[blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

[Jo Elizabeth Pinto]

I agree.  Although your daughter did try to hide something from you, I think 
coming down hard on her might make her less willing to talk to you in the 
future.  If you have a Big Sisters program down there, it might help to get 
your daughter hooked up with an older girl who can help her build a positive 
self-image as she grows up.


Jo Elizabeth

Until lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify 
the hunters.--African Proverb

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From: "Pickrell, Rebecca M (IS)" <REBECCA.PICKRELL at ngc.com>
Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 9:04 AM
To: "NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List" <blparent at nfbnet.org>
Subject: Re: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

> My vote is that she needs a mom or mom-like figure. Or, she needs a big
> sister, an older girl/woman in her life.
> Sounds like you've got a kid that really wants to grow up and you want
> to find out why, as well as provide her with some women and girls she
> can bond with.
> I'd also want to know if she is engaging in cutting, or if she is just
> wanting to try shaving. The two are very different, if it's cutting,
> she's in need of psychological help, if it's shaving, most of us girls
> have tried it before we really need to. For the boys, there's a great
> episode of Leave It To Beaver that goes into this.
> Me, I wouldn't be so quick to punish. Sounds to me like she's got a lot
> going on that she isn't comfortable sharing with Daddy. Nothing wrong
> with that, so long as she isn't hurting herself, and so long as she has
> an appropriate adult or adults to share with.
> I also wouldn't punish for lying, sounds like you two are engaging in
> one way transmissions v. discussions, and that method clearly isn't
> working in this setup.
> Also, if she likes farms, I'd see if she can volunteer at one outside of
> this trip. Time outdoors with animals is wonderful in a variety of ways.
> She'll also meet people who can help guide her through her teen years.
> Me, I'd let her go, and work on getting some women in her life. Sounds
> to me like she needs that more then punishment.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org [mailto:blparent-bounces at nfbnet.org]
> On Behalf Of Gabe Vega
> Sent: Thursday, November 19, 2009 5:40 AM
> To: 'NFBnet Blind Parents Mailing List'
> Subject: [blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please
> Sensitivity: Confidential
>
> Background:
>
>
>
> My daughter has had a great interest is woman supplies even before
> needing
> them, she is 8.75 years old will be 9 in February. And she has been
> firmly
> told it isn't time, for razors, shaving, lotions, etc.
>
>
>
> Even before needing to ware bras I would catch her sneaking them from
> school
> from other little girls to ware them and be cool I guess. She now wares
> a
> double a so that isn't an issue anymore so it's this razor thing.
>
>
>
> A couple of days ago I found a razor cap on the bathroom floor. Being I
> don't shave I instantly walked up to her asking her where the razor was
> that
> I suspected she had and she very much denied even knowing of one's
> existences. I left it at that and we went on, although I always thought
> she
> was just lying and I find it sooner or later, I always do and she always
> gets caught.
>
>
>
> So, tonight looking in the medicine cabinet looking for something for my
> ear, I found the razor, it's a disposable razor just like the one
> matching
> the cap I found on the floor a couple of days ago.
>
>
>
> My problem:
>
> I always let my daughter know why she is being punished, and then I
> asking
> her to fully explain to me so I know she understands why she is being
> punished.
>
>
>
> Today she is scheduled to go to a field trip to a farm and she is really
> looking forward to it. Should I keep her home for a form of punishment?
> The
> entire school day is being spent at the farm so if I keep her home she
> would
> be only missing out on the farm. Or do you recommend any other forms of
> punishment.
>
>
>
> Please do understand we have talked, over and over and over about
> wanting to
> grow up too fast, it has nothing to do with her not knowing. Its her not
> listening, and lying about it when confronted with the evidence.
>
>
>
> Thanks
>
>
>
>
>
> Gabe Vega A+, Net+, ATACP
>
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>
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>
>
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