> girls and younger cousins, it is usually just a matter of time before
>>>> they
>>>> grow out of it. In my case, there were two reasons why my younger
>>>> cousins
>>>> acted similarly when I was watchign them. 1) They thought that they
>>>> could
>>>> get away with it, because I couldn't see them. 2) They thought that I
>>>> was
>>>> treated as someone who was more "special" than them when around those
>>>> who
>>>> they accepted as having authority over them (parents, grandparents,
>>>> etc...)
>>>> In the case of the former, it may just be a matter of re-enforcing the
>>>> idea
>>>> that, though he is blind, he is capable of finding out when she is
>>>> misbehaving and WILL do so. This was generally the case with my younger
>>>> cousins when I'd babysit them. Once they realized that they weren't
>>>> going
>>
>>>> to
>>>> get away with it, and that I was paying close attention and routinely
>>>> caught
>>>> them, then it stopped, and one of them calls me Daredevil to this day.
>>>> In
>>>> the case of the latter, It is not that simple. Time fixed that one, but
>>>> it
>>>> took more than two years. This is quite common in children that age,
>>>> though
>>>> I know that probably doesn't help much to hear.
>>>>
>>>> All the best,
>>>> -Mark
>>>>
>>>> Jennifer Massey writes:
>>>>
>>>> > lovely a few years huh.  I guess telling her when she feels like she
>>>> > is
>>>> > going to be bad to come talk to us won't work then.  sorry being
>>>> > sarcastic a
>>>> > bit and fustrated.  Last week she pushed her screen out her window 
>>>> > and
>>>> > started throwing her toys out of it.  we live in an apartment and the
>>>> > rental
>>>> > office called him to let him know I was working a double.  last week 
>>>> > I
>>>> > worked 63 hours, worked 4 double shifts and still having financial
>>>> > issues
>>>> > and the kids just make me sooo fustrated when they do stuff like this
>>>> > and
>>>> > then finally to find out why makes it even more fustrating when we
>>>> > can't
>>>> > find a way to fix it.
>>>> >
>>>> > Jennifer and dustin
>>>> > ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> > From: "The BlindTechs Network" <info at theblindtechsnetwork.com>
>>>> > To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> > Sent: Wednesday, July 15, 2009 1:26 AM
>>>> > Subject: Re: [blparent] Help
>>>> >
>>>> >
>>>> >> she'll grow out of this. I currently deal with this with my 8 and a
>>>> >> half
>>>> >> year old daughter and I do everything humanly possible for her.
>>>> >>
>>>> >> it isn't an attention thing its a I'm a little kid and I got
>>>> >> something
>>
>>>> >> to
>>>> >> use to my advantage thing.
>>>> >>
>>>> >> give it time, like a couple of years time.
>>>> >>
>>>> >> The BlindTechs Network
>>>> >> www.theblindtechsnetwork.com
>>>> >> info at theblindtechsnetwork.com
>>>> >> 623-565-9357 (voice)
>>>> >> (206) 203-4400 (Fax Phone)
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >>
>>>> >> On Jul 14, 2009, at 9:52 PM, Jennifer Massey wrote:
>>>> >>
>>>> >> My boyfriend has no vision but my children do. He watches them 2 or 
>>>> >> 3
>>>> >> days a week sometimes for more then 8 hours a day.  My daughter who
>>>> >> will
>>>> >> be 6 soon told him today that she does the things that she does 
>>>> >> that
>>>> >> are
>>>> >> bad because he can't see her do them.  This hurt him very  much.  We
>>>> >> are
>>>> >> not sure what to do at this point and any advice would  be helpful.
>>>> >> I
>>>> >> have tried spending extra time with her when I can and  giving her
>>>> >> some
>>>> >> positive attention.  This week we have swimming which  we always do
>>>> >> together not only has a family but we each take some  individual 
>>>> >> time
>>>> >> with
>>>> >> both of the kids, we also are taking both the  kids to a carnival on
>>>> >> friday and we are all going to the zoo on  saturday.  We really try
>>>> >> to
>>>> >> spend as much time as we can with them in  the positive and not sure
>>>> >> why
>>>> >> my daughter is lashing out so much  towards him in general.  When I
>>>> >> am
>>
>>>> >> at
>>>> >> home she doesn't do this and  when she is with her dad and his wife
>>>> >> she
>>>> >> doesn't do it either.  Just  with him.
>>>> >>
>>>> >> Jennifer and Dustin
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