[blparent] Help before 7:30 Arizona Time Please

Fri Nov 20 01:08:07 UTC 2009

If she is able to wear a bra then she probably has hair growth too.
My grandmother who didn't shave waited far too long to teach me to shave. My
legs got that short fur like spider legs and since my hair was black it
really did stand out a lot. Of course your daughter has to learn to keep her
razor out of reach of younger children in the house but I have a hard time
envisioning anyone being able to commit suicide with the disposable razors
sold  for one or two uses. Razor blades could go a lot deeper into the skin
I don't recommend them. Electric razors are not dangerous at all though they
don't last long for me.

One way to encourage talk is to do more together. Making dinner, playing a
game, walking to and from school. It doesn't matter what it is if you can
talk about daily things then more difficult  subjects  are easier to
discuss. I have to schedule play time into my weeks or it doesn't happen.
Doing things with my boy  does make me feel better about our relationship
though sometimes he takes it to the other extreme and wants to do nothing
else but play games with myself and my husband. smile

I've been reading parenting books and they say that when  a child always
seems to be doing something bad the parent has to do two things. First,
Look for the good in the child and  notice the good. Second, adjust
expectations, recognize that 3 good things from child 1 may be just as much
of an accomplishment as ten good things from shild 2 because each kid is
different some kids naturally conform while others are independent.
I'm sure the books said this a lot better.  That book Did you fill a bucket
today discusses the same concept in more abstract terms. Good feelings make
both people feel good.   Bad feelings leave everyones bucket emptier.

Good luck. Most of us did grow up to be good adults despite our parents
struggles to make us perfect. LOL
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Background:

My daughter has had a great interest is woman supplies even before needing
them, she is 8.75 years old will be 9 in February. And she has been firmly
told it isn't time, for razors, shaving, lotions, etc.

Even before needing to ware bras I would catch her sneaking them from school
from other little girls to ware them and be cool I guess. She now wares a
double a so that isn't an issue anymore so it's this razor thing.

A couple of days ago I found a razor cap on the bathroom floor. Being I
don't shave I instantly walked up to her asking her where the razor was that
I suspected she had and she very much denied even knowing of one's
existences. I left it at that and we went on, although I always thought she
was just lying and I find it sooner or later, I always do and she always
gets caught.

So, tonight looking in the medicine cabinet looking for something for my
ear, I found the razor, it's a disposable razor just like the one matching
the cap I found on the floor a couple of days ago.

My problem:

I always let my daughter know why she is being punished, and then I asking
her to fully explain to me so I know she understands why she is being
punished.

Today she is scheduled to go to a field trip to a farm and she is really
looking forward to it. Should I keep her home for a form of punishment? The
entire school day is being spent at the farm so if I keep her home she would
be only missing out on the farm. Or do you recommend any other forms of
punishment.

Please do understand we have talked, over and over and over about wanting to
grow up too fast, it has nothing to do with her not knowing. Its her not
listening, and lying about it when confronted with the evidence.

Thanks

Gabe Vega A+, Net+, ATACP

The Tech of all Techs

(623) 565-9357

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