[blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner

trishs slosser at metrocast.net
Wed May 20 23:14:23 UTC 2009 

Glad to hear that it can and does work out well for some.  Sounds 
like you've found the right mix.

> ----- Original Message -----
>From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net
>To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>Date sent: Wed, 20 May 2009 14:21:20 -0600
>Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re:  Summer- right around the 
corner

>Hi.  The work I do at home doesn't really involve a lot of phone 
calls or
>set deadlines, and it's work that I can start and stop easily.  I 
have the
>flexibility to set my own schedule, so I can focus on Sarah when 
she really
>needs or wants it.  I suppose if the work were of a different 
nature, it
>might be more difficult.  Of course, there's always that pressure 
of needing
>to get work done because clients need their materials, and 
because I get
>paid by the project and not by the hour.  So it's not easy, but 
really, it's
>a pretty good situation, I think.  I get to see Sarah grow up, 
and really I
>think she has more one-on-one attention from me than some kids 
get from
>their stay-at-home moms who are busy with housekeeping or 
television or
>whatever.

>Jo Elizabeth

>"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be 
changed
>until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com
>To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 9:29 AM
>Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the 
corner


>> Hi guys.
>> Thank you for writing back.
>> For those of you who work from home and don't have childcare, 
how do you
>> do it?
>> 1.  You're on the phone and your kid starts screaming or just 
wants you
>> to play, both of which I determine to be a need.  What do you 
do?
>> 2.  You're reviewing a document or writing a document, have good 
momentum
>> going, what do you do?
>> 3.  How do you keep yourself from getting frustrated when you've 
counted
>> on your kid taking a nap and you have a deadline and your kid 
doesn't
>> nap?
>> 4.  How do you rationalize quantity over quality? For example, 
I'm not
>> with my kid during most of her waking hours.  That's fine with 
me.  I do
>> have some great hours in the evenings and on weekends.  I like 
and need
>> the split between work and home.
>> I think of the "firsts" as the first time I see it.  It may not 
be "the
>> first", but it's the first for/with me so that's what matters.
>> And, I have made peace with the fact that my daughter will have 
many
>> experiences without me.  It's not so much a daycare thing, but 
an
>> interest thing.  If she wants to go ride a motor cycle, she'll 
do that
>> with someone other then me, because we don't havea motor cycle.
>> I'm curious to know if working from home without childcare is 
dependent
>> on parent's personality, the type of work you do, or some other 
factor.
>> Anybody care to answer this one?

>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org 
[mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:47 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the 
corner

>> Hi,

>> Besides that, you won't have to pay as much if you higher a 
teenager to
>> babysit for you, and you won't have to worry about if she's 
being well
>> taken care of since you'll be right there and able to make sure 
things
>> run smoothly.  I would do the same thing if I were in your 
place.  The
>> whole reason I work out of my home is because I would really 
regret
>> missing a first step or a first word or first whatever.

>> Tammy
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 1:40 PM
>> Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner


>>>I know there are good care centers available.  First of all, I've 
done
>> the
>>>math.  If I put Sarah in someone else's care, I'd be spending 
most of
>> what
>>>I make from my job to pay for the sitter or the center.  It 
doesn't
>> make
>>>sense to me, especially since my income is a large part of what 
keeps
>> the
>>>household going.  Secondly, Sarah is probably the only child I 
will
>> ever
>>>have, and I didn't think I would get the chance in my life to 
have a
>> child
>>>at all.  As hard as it is sometimes, I love every day with her, 
and I
>> don't
>>>want her to spend the majority of her waking hours with someone 
else
>> while
>>>I miss out on the stages and changes which, I'm learning, go by 
fast
>> and
>>>then are gone forever.  That's a personal choice.  My little girl 
is my

>>>first priority, I do my job because I need to keep a roof over 
our
>> heads
>>>and food on the table.  That means things get hectic, I work 
feverishly

>>>while she naps and put in a lot of late hours after she goes to 
bed.
>>>Usually that's enough, but the workload is heavy now, and I'm 
thinking
>> that
>>>getting some morning help a few days a week for the summer will 
be
>> enough.
>>>In the fall, well, we'll see what happens when we get there.

>>> Jo Elizabeth

>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>> changed
>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:32 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner


>>>> If I can ask, why don't you want to put her in daycare?
>>>> To me, daycare is one of the best things going.
>>>> They have lots of staff at least the good ones do, they have a 
lot of
>>>> activities, and you get to do work without needing to plan 
and/or
>> carry
>>>> out activities.
>>>> To me, I'd gladly pay for daycare and view it as a great 
trade-off
>> for
>>>> the ability to work without stressing over both a child and a 
job.
>>>> You certainly want to do your homework, but good daycares are 
indeed
>> out
>>>> there.
>>>> I'd be happy to talk more with you off-list.
>>>> And, if I can ask, where is Papa Bear in all this? I say this 
only
>>>> because assumming you aren't a single parent, your emotional 
health
>> and
>>>> the child's emotional health as well as physical safety should 
be his
>>>> concern.
>>>> My husband says that trying to work and take care of a child at 
the
>> same
>>>> time, is akin to being drunk and taking care of a child because 
you
>>>> can't put your focus on either task well.  I think he's right.


>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>> On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 12:27 AM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner

>>>> I checked into MOPS, but it's pretty pricey because you pay for 
the
>>>> child care.  I might look into it further, but at this point I 
think
>>>> I'll spend the money on having a teenager come into my home two 
or
>> three
>>>> mornings a week, if I can find one over the summer.  That way 
I'll be
>>>> here if the need comes up, but I can work and someone else can
>> entertain
>>>> Sarah a little.
>>>> It's getting too hard to manage working and looking after her, 
now
>> that
>>>> she's getting older and wanting a lot more interaction.  But I 
don't
>>>> want to put her in day care, so at least short term, a hired big 
bro
>> or
>>>> sis playmate might just be the answer for me.

>>>> Jo Elizabeth

>>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>> changed
>>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 9:26 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner


>>>>>I enjoy being on the other end of MOPS.  I get my baby fix every 
two
>>>>>weeks during the school year.  I figure I'd rather earn money by
>>>>>watching the kids than pay to go where I can't relate.  Since you 
all
>>>>>have typically developing children, it would probably be lots of 
fun
>>>>>for you.  The topics have run from serious to very frivolous like
>>>>>getting pedicures.  It sounds like the moms have lots of fun.
>>>>> Barbara

>>>>> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  
of
>>>>> whom you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.

>>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>>> From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com
>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 7:22 PM
>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner

>>>>>> I always enjoyed mops, because everybody shares good things, as
>> well
>>>>>> as challenges, and it doesn't seem like as much of a competition 
as
>>>>>> in other groups.  Also, the child goes to their own class while 
mom
>>>>>> is in her meeting having some mom time, so you aren't chasing 
your
>>>>>> child while the other moms watch and scrutinize your every move.
>> Not

>>>>>> that this bothers me a lot, but it can lead to awkward moments 
when
>>>>>> they try to take care of your child for you or act like you 
can't
>>>>>> tell what your child is doing.  You get to just sit and chat 
about
>>>>>> being a mom, so they start to realize that you have your own way 
of
>>>>>> doing things.  My group started asking how I handle certain
>>>>>> situations, such as injuries and emergency situations, and I
>> enjoyed
>>>>>> the opportunity to educate them.  Much better than feeling like 
I
>> had

>>>>>> to put on a show for them as they watched my every move.
>>>>>> My kids love the program too because it's like school for them
>> before

>>>>>> they actually start school.
>>>>>> Leanne
>>>>>> "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we 
do
>>>>>> not see."
>>>>>> Hebrews 11:1
>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com
>>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 2:58 PM
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner


>>>>>>> She is and she isn't.
>>>>>>> Mom groups often have the sole purpose of trying to out-mom the
>>>>>>> other moms.
>>>>>>> The classes at least have a focus, moms groups, the focus is on
>>>>>>> being a mom, and it can get kind of caddy.
>>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth, you may find a group with a different purpose more
>>>>>>> enjoyable.  V does have some excellent suggestions.


>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>> On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>>>>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 17, 2009 5:50 PM
>>>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner

>>>>>>> When Gab was small I didn't even know that those kind of groups
>>>> existed.
>>>>>>> You are lucky.  Hope you have fun.  V

>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>> On Behalf Of Allie
>>>>>>> Sent: Saturday, May 16, 2009 2:19 AM
>>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner

>>>>>>> Wow, that is one lucky girl.  Hope she has a lot of fun.

>>>>>>> I don't really have anything planned this summer, other than
>> getting

>>>>>>> involved with the Mom's Club in my area.  Hopefully that'll keep 
us
>>>>>>> going out enough that I don't go crazy cooped up in this 
apartment
>>>> all summer.

>>>>>>> -- Allie

>>>>>>> A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who
>> receive

>>>>>>> without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, 
but
>>>>>>> the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
>>>>>>> None is so rich or
>>>>>>> mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor
>> that
>>>>>>> he cannot be made rich by it.
>>>>>>> Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for 
it
>> is

>>>>>>> something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
>>>>>>> Some people are too tired to give you a smile.  Give them one of
>>>>>>> yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to
>> give.
>>>>>>> -- Author Unknown
>>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net
>>>>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>> Sent: Friday, May 15, 2009 10:43 AM
>>>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner


>>>>>>> So do you all have any exciting plans for the summer.
>>>>>>> I signed Gab up for a few things.  1.  Camp Invention- they 
learn
>> how

>>>>>>> to make space rockets and how to keep the environment clean.  
Last
>>>>>>> year she came home with a robot held together with duct tape.  
But
>>>> it was cute.
>>>>>>> 2.  Day camp with the YMCA.  Each day they will do something
>>>>>>> different, swim, tumble, field trip, soccer, basketball and
>> reading,
>>>> math, science.
>>>>>>> 3.  Vacation bible school
>>>>>>> 4.  Cooking camp:  they learn to make a cake and how to decorate
>> it.
>>>>>>> And every Monday evening piano lessons V


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