[blparent] [Bulk] Re: [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner

Thu May 21 02:35:03 UTC 2009

Hi,

For some reason I didn't get the original, sorry for bouncing off of this 
message with my answers.  I fix computers for a living and although most 
people want their systems fixed yesterday or sooner the deadline is pretty 
flexible.  I do some tech support stuff via email and phone, but most people 
are pretty understanding if I need to call them back because Colyn or Remus 
need me.  When I got pregnant with Colyn I decided I wanted to work from 
home.  Unfortunately I didn't have a job at the time so I made one and 
tailored it to fit my needs and my schedual and that's what I've been doing 
ever since.  If I hadn't been able to do that I doubt working from home 
would have been an option.

Tammy
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 4:21 PM
Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner

> Hi.  The work I do at home doesn't really involve a lot of phone calls or 
> set deadlines, and it's work that I can start and stop easily.  I have the 
> flexibility to set my own schedule, so I can focus on Sarah when she 
> really needs or wants it.  I suppose if the work were of a different 
> nature, it might be more difficult.  Of course, there's always that 
> pressure of needing to get work done because clients need their materials, 
> and because I get paid by the project and not by the hour.  So it's not 
> easy, but really, it's a pretty good situation, I think.  I get to see 
> Sarah grow up, and really I think she has more one-on-one attention from 
> me than some kids get from their stay-at-home moms who are busy with 
> housekeeping or television or whatever.
>
> Jo Elizabeth
>
> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed 
> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 9:29 AM
> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner
>
>
>> Hi guys.
>> Thank you for writing back.
>> For those of you who work from home and don't have childcare, how do you
>> do it?
>> 1. You're on the phone and your kid starts screaming or just wants you
>> to play, both of which I determine to be a need. What do you do?
>> 2. You're reviewing a document or writing a document, have good momentum
>> going, what do you do?
>> 3. How do you keep yourself from getting frustrated when you've counted
>> on your kid taking a nap and you have a deadline and your kid doesn't
>> nap?
>> 4. How do you rationalize quantity over quality? For example, I'm not
>> with my kid during most of her waking hours. That's fine with me. I do
>> have some great hours in the evenings and on weekends. I like and need
>> the split between work and home.
>> I think of the "firsts" as the first time I see it. It may not be "the
>> first", but it's the first for/with me so that's what matters.
>> And, I have made peace with the fact that my daughter will have many
>> experiences without me. It's not so much a daycare thing, but an
>> interest thing. If she wants to go ride a motor cycle, she'll do that
>> with someone other then me, because we don't havea motor cycle.
>> I'm curious to know if working from home without childcare is dependent
>> on parent's personality, the type of work you do, or some other factor.
>> Anybody care to answer this one?
>>
>> -----Original Message-----
>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>> On Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:47 PM
>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner
>>
>> Hi,
>>
>> Besides that, you won't have to pay as much if you higher a teenager to
>> babysit for you, and you won't have to worry about if she's being well
>> taken care of since you'll be right there and able to make sure things
>> run smoothly.  I would do the same thing if I were in your place.  The
>> whole reason I work out of my home is because I would really regret
>> missing a first step or a first word or first whatever.
>>
>> Tammy
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 1:40 PM
>> Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>
>>
>>>I know there are good care centers available.  First of all, I've done
>> the
>>>math.  If I put Sarah in someone else's care, I'd be spending most of
>> what
>>>I make from my job to pay for the sitter or the center.  It doesn't
>> make
>>>sense to me, especially since my income is a large part of what keeps
>> the
>>>household going.  Secondly, Sarah is probably the only child I will
>> ever
>>>have, and I didn't think I would get the chance in my life to have a
>> child
>>>at all.  As hard as it is sometimes, I love every day with her, and I
>> don't
>>>want her to spend the majority of her waking hours with someone else
>> while
>>>I miss out on the stages and changes which, I'm learning, go by fast
>> and
>>>then are gone forever.  That's a personal choice.  My little girl is my
>>
>>>first priority, I do my job because I need to keep a roof over our
>> heads
>>>and food on the table.  That means things get hectic, I work feverishly
>>
>>>while she naps and put in a lot of late hours after she goes to bed.
>>>Usually that's enough, but the workload is heavy now, and I'm thinking
>> that
>>>getting some morning help a few days a week for the summer will be
>> enough.
>>>In the fall, well, we'll see what happens when we get there.
>>>
>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>
>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>> changed
>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:32 AM
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>
>>>
>>>> If I can ask, why don't you want to put her in daycare?
>>>> To me, daycare is one of the best things going.
>>>> They have lots of staff at least the good ones do, they have a lot of
>>>> activities, and you get to do work without needing to plan and/or
>> carry
>>>> out activities.
>>>> To me, I'd gladly pay for daycare and view it as a great trade-off
>> for
>>>> the ability to work without stressing over both a child and a job.
>>>> You certainly want to do your homework, but good daycares are indeed
>> out
>>>> there.
>>>> I'd be happy to talk more with you off-list.
>>>> And, if I can ask, where is Papa Bear in all this? I say this only
>>>> because assumming you aren't a single parent, your emotional health
>> and
>>>> the child's emotional health as well as physical safety should be his
>>>> concern.
>>>> My husband says that trying to work and take care of a child at the
>> same
>>>> time, is akin to being drunk and taking care of a child because you
>>>> can't put your focus on either task well. I think he's right.
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>> On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 12:27 AM
>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>> I checked into MOPS, but it's pretty pricey because you pay for the
>>>> child care.  I might look into it further, but at this point I think
>>>> I'll spend the money on having a teenager come into my home two or
>> three
>>>> mornings a week, if I can find one over the summer.  That way I'll be
>>>> here if the need comes up, but I can work and someone else can
>> entertain
>>>> Sarah a little.
>>>> It's getting too hard to manage working and looking after her, now
>> that
>>>> she's getting older and wanting a lot more interaction.  But I don't
>>>> want to put her in day care, so at least short term, a hired big bro
>> or
>>>> sis playmate might just be the answer for me.
>>>>
>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>
>>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>> changed
>>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 9:26 PM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>>I enjoy being on the other end of MOPS.  I get my baby fix every two
>>>>>weeks during the school year.  I figure I'd rather earn money by
>>>>>watching the kids than pay to go where I can't relate.  Since you all
>>>>>have typically developing children, it would probably be lots of fun
>>>>>for you.  The topics have run from serious to very frivolous like
>>>>>getting pedicures.  It sounds like the moms have lots of fun.
>>>>> Barbara
>>>>>
>>>>> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of
>>>>> whom you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.
>>>>>
>>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>>> From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com>
>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 7:22 PM
>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>
>>>>>> I always enjoyed mops, because everybody shares good things, as
>> well
>>>>>> as challenges, and it doesn't seem like as much of a competition as
>>>>>> in other groups.  Also, the child goes to their own class while mom
>>>>>> is in her meeting having some mom time, so you aren't chasing your
>>>>>> child while the other moms watch and scrutinize your every move.
>> Not
>>>>
>>>>>> that this bothers me a lot, but it can lead to awkward moments when
>>>>>> they try to take care of your child for you or act like you can't
>>>>>> tell what your child is doing. You get to just sit and chat about
>>>>>> being a mom, so they start to realize that you have your own way of
>>>>>> doing things.  My group started asking how I handle certain
>>>>>> situations, such as injuries and emergency situations, and I
>> enjoyed
>>>>>> the opportunity to educate them.  Much better than feeling like I
>> had
>>>>
>>>>>> to put on a show for them as they watched my every move.
>>>>>> My kids love the program too because it's like school for them
>> before
>>>>
>>>>>> they actually start school.
>>>>>> Leanne
>>>>>> "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do
>>>>>> not see."
>>>>>> Hebrews 11:1
>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 2:58 PM
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> She is and she isn't.
>>>>>>> Mom groups often have the sole purpose of trying to out-mom the
>>>>>>> other moms.
>>>>>>> The classes at least have a focus, moms groups, the focus is on
>>>>>>> being a mom, and it can get kind of caddy.
>>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth, you may find a group with a different purpose more
>>>>>>> enjoyable. V does have some excellent suggestions.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>> On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>>>>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 17, 2009 5:50 PM
>>>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> When Gab was small I didn't even know that those kind of groups
>>>> existed.
>>>>>>> You are lucky.  Hope you have fun. V
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>> On Behalf Of Allie
>>>>>>> Sent: Saturday, May 16, 2009 2:19 AM
>>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> Wow, that is one lucky girl. Hope she has a lot of fun.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> I don't really have anything planned this summer, other than
>> getting
>>>>
>>>>>>> involved with the Mom's Club in my area. Hopefully that'll keep us
>>>>>>> going out enough that I don't go crazy cooped up in this apartment
>>>> all summer.
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> -- Allie
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who
>> receive
>>>>
>>>>>>> without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, but
>>>>>>> the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
>>>>>>> None is so rich or
>>>>>>> mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor
>> that
>>>>>>> he cannot be made rich by it.
>>>>>>> Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it
>> is
>>>>
>>>>>>> something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
>>>>>>> Some people are too tired to give you a smile.  Give them one of
>>>>>>> yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to
>> give.
>>>>>>> -- Author Unknown
>>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>>>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>>> Sent: Friday, May 15, 2009 10:43 AM
>>>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>> So do you all have any exciting plans for the summer.
>>>>>>> I signed Gab up for a few things. 1.  Camp Invention- they learn
>> how
>>>>
>>>>>>> to make space rockets and how to keep the environment clean.  Last
>>>>>>> year she came home with a robot held together with duct tape.  But
>>>> it was cute.
>>>>>>> 2. Day camp with the YMCA.  Each day they will do something
>>>>>>> different, swim, tumble, field trip, soccer, basketball and
>> reading,
>>>> math, science.
>>>>>>> 3. Vacation bible school
>>>>>>> 4. Cooking camp:  they learn to make a cake and how to decorate
>> it.
>>>>>>> And every Monday evening piano lessons V
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
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