[blparent] working from home.

Thu May 21 19:14:30 UTC 2009

Leanne,
My mom was a single mom raising 3 girls and working sometimes up to 3 jobs 
while putting herself through nursing school and  raising us. Looking back, 
I honestly don't know how she did it all. But I do remember her not being 
there sometimes when I wanted her to be. And I never want to leave Savannah. 
It's actually something that I struggle with. I'm kind of a baby hog if that 
makes any sense. But Savannah is my little miracle baby. I never thought I'd 
be able to be a mom and well now I am and I don't want to miss anything at 
all, even if that means being a baby hog.
Pipi
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com>
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 10:39 PM
Subject: Re: [blparent] working from home.


>I do the same as Pipi, though I'm actually taking a break right now because 
>I want the time for my own daughter.  I do think it has a lot to do with 
>personal preference.  I know moms at my church who say they just couldn't 
>stand to stay home every day.  They say that they need to get out and have 
>time away, and going to work gives them that.  I don't like to leave my 
>kids.  Even when my older 2 go to their grandparents' house for the weekend 
>I miss having them around.  Sure I go out with friends now and then for a 
>breather, but I don't like to be gone very long.  I like being with my kids 
>as much as possible.  We do without a lot so I can stay home, but that's ok 
>with me.  I grew up in a house with a single mother who worked 9 to 5 every 
>day, so I wonder if that has something to do with my choices.
> Leanne
> "Faith is being sure of what we hope for
> and certain of what we do not see."
> Hebrews 11:1
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Pipi" <blahblahblah0822 at gmail.com>
> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
> Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 4:54 PM
> Subject: [blparent] working from home.
>
>
>>I can give my input. I do work from home, but I do home childcare. So 
>>caring for my own daughter fits right in.to my own job.  I am hoping to 
>>find a new career sometime soon and am wanting to continue to work from 
>>home so that I don't miss out on anything in Savannah's life. So this 
>>thread is actually interesting to me.
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>> Sent: Wednesday, May 20, 2009 10:29 AM
>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner
>>
>>
>>> Hi guys.
>>> Thank you for writing back.
>>> For those of you who work from home and don't have childcare, how do you
>>> do it?
>>> 1. You're on the phone and your kid starts screaming or just wants you
>>> to play, both of which I determine to be a need. What do you do?
>>> 2. You're reviewing a document or writing a document, have good momentum
>>> going, what do you do?
>>> 3. How do you keep yourself from getting frustrated when you've counted
>>> on your kid taking a nap and you have a deadline and your kid doesn't
>>> nap?
>>> 4. How do you rationalize quantity over quality? For example, I'm not
>>> with my kid during most of her waking hours. That's fine with me. I do
>>> have some great hours in the evenings and on weekends. I like and need
>>> the split between work and home.
>>> I think of the "firsts" as the first time I see it. It may not be "the
>>> first", but it's the first for/with me so that's what matters.
>>> And, I have made peace with the fact that my daughter will have many
>>> experiences without me. It's not so much a daycare thing, but an
>>> interest thing. If she wants to go ride a motor cycle, she'll do that
>>> with someone other then me, because we don't havea motor cycle.
>>> I'm curious to know if working from home without childcare is dependent
>>> on parent's personality, the type of work you do, or some other factor.
>>> Anybody care to answer this one?
>>>
>>> -----Original Message-----
>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>> On Behalf Of Tammy, Paul and Colyn
>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:47 PM
>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] [Bulk] Re: Summer- right around the corner
>>>
>>> Hi,
>>>
>>> Besides that, you won't have to pay as much if you higher a teenager to
>>> babysit for you, and you won't have to worry about if she's being well
>>> taken care of since you'll be right there and able to make sure things
>>> run smoothly.  I would do the same thing if I were in your place.  The
>>> whole reason I work out of my home is because I would really regret
>>> missing a first step or a first word or first whatever.
>>>
>>> Tammy
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Jo Elizabeth Pinto" <jopinto at pcdesk.net>
>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 1:40 PM
>>> Subject: [Bulk] Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>
>>>
>>>>I know there are good care centers available.  First of all, I've done
>>> the
>>>>math.  If I put Sarah in someone else's care, I'd be spending most of
>>> what
>>>>I make from my job to pay for the sitter or the center.  It doesn't
>>> make
>>>>sense to me, especially since my income is a large part of what keeps
>>> the
>>>>household going.  Secondly, Sarah is probably the only child I will
>>> ever
>>>>have, and I didn't think I would get the chance in my life to have a
>>> child
>>>>at all.  As hard as it is sometimes, I love every day with her, and I
>>> don't
>>>>want her to spend the majority of her waking hours with someone else
>>> while
>>>>I miss out on the stages and changes which, I'm learning, go by fast
>>> and
>>>>then are gone forever.  That's a personal choice.  My little girl is my
>>>
>>>>first priority, I do my job because I need to keep a roof over our
>>> heads
>>>>and food on the table.  That means things get hectic, I work feverishly
>>>
>>>>while she naps and put in a lot of late hours after she goes to bed.
>>>>Usually that's enough, but the workload is heavy now, and I'm thinking
>>> that
>>>>getting some morning help a few days a week for the summer will be
>>> enough.
>>>>In the fall, well, we'll see what happens when we get there.
>>>>
>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>
>>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>>> changed
>>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 6:32 AM
>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>> If I can ask, why don't you want to put her in daycare?
>>>>> To me, daycare is one of the best things going.
>>>>> They have lots of staff at least the good ones do, they have a lot of
>>>>> activities, and you get to do work without needing to plan and/or
>>> carry
>>>>> out activities.
>>>>> To me, I'd gladly pay for daycare and view it as a great trade-off
>>> for
>>>>> the ability to work without stressing over both a child and a job.
>>>>> You certainly want to do your homework, but good daycares are indeed
>>> out
>>>>> there.
>>>>> I'd be happy to talk more with you off-list.
>>>>> And, if I can ask, where is Papa Bear in all this? I say this only
>>>>> because assumming you aren't a single parent, your emotional health
>>> and
>>>>> the child's emotional health as well as physical safety should be his
>>>>> concern.
>>>>> My husband says that trying to work and take care of a child at the
>>> same
>>>>> time, is akin to being drunk and taking care of a child because you
>>>>> can't put your focus on either task well. I think he's right.
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>> On Behalf Of Jo Elizabeth Pinto
>>>>> Sent: Tuesday, May 19, 2009 12:27 AM
>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>
>>>>> I checked into MOPS, but it's pretty pricey because you pay for the
>>>>> child care.  I might look into it further, but at this point I think
>>>>> I'll spend the money on having a teenager come into my home two or
>>> three
>>>>> mornings a week, if I can find one over the summer.  That way I'll be
>>>>> here if the need comes up, but I can work and someone else can
>>> entertain
>>>>> Sarah a little.
>>>>> It's getting too hard to manage working and looking after her, now
>>> that
>>>>> she's getting older and wanting a lot more interaction.  But I don't
>>>>> want to put her in day care, so at least short term, a hired big bro
>>> or
>>>>> sis playmate might just be the answer for me.
>>>>>
>>>>> Jo Elizabeth
>>>>>
>>>>> "Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be
>>> changed
>>>>> until it is faced."--James Baldwin
>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>> From: "Barbara Hammel" <poetlori8 at msn.com>
>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 9:26 PM
>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>
>>>>>
>>>>>>I enjoy being on the other end of MOPS.  I get my baby fix every two
>>>>>>weeks during the school year.  I figure I'd rather earn money by
>>>>>>watching the kids than pay to go where I can't relate.  Since you all
>>>>>>have typically developing children, it would probably be lots of fun
>>>>>>for you.  The topics have run from serious to very frivolous like
>>>>>>getting pedicures.  It sounds like the moms have lots of fun.
>>>>>> Barbara
>>>>>>
>>>>>> If wisdom's ways you wisely seek, five things observe with care:  of
>>>>>> whom you speak, to whom you speak, and how and when and where.
>>>>>>
>>>>>> --------------------------------------------------
>>>>>> From: "Leanne Merren" <leemer02 at gmail.com>
>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 7:22 PM
>>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>
>>>>>>> I always enjoyed mops, because everybody shares good things, as
>>> well
>>>>>>> as challenges, and it doesn't seem like as much of a competition as
>>>>>>> in other groups.  Also, the child goes to their own class while mom
>>>>>>> is in her meeting having some mom time, so you aren't chasing your
>>>>>>> child while the other moms watch and scrutinize your every move.
>>> Not
>>>>>
>>>>>>> that this bothers me a lot, but it can lead to awkward moments when
>>>>>>> they try to take care of your child for you or act like you can't
>>>>>>> tell what your child is doing. You get to just sit and chat about
>>>>>>> being a mom, so they start to realize that you have your own way of
>>>>>>> doing things.  My group started asking how I handle certain
>>>>>>> situations, such as injuries and emergency situations, and I
>>> enjoyed
>>>>>>> the opportunity to educate them.  Much better than feeling like I
>>> had
>>>>>
>>>>>>> to put on a show for them as they watched my every move.
>>>>>>> My kids love the program too because it's like school for them
>>> before
>>>>>
>>>>>>> they actually start school.
>>>>>>> Leanne
>>>>>>> "Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do
>>>>>>> not see."
>>>>>>> Hebrews 11:1
>>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>>> From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
>>>>>>> To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>>> Sent: Monday, May 18, 2009 2:58 PM
>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> She is and she isn't.
>>>>>>>> Mom groups often have the sole purpose of trying to out-mom the
>>>>>>>> other moms.
>>>>>>>> The classes at least have a focus, moms groups, the focus is on
>>>>>>>> being a mom, and it can get kind of caddy.
>>>>>>>> Jo Elizabeth, you may find a group with a different purpose more
>>>>>>>> enjoyable. V does have some excellent suggestions.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>>> On Behalf Of Veronica Smith
>>>>>>>> Sent: Sunday, May 17, 2009 5:50 PM
>>>>>>>> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
>>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> When Gab was small I didn't even know that those kind of groups
>>>>> existed.
>>>>>>>> You are lucky.  Hope you have fun. V
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> -----Original Message-----
>>>>>>>> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org
>>>>>>>> [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
>>>>>>>> On Behalf Of Allie
>>>>>>>> Sent: Saturday, May 16, 2009 2:19 AM
>>>>>>>> To: NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List
>>>>>>>> Subject: Re: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> Wow, that is one lucky girl. Hope she has a lot of fun.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> I don't really have anything planned this summer, other than
>>> getting
>>>>>
>>>>>>>> involved with the Mom's Club in my area. Hopefully that'll keep us
>>>>>>>> going out enough that I don't go crazy cooped up in this apartment
>>>>> all summer.
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> -- Allie
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who
>>> receive
>>>>>
>>>>>>>> without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, but
>>>>>>>> the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
>>>>>>>> None is so rich or
>>>>>>>> mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor
>>> that
>>>>>>>> he cannot be made rich by it.
>>>>>>>> Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it
>>> is
>>>>>
>>>>>>>> something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
>>>>>>>> Some people are too tired to give you a smile.  Give them one of
>>>>>>>> yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to
>>> give.
>>>>>>>> -- Author Unknown
>>>>>>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>>>>>>> From: "Veronica Smith" <madison_tewe at spinn.net>
>>>>>>>> To: "'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
>>>>>>>> Sent: Friday, May 15, 2009 10:43 AM
>>>>>>>> Subject: [blparent] Summer- right around the corner
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>> So do you all have any exciting plans for the summer.
>>>>>>>> I signed Gab up for a few things. 1.  Camp Invention- they learn
>>> how
>>>>>
>>>>>>>> to make space rockets and how to keep the environment clean.  Last
>>>>>>>> year she came home with a robot held together with duct tape.  But
>>>>> it was cute.
>>>>>>>> 2. Day camp with the YMCA.  Each day they will do something
>>>>>>>> different, swim, tumble, field trip, soccer, basketball and
>>> reading,
>>>>> math, science.
>>>>>>>> 3. Vacation bible school
>>>>>>>> 4. Cooking camp:  they learn to make a cake and how to decorate
>>> it.
>>>>>>>> And every Monday evening piano lessons V
>>>>>>>>
>>>>>>>>
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