[blparent] [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting

Wed Jun 3 17:02:23 UTC 2009

Yes they weed out calls that are not sounding legit.

They ask questions that you have to answer with a certain amount of knowledge for it to be valid.  You can’t just call and say the blind woman is in the pool with an infant and I feel it is dangerous because I can see.  You also even if what is said is true, can not call and give information you were given from a second or third party person.  Most of the time if they appear on your door step it is because they could give adequate information that may be a red flag.  If some one calls and says this blind woman has her baby in the pool and the baby keeps slipping underwater they may call to set up a time to meat with you to see if there is abuse or if you were just teaching a toddler to swim.

Also, there is a difference if some one calls DCF and states that your kid was dressed in stained clothing or if your child has no clothing.  Trust me you will no a neglected kid when you see it.  It looks different then you may think and stressing out doesn’t help your case of being a fit parent.  Also, I said fit, not good.

Think about it.
Kate

-------------- Original message ----------------------
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>
> Kate, 
> Doesn't CPS have a process to weed out "nosy neighbor" and grudge calls?
> 
> I have a friend who works there and she says that they do. 
> She also says that if you get someone who is a "good talker" on the line
> that yes, a person can be investigated for what turns out to be no
> reason. 
> Barbara, your suggestion that Jo Elizabeth use a Coast Guard approved
> device is an excellent one. 
> I would be curious to know how CPS would answer a hypothetical "I'm
> blind and am taking my kid swimming" question. 
> Whatever you do, don't let this woman or anybody else "own" you.  
> 
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
> Sent: Wednesday, June 03, 2009 8:37 AM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting
> 
> 
> I am all for being prepared for the unexpected though there is a fine
> line between educating and causing a panic.  I would like to point out
> that these agencies have the child and families best interest in mind.
> My husband use to work for DCF in New York and I asked him if he ever
> had cases where a blind parent lost their children because of just being
> blind.
> 
> He told me in the twelve years he was in the field and the five he
> trained behind a desk that he only remembers maybe five calls having to
> do with blind parents.  He pointed out that there were a few removed but
> they were removed because of either Neglect, lack of adequate clothing,
> abuse, living in filth, endangerment regardless if the parent was aware
> that what they did caused the dangerous situation.  The main goal is to
> keep families together that is why there are parenting classes offered
> to parents who fall in to categories that cause a case to be open.  Its
> up to the parent if they want to take them and they are informed of
> ramifications if they don't except the assistance.
> 
> No one is out to get you because you're a blind parent they just can't
> imagine parenting a child with out sight so they ask questions.  I would
> rather they ask then just take my kids and leave me with no recourse,  I
> think these agencies are too involved at times but parents should
> remember to only give relevant information not just start telling them
> every thing only answer what they ask and offer nothing.
> 
> OK that's my two cense,  Jumping off of soap box.  *smile* Kate
>   
> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
> >
> > I may have been more nervous about Social Services from hearing 
> > stories like the ones on this list, but I was also better prepared 
> > when the social worker and the two police officers knocked on my door.
> 
> > I was horrified and angry, but I didn't feel alone.  I took the 
> > encounter more in stride than I might have if I hadn't known that many
> 
> > other blind parents have gone through the same ordeal.
> > 
> > Jo Elizabeth
> > 
> > "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be 
> > changed until it is faced."--James Baldwin
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
> > To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> > Sent: Tuesday, June 02, 2009 9:34 PM
> > Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting
> > 
> > 
> > > Hi,
> > >
> > > They're not stories Rebecca, they're true, and if sharing them with 
> > > lists like this one and meetings, they're be better prepared should 
> > > this sort of thing happen to them.
> > >
> > > Tammy
> > > ----- Original Message -----
> > > From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> > > To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> > > Sent: Tuesday, June 02, 2009 4:52 PM
> > > Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] Blind Parents Meeting
> > >
> > >
> > >> I'm not doubting anybody, just that I don't see a lot of education 
> > >> going on just stories. If there is a lesson in these stories, I'm 
> > >> totally missing it.
> > 
> > 
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