[blparent] [Bulk] Re: [Bulk] bathing an infant

Barbara Hammel poetlori8 at msn.com
Thu Jun 18 03:08:06 UTC 2009 

If it hadn't been for a volunteer going up the chain to someone who does 
emergency fostering for CPS, I would have been reported for molesting one of 
mine because I pinched the front of his diaper to see if it was wet. 
Unfortunately it coincided with him either crying or stopping crying.  I'm 
so glad there are people willing to stand up for us when they know we're 
capable.
I've changed more diapers in my life than octomom has and will do before the 
last batch is trained.
People mjust panic when they see us do things different from them.
Barbara

If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of whom 
you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.

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From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
Sent: Wednesday, June 17, 2009 4:50 PM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re:  [Bulk]  bathing an infant

> Hi,
> I've actually had the experience of being reported to child services for 
> supposedly molesting my son.  It was a ridiculous waste of child service's 
> time and waste of a diaper because I made her come in and watch me change 
> Colyn.  But she wasn't really there to investigate me, she said she had 
> come to tell me that this is what had been reported, and asked me if I 
> knew about it.  The woman who reported me was one of those old busy body 
> types, and she watched me the whole time I was changing Colyn on one of 
> those fold out change tables in the bathroom at the mall.  She just 
> couldn't believe that I could have children, and pointed out where she 
> thought I would have trouble, and she told me that she thought I was 
> touching my son's genetils too much for just cleaning them.  I told her 
> that it wasn't too much that if she had to close her eyes and change a 
> diaper she'd probably have to feel around to make sure he was clean.
> I've only had somebody question me one time about this subject and it was 
> no big deal.  The social workers were helpful for a change, and you 
> honestly do not have to worry about any of this.  Just change your baby 
> the way you know how, and be confidentin your abilities as a parent.  I 
> did not tell this story to make people afraid of changing their children's 
> diapers, I told it to let people know that social workjers, while they can 
> ge obnoxious and annoying, can also be helpful and use discression 
> sometimes.
>
> Tammy
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, June 17, 2009 3:39 PM
> Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] [Bulk] bathing an infant
>
>
>> Pipi, to me you are making perfect sense.  I know for a fact that sighted
>> mothers also have to lift up the penis to clean around it and I don't
>> believe that anyone would say she is being a pervert in any way.  The 
>> same
>> goes for dad's wiping their daughters.  It just has to be done. V
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org] On
>> Behalf Of Pipi
>> Sent: Wednesday, June 17, 2009 11:31 AM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] bathing an infant
>>
>> Elizabeth,
>> I don't want to step on any toes here, but feel I need to speak up. 
>> Society
>> can go to h***  if they can't tell the differnece between a blind person
>> making sure their child is clean and someone molesting their child. You 
>> have
>>
>> to do what you have to do to take care of your kid. Even if that is being
>> more hands on than a sighted person would be. Please don't let the fear 
>> of
>> what others think stop you from doing things such as swimming or savaing
>> wipes.
>> Hope I'm making sense here.
>> Pipi
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Elizabeth Cooks" <elizabethcooks at comcast.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Saturday, June 13, 2009 11:50 PM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] bathing an infant
>>
>>
>>>I may do that with Joshua when he gets older, but I guess I'm afraid of
>>>some thinking it is inappropriate, given society's standards on things 
>>>like
>>
>>>that. Do you know i'm afraid to touch my son to see if he is thoroughly
>>>clean, just in case someone sees and thinks I'm molesting him? I just 
>>>wipe
>>>with wipes a lot. I tokd my husband he's in charge of poty training him.
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Tammy, Paul and Colyn" <tcl189 at rogers.com>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Monday, June 08, 2009 3:52 PM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] bathing an infant
>>>
>>>
>>>> Hi,
>>>>
>>>> Glad to hear your little one is doing well.  As for bathing, my little 
>>>> gy
>>
>>>> hates the tub and has from day one.  I tried getting of those wire 
>>>> things
>>
>>>> with the towelling on it that holds him up on a slant and that worked
>>>> okay for a bit, but did absolutely nothing for my back because I was
>>>> continuously bending over.  So finally I just decided to  take baths 
>>>> with
>>
>>>> him and he loves it, as do I.  It's a good time to play and let him 
>>>> float
>>
>>>> and kick and just be close and play together.  You might want to try
>>>> this.
>>>>
>>>> Tammy
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: "Shannan Zinck" <shannanzinck at gmail.com>
>>>> To: <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Monday, June 08, 2009 2:54 PM
>>>> Subject: [Bulk] [blparent] bathing an infant
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> Ok so did great with new born bathing since I had a tub that  was
>>>>> contoured
>>>>> but, my dilema here is my son grew really fast. His birth mom is tall
>>>>> and he
>>>>> apparently inherrited her height. He is too big for the baby tub but
>>>>> cannot
>>>>> sit by him self yet. I tried a bath ring and do not feel confident at
>>>>> all
>>>>> with it. He is still at a stage where bath time is relax time and 
>>>>> likes
>>>>> to
>>>>> lay down still. If I sit him in the sink he hates it. Any idea on what 
>>>>> I
>>>>> could possibly use for him. He is only 4 months but, is off the charts
>>>>> in
>>>>> all categories of physical growth. thanks.
>>>>>
>>>>> -- 
>>>>> Shannan Zinck
>>>>> Survival is letting GOD take over!!!
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