[blparent] [Bulk] Re: [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting

Wed Jun 3 18:36:39 UTC 2009

Hi,

If your cps is anything like ours, we do have call screeners who make the 
decision whether it's a nosey call or a real issue that needs to be handled. 
I found out last ear through a friend who works at cps that our upstairs 
neighbour had called them on us because she said we always locked my son in 
the back room of our house all the time to quote her, 24-7.  Um, that's his 
bedroom.  lol  He likes to be in there and I'm not going to stop him. 
Anyway, the neighbour called because I had called cps about a month before 
because her little boy who could barely walk had fallen down about 14 steep 
wooden stairs for the second time in 24 hours because there was no gate and 
no supervision.  Also, she told me after water came pouring down in to our 
house that she was sorry, but she'd left her 2 year old in the bath while 
she went upstairs to get something and he'd turned on the water and she 
didn't know until she came back down.  I guess they came to investigate her 
because I heard them screaming about it on our front porch.  I also know 
that nothing got done, but at least the call got logged.  We didn't know 
about her call until my friend asked us if we knew she'd reported us.

Tammy
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, June 03, 2009 12:41 PM
Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting

> Kate,
> Doesn't CPS have a process to weed out "nosy neighbor" and grudge calls?
>
> I have a friend who works there and she says that they do.
> She also says that if you get someone who is a "good talker" on the line
> that yes, a person can be investigated for what turns out to be no
> reason.
> Barbara, your suggestion that Jo Elizabeth use a Coast Guard approved
> device is an excellent one.
> I would be curious to know how CPS would answer a hypothetical "I'm
> blind and am taking my kid swimming" question.
> Whatever you do, don't let this woman or anybody else "own" you.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of kate02 at bellsouth.net
> Sent: Wednesday, June 03, 2009 8:37 AM
> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting
>
>
> I am all for being prepared for the unexpected though there is a fine
> line between educating and causing a panic.  I would like to point out
> that these agencies have the child and families best interest in mind.
> My husband use to work for DCF in New York and I asked him if he ever
> had cases where a blind parent lost their children because of just being
> blind.
>
> He told me in the twelve years he was in the field and the five he
> trained behind a desk that he only remembers maybe five calls having to
> do with blind parents.  He pointed out that there were a few removed but
> they were removed because of either Neglect, lack of adequate clothing,
> abuse, living in filth, endangerment regardless if the parent was aware
> that what they did caused the dangerous situation.  The main goal is to
> keep families together that is why there are parenting classes offered
> to parents who fall in to categories that cause a case to be open.  Its
> up to the parent if they want to take them and they are informed of
> ramifications if they don't except the assistance.
>
> No one is out to get you because you're a blind parent they just can't
> imagine parenting a child with out sight so they ask questions.  I would
> rather they ask then just take my kids and leave me with no recourse,  I
> think these agencies are too involved at times but parents should
> remember to only give relevant information not just start telling them
> every thing only answer what they ask and offer nothing.
>
> OK that's my two cense,  Jumping off of soap box.  *smile* Kate
>
> -------------- Original message ----------------------
> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>>
>> I may have been more nervous about Social Services from hearing
>> stories like the ones on this list, but I was also better prepared
>> when the social worker and the two police officers knocked on my door.
>
>> I was horrified and angry, but I didn't feel alone.  I took the
>> encounter more in stride than I might have if I hadn't known that many
>
>> other blind parents have gone through the same ordeal.
>>
>> Jo Elizabeth
>>
>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>> changed until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, June 02, 2009 9:34 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Blind Parents Meeting
>>
>>
>> > Hi,
>> >
>> > They're not stories Rebecca, they're true, and if sharing them with
>> > lists like this one and meetings, they're be better prepared should
>> > this sort of thing happen to them.
>> >
>> > Tammy
>> > ----- Original Message -----
>> > From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> > To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> > Sent: Tuesday, June 02, 2009 4:52 PM
>> > Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] Blind Parents Meeting
>> >
>> >
>> >> I'm not doubting anybody, just that I don't see a lot of education
>> >> going on just stories. If there is a lesson in these stories, I'm
>> >> totally missing it.
>>
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